Cancelling plans because of a cold pathetic?

[sallybeer]

Had plans to go to the theatre tonight with my friend (both 31)
She texts me this morning cancelling as she is full of cold.
All day on Facebook it's been
"Poorly bad in bed ill with cold"
"Came to mums for her to look after me"
She has 3 kids too so it's not like she's not used to a few germs.
I mean I can understand the flu or sickness bug but a snotty nose? And a sore throat.

YABU OP
Colds come in all shapes and sizes and affect people different ways.
My last cold floored me.

Gosh OP I’m glad you’re not my friend!

YABVU.

A cold is a virus and comes in varying degrees. Last week my husband had the onset of a cold with such a bad fever he was unable to talk coherently. Colds floor me.

She's always like this tho.
Tomorrow the 24hour cold will have vanished.
Every other week she has something then boom a day later it's vanished.

Not necessarily pathetic at all. Colds can make me pretty ill. They usually settle on my chest and cause a cough that can go on for weeks.

They aren't a major illness in themselves, but can make many people feel very grotty and can be dangerous to those with some other medical conditions.

So, I think that on balance you are being unreasonable.

If she's bunged up, shivering, coughing and sneezing it's not going to be a pleasant experience for her if she goes. Or for the other theatre goers who would have to sit listening to her snuffling. Not to mention passing it on to people there too.

Depends on the severity of the cold and the age of the kids. If she’s really suffering and not had any downtime to rest because the kids are around, she may be craving bedtime to collapse and recover. Or she may just be a flake!

You sound miserable.

Are you still going to the threatre?

Best that she stays in and doesn't spread her germs around a theatre IMO! YABU.

Go to the theatre alone or with someone else, it'll be nice. She's the one missing out.

YABU. Colds come in different shapes and sizes, sometimes it is only a thickly throat and a sniffle, but a heavy cold for the first couple of days can be really shit. Nose dripping like a tap, throat feels like you're swallowing razor blades, banging head, aching. I would definitely cancel plans if I had a really bad cold.

YABU. I had a cold last week and I was sneezing and blowing my nose probably 10 times an hour. I'd be seriously fucked off if I had to sit in a theatre audience next to someone doing that having spent £50 on a ticket.

But can you imagine being stuck next to someone in a theatre who's constantly sniffing & coughing? Half of you would be wanting to go 'will you shut the up!' and the other half would cursing that you might get infected.

Anyone who uses the phrase “poorly bad” is automatically marked down as pathetic in my book.

YABU - the cold I have right now is vile. I’ve achieved nothing except school runs all week because it’s wiped me out so I’m shattered. My nose is red raw from the wiping/snot and I just want to sleep. No way I’m going anywhere until it’s settled.

Besides, who wants to sit next to somebody with a raging cold in a theatre?

She's just snap chatted a pic of McDonald's Big Mac so cant be that bad.
Yeah I'm still going

We all know someone like that, it doesn't mean they won't get an actual cold eventually though.

Next time she makes arrangements ask her is she going to stick to them or is she going to be 'poorly bad' just to see what happens. She might think twice about pulling a sickie if you've called her on it in advance.

Depends on the cold really. I have had a cold for the past 12 days, started innocently enough with a runny nose and feeling a bit yuk, went out for dinner and drinks the second day, third day I was in bed with a fever of about 103F, took about 5 days for feeling almost normal to return and I’m still choked. So, depends really...

OP are you my friend?! I cancelled the theatre last night because of a cold. I really wanted to see the play but I'm so glad I didn't go, I would have felt dreadful and I don't think anyone would have wanted to sit next to me in my snotty coughing state for 2 hours!

What would you rather?
"Can't go, not well"
Or
"Can't be arsed to go with you, you're judgemental and make posts about me on Mumsnet"

Some colds are actually really bad but don't necessarily last long. Depends on the immune system.

Ya know with 3 kids and home sick, your friend is probably on MN.

Tbh over the last year she's had that many "illness" she probably thinks she has Ebola

I suspect OP that you are the kind of the person who calls a bad cold, the flu. A bad cold is much more than just a runny nose. You can feel really pretty ill.

A bad cold is a cold.
The flu you can't lift your head off the pillow.
Big difference

I can’t stand people who attend events like a theatre show when they are full of an infectious illness and coughing and sneezing all over the place. Pure selfishness. I think she made the right call by pulling out but the social media updates do sound a bit irritating. Can’t you unfollow if it bothers you so much?

If I was in the seat beside hers, I’d be delighted she didn’t come. Regardless of how ill she is (or not) I’d be glad not to be forced to share her germs.