To believe babies don't start STTN at 9 months?!

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my baby is 9 months old and has never slept through the night. The best sleep was at about 3 months, when he did some 6 hours stretches. After he turned 4 months that went back to two hours between wake ups and has been the same ever since. He is fine to go to sleep, has a very consistent bedtime, he just wakes up a million times a night with no improvement.

People seem to either say that their baby started sleeping through the night at a much younger age (3/4 months) or that they didn't sleep through until they were much older (18 months). There doesn't seem to be a middle ground!! My husband keeps saying our baby will sleep through soon.... Am I being unreasonable to just give up any hope of him ever sleeping through the night??!!

He sleeps in with us, as when he wakes up I just feed him and he (usually) then goes back to sleep. I'm feeling broken after so long without a decent stretch of sleep

DD1 slept through from 8 weeks, neither of us dared to go to her when we woke in the morning because we didn’t think she would be breathing.
DD2 slept through from the first night, the midwife who asked about her sleeping advised I should have woken her after 4 hours - as if I was going to do that!

My 1st ds was a nightmare slept in with me and hubby til he was 2 yr old he woke every 2 hours without fail and then we had our 2nd ds and then 3rd child dd and then 4th ds and by god they all slept through from about 4 months onwards i cried just through lack of sleep and a 3rd degree tear with my 1st but they are all different im afraid its just hanging in there it will come i promise

DS was 10 weeks when he was sleeping 9+ hours, 9pm - 6am. He quickly started doing 12+ soon after and that was that.

My DD is 4 and still doesn’t sleep through, my DS 1 slept through from the beginning and still sleeps through now

When DD was 6 weeks old I woke up a looked at DP to ask if he’d been up in the night to feed her as I hadn’t. He hadn’t. Big panic. Looked at her in the cot next to us just coming round.

That was it for night time waking. I used to set an alarm to get us up for her baby massage class. FOOL!

None of us are morning people

Some fool friend of DH's told him that babies slept through at 6 weeks.

DS 1 slept through when he hit about 14 pounds in weight. DS2 about the same. I can't recall what age they were, but there were both older than 6weeks.

My Dsis has a son aged 7 years. He has never slept through.

Turns out children and babies are as individual as other types of people.

My Dd slept 6.30-6.30 at 15 weeks. Ds came along and didn’t sleep until he was 3 and a half.

12 years old but he is asd, sorry!

My dd was about 1,
My ds was about 3 years !
Both Ebf
Both absolutely love their sleep now , but I was a sleep deprived maniac by the end of my ds 3 years
Good luck op , sadly no magic answer x

DC1 slept through at 10 months (after we did controlled crying method because I went back to work and couldn’t hack it any longer)
DC2 slept through at 11 months of her own accord - I had given up hope and it just happened
DC3 slept through from about 3/4 months and I don’t recall doing anything differently this time!
I don’t think it matters what you do because Im sure I did the same routines etc with all 3 and they were all so different!

My understanding is that when they’re breastfed to sleep and fall asleep on the boob, they’re more likely to cry when they wake up without the boob in their mouth :) so it’s worth expressing some milk for your partner to give in a bottle at bedtime (if you’ve not tried that already?) let your baby fall asleep with a full tummy but with nothing in his mouth, so that when he momentarily wakes up in the night (which is normal) he’ll be better able to soothe himself to sleep...good luck

9 month sleep regression is bad just when you thought you’d cracked it!

DS1 was about 9 months actually...he’s an amazing sleeper now at 5 and will sleep from 7pm to 6.30am without a peep. Falls asleep at bedtime within seconds (but never keeps still allllll day). DS 2 was a horror story and barely slept more than 45min stretches for about 14 months....quite a light sleeper still but we did discover cutting dairy from his diet helped immensely so I think he was suffering from stomach pains. DD1 turned 4 months yesterday....she’s always been a brilliant sleeper and hasn’t woken to be fed at night since 11 weeks! (I wouldn’t have believed this was possible unless I’d had one of my own). It will happen.....I don’t think there is anything you can do to get it to happen any faster unfortunately, I think it’s just something they do in their own time. But I also feel your pain of the sleep deprivation. That was an incredibly rough time when my middle child wouldn’t sleep. I was barely functioning!

DD slept through from around 8 weeks. The sleep regression at 9/10 months hit though and, where she would still sleep all night, she was a nightmare to actually get to sleep in the first place.

