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After school detention - AIBU to say no

432 replies

Florasnotin · 01/02/2019 13:02

DD and DS missed the school bus this morning. Completely my fault, I took their phones from them last night and forgot to set the alarm. They caught the public bus and were 15 mins late.

They've both been given an after school detention on Monday.

AIBU to say no. Punishment doesn't really fit the crime and it wasn't even their fault. I've always stood by the school when it comes to discipline but this seems overly harsh

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MaisyPops · 06/02/2019 19:45

Human rights makes it BINGO!!!

School detentions don't break human rights.

Yawn. Grin

CurlyhairedAssassin · 06/02/2019 19:47

But it’s not arbitrary, you twonk!

Do fuck off to a country where they REALLY suffer from human rights issues and stop your bloody whinging!

BoneyBackJefferson · 06/02/2019 19:49

MaisyPops
Human rights makes it BINGO!!!

Yup.

My favourite is 'you can't send me out of the room for disrupting the learning of others because I have a right to an education'

backed up by the parents spouting the same BS as bluetree

GrammarTeacher · 06/02/2019 20:30

Surely Bluetree is a joke!

Bluelonerose · 06/02/2019 21:31

I think for being late once a detention is ott.
Surely schools know who the students are that are late EVERY day and it would be better tackling them

SaturdayNext · 06/02/2019 22:31

I am ultimately the best person to decide whether my DC deserves a punishment or what class she should be in

Bluetree, unless you are (a) an expert in the teaching of every subject in the school curriculum from nursery to year 13 level, (b) someone who has been sitting in class for every lesson to observe your children's understanding of and participation in the lesson, (c) someone who has seen and marked every piece of written work your child has done, then no, you aren't the best person to decide what class your child should be in.

Re your reference to the European Convention on Human Rights, there's a reason why there has been no published decision on the legality of school detentions in the UK in relation to the EHCR. And that is that no lawyer would be batshit enough to try to bring a challenge on that basis.

MaisyPops · 06/02/2019 23:23

Bluelonerose
In a school like mine it would be ridiculous.

In a school like one of my previous schools then it was needed because there was a massive punctuality and attendance issue (funnily enough with a high proportion of parents who liked to try to bully staff, decide their children shouldn't be sanctioned etc).

Context is everything.

Whilst personally, I wouldn't go for detention for one late mark, I understand that school improvement and leadership requires more strategic oversight than just what my opinion is (and that's the same for other rules that I may not personally choose, may have been vocal to SLT about my views etc).
Sadly some people, staff and parents, either can't see that or don't want to. As a result they spend their lives fighting bizarre little battles they've created with limited practical awareness of how things operate.

Usual disclaimer- where schools need to be held to account then they should and where parents want to question and challenge schools then they should in a reasonable and proportionate way.

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