Grown adults getting upset over Facebook isn't normal.

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I know I'm not being unreasonable, 99% sure of it, but I'm losing my mind over the incredulous nature of this. I'm dumbstruck that this is an issue and need advice.

I had a falling out with a relative on my husband's side. I shared a meme about enjoying solitude and liking my own company and they thought it was targeted at them, I explained that it wasn't but they weren't having it. I ignored their behaviour because honestly I was baffled that a grown adult would read that into someone's post let alone accuse them of it to their face.

I subsequently placed that person on restricted to avoid future arguments. I don't like Facebook drama, or this sort of drama in general and have no time for it, so I did this to ensure it wouldn't happen again.

They have found out I've done this and gone bazerk. Calling me childish, rude, that I'm picking on them, that I hate them.

I really hate this sort of thing. Short of deleting my entire profile, which I don't see why I should have to do, I don't know how to resolve this without that person being offended.

Were they not a relative of my husband's I'd tell them to sod off. I've never met adults like this!

I find facebook a bit ridiculous these days, it's just full of middle-aged people posting stuff about their kids, or alcohol, or something else obtuse. Honestly, the best thing I ever did was delete my facebook account, half the people on there I really didn't care about and was only friends with them because I felt like I had to. My life is so much more enriched now that I can pick and choose who I can keep in contact with.

Thought I'd included them.

Honestly, that meme doesn't come across as you think it does. It looks like a passive aggressive dig and if you posted it having declined an invitation, it would have looked rude.

No, people shouldn't get upset about FB but people have all sorts of friendship dramas as adults, unfortunately. The whole of human society is run on gossip and fallings out and silly hurts it seems some days. I'd rather it wasn't but something always seems to be rumbling along in the background of life.

Far better to message this person and communicate the fact the meme genuinely had nothing to do with her and that you were just trying to generally express you like solitude. Clear the air over what has basically been a giant misunderstanding.

How do you deactivate facebook?
A facebook friend of mine has disappeared from my Friends list, and when I searched for them there were no results. Have they deactivated their account or have they blocked me?
We haven't argued or anything.

For the people saying why did I share it, because I thought it was funny. I share lots of stuff I think it funny. It's not to everyones taste which is why people can hide, unfriend or block me if they wish.

Now that sarcasm one is funny and clever (I might have to steal it) saying you don't like large groups is neither imo and is likely to offend someone who has recently invited you somewhere

Yes but your timing sounds like it was a bit tactless.

Ahh its posted them twice now. Bloody hell.

I deleted my FB account a while ago - very liberating. No more pictures of "perfect Sunday afternoons yada yada yada" to get wound up by. I don't miss it at all!

I enjoy my own company, and in fact I am not comfortable with large groups of people and would rather avoid that sort of thing, but I am sorry - that rather negative meme comes across as misanthropy rather than anything amusing / life affirming / quirky (or whatever you were aiming for)

If you posted that less than say a week after declining their invite to a party I can absolutely see them making that connection and being offended.

Also it doesn't portray what you initially claimed it did so you were misleading there.

Yes sometimes people take offence unnecessarily but I don't think that's the case here. I'm also getting a sense from your posts that you don't like this person anyway and could well welcome a reason to distance yourself from them.

I usually keep it to close friends. I only accepted this person because my husband said they'd get offended if I didn't.

I agree that it's weird grown adults get so upset about FB.

But that includes you too OP. Just delete them from your friend list and if they throw a hissy, they'll eventually get over it.

I don't know why people feel obliged to accept people on their just because they're family, neighbours or work colleagues.

I would have taken that personally if you had just declined my invitation. I am a pretty robust person and not in to drama. I probably wouldn’t have said anything though.

I'm loving the cat one want to be friends on Facebook? 😂😂 look if it had said a large group of friends is a piss off that's insulting but no thanks? Polite reasoned and inoffensive I think I know why people block my Facebook

Sorry, X posted.

Let them get offended. Don't let other people dictate how you run your social media accounts.

I don't dislike this individual. But I'm a bit annoyed that an adult has acted like this as it seems really childish to me.

The second lot you shared are a mixed bag (you can like company and sarcasm!) but the one your husband’s relative didn’t like isn’t similar - it’s a fairly unfunny one liner which I would connect if it was posted within a week of me inviting you to something.

Timing is everything.

As is your existing relationship with this person.

abbs I have more, I have a meme folder on my phone lol. Guess our sense of humour isn't universal

Timing of the FB comment was poor and it's a bit disingenuous to be surprised that people have taken offence. Still I expect you'll have the result you wanted - if I saw that FB post I'd make sure to not invite you to anything ever again, in fact I'd make an absolute point of it. Rude and poorly done - other memes were quite funny though

In fairness your meme is extremely childish and tactless in respect of your declining the invitation. Can you really not see that?

They totally overreacted but if someone I'd recently invited to something posted that after declining, I'd be a bit hurt too.

TBH if you had posted that meme after declining an invitation from me, I would think it was connected. I wouldn't have reacted as your relative did, but I'd be hurt.

^I completely agree. I too would think it was aimed at me.

How is it childish of me to share something that made me laugh when my entire Facebook is basically memes? If I never shared memes then I'd see it.

You may not have meant it that way but she took it that way. Can't you see how it could be seen that way? I'd have taken it that way as well.

Restricting Facebook access is like cutting someone off. No wonder she went mental at you.

YABVU.