I’d drive around for hers to get her to fall over, cuddle her in bed, sing to her. Until 1 night I’d had enough, put her in her cot and left the room to breathe for a minute. She grumbled a bit, and by the time I went back in she was out like a light.

She’s nearly 4 now and sleeps like the dead. Nothing wakes her until she is ready to get up! She goes to bed at 7 and I don’t even try to wake her until she’s had 12 hours at least. I need to practically shout at her in the morning for nursery, she’s going to be a nightmare come school time.

Hang in there!

DD slept through at 9 weeks.. I think they all just do their own thing. It’s the luck of the draw....

My first slept through from 5 days old; we had to wake her for feeds. The first night we actually rang the maternity hospital, we were so worried.

"So you are panicking because your child is asleep. Is this your first baby?"

My first DD hardly slept at all would take hours to settle at night then only sleep for an hour and waide awake again.I remember vomiting with tiredness it was horrific.My second and third (Ds and then dd2) slept through the night from a few days old.They were much bigger babies and very placid.They would have a bottle at 11 pm and sleep through to 7/8am as well as napping during the day also .After the horror of my first experience it was a dream come true

Hi, I haven't read all the thread - but I was in a similar situation. My ebf girl was waking every 2 hours until about 13 months. We have managed to get an improvement, down to 1 or 2 times now (15 months. Still hard but better. We had to be firm about not feeding her every time she woke -especially the early wake ups where it was easier! Git my partner to put her down at 7 pm and do the first wake up. Then worked on the 11/12 pm one. Eventually she went longe and now it is a 4 am one

My first slept like a log from an early age. And still does as an adult! Second was awful, constantly waking at night. Only resolved when I moved him out of my room. Think we were waking eachother up. Or maybe it was his dad’s snoring!
And it is a long way off, but you will have the opposite problem once they’re teenagers - convincing them to wake up!
Good luck with it. Sleep deprivation is awful. But it will get better,

My eldest dd slept through at 12w.
Twins slept dd at 5months and ds at 8years!! (Can't get the lazy toad out of bed now he's a teenager though!)
Toddler dd is 2 and still doesn't. She'll go 8 to 3 at best. Then comes into me for a cuddle and goes back off until 6ish.

They get there in the end. I've given up worrying (or sleeping)

My daughter was 10 weeks, my son was 4 weeks.
Every baby is different

Both my children are EBF, My first DD slept through at 10 weeks - had taken a dummy and bottle of expressed milk at 6wks. Second baby - now 8m old refuses to sleep. Won’t take a bottle or dummy (I think that helps!), she was waking once at 8wks old and thought I had cracked it but gone downhill there. If she wakes 3 times then we’ve had a good night! Last night she was up for 2 hours solid (in addition to the other times) as refused to lie on her back but would be fast asleep in seconds on my arms! For what it’s worth, I don’t know if it’s anything to do with the time of year they were born but every 8-10m old at the moment does not sleep through - all little monkeys for us parents. I’m talking at least 10 babies - mostly EBF, all really bad sleepers so you’re not alone! Someone mentioned whether the hot summer had an impact - who knows?!

My older 2 were nightmare when babies, they didn't sleep through till they were over a year old and would wake 3-4 times a night but my youngest actually started sleeping through from around 8/9 weeks old. She is 13 months now and very rarely wakes in the night unless she is ill. I love the fact she does sleep through but usually in the morning I wished she had woke in the night so I could have changed her nappy as for the past month now, every morning she is soaking wet but I do think its the way she sleeps (on her front with her hands underneath her and pushing them down if that makes sense...)

DS is 16 months and has never once slept the whole night through. On a good night he goes down at 7:30, stays asleep until about 10:30, then again until about 4/5 then feeds to sleep in bed with me until 7/7:30. To be honest this is ok as it’s so much better than it has been.

When I was off on mat leave I felt like a shite mum because I was the only one in any of our baby groups whose baby wasn’t doing 7-7 reliably. It was only when I got back to work that I didn’t feel so inadequate as lots of colleagues told me their babies still weren’t sleeping through at DS’s age and beyond. I was nearly crying one day because our lovely faculty head, a Spanish professor who is very quiet and keeps himself to himself, told me his son hadn’t slept a full night until he was 3 and that DS sounded pretty normal to him! Interestingly enough, all these colleagues were male. I wonder if, past a certain age, some mothers don’t want to admit that their babies aren’t great sleepers for fear of being judged. I know I felt that it must be my fault because I was too soft/lazy/still breastfeeding etc.

My baby slept through the night at 4yeats old!!! You’re still in early days!