Cancelling plans because of a cold pathetic?

[sallybeer]

Had plans to go to the theatre tonight with my friend (both 31)
She texts me this morning cancelling as she is full of cold.
All day on Facebook it's been
"Poorly bad in bed ill with cold"
"Came to mums for her to look after me"
She has 3 kids too so it's not like she's not used to a few germs.
I mean I can understand the flu or sickness bug but a snotty nose? And a sore throat.

YABsoU.

I'm on second week of a bastard cold that won't let up. Constant coughing and a sore throat to the point that I literally have no voice.

I had to cancel weekend break last week. My friends said they understood, I'd hate to think they were judging the way you are.

Besides, she's being considerate of fellow theatre-goers, if nothing else. Sitting in an audience with someone coughing and sneezing is enough for me to want to put my fist through a wall. She did the right thing.

I wish all the fuckers who've passed their disgusting germs to me over the last couple of months had stayed at home.

I'm pregnant, can't take anything, can't exactly quarantine myself, and I'm on round 3 of razor blade throat, streaming cold, face ache, shivers, sweats, aches and sneezing. Because ill people don't bloody stay at home instead of spreading the horror around. I felt so shit earlier I couldn't even sit up, it's just a cold but it's levelled me, and I'd be livid if I had tickets to the theatre and some bastard sat next to me coughing and spluttering.

I'm pretty pissed off, apologies for the rage, but a lot of people have had several "colds" this winter which linger for weeks and it's not helped by the martyrs who insist on dragging themselves on unnecessary outings where they risk infecting innocent members of the public.

(She shouldn't be in bloody macdonalds either!)

are the theatre tickets already paid for? if so I would have to be feeling pretty shitty to lose a £30+ ticket, give her the benefit of the doubt.

You're horrible OP. I wish she could see this thread and see what kind of person you really are .

I have a cold atm. It started yesterday morning and has gotten gradually worse. I could barely get out of bed this morning so DH had to miss his morning classes at uni to look after DD so I could stay in bed. When I get bad colds, I always get nauseous and vomity too, worse when I'm talking, or moving around, which is really quite debilitating and not conducive to doing much at all. I wouldn't necessarily tell somebody that I'm being sick though as for me that's just part and parcel of having a bad cold as it always happens to me. Also because people like you are so harsh, people start insisting they have 'flu' when they blatantly don't, because people like you won't take them seriously if they say they have a cold! I get way more annoyed about everyone claiming they have flu when they clearly don't .

If she keeps doing this - cancelling on you - then maybe she doesn't like you.

Oh and yeah YABU!

Tomorrow the 24hour cold will have vanished.

That is the nature of a 24 hour illness. In her defense, there aren't many worse places to be with a stinking cold than the theatre - all those people sitting closely together and trying to stifle coughs and sneezes so you don't disturb the performers.

You think she's unreliable and a liar, so stop making plans to do things with her.

Slagging her off for eating a macdonalds.... jeeeez.

People with colds ARE allowed to eat you know!

The snap chat would piss me off. I could understand a friend, who is genuinely often ill. I’m chronically ill so a cold could floor me.

YABU

I can never understand when people claim to be ''full of a cold'' yet they're still capable of doing non-essential things such as socialising, going out for a meal etc.

Whenever I have a cold it literally floors me... utter exhaustion and fatigue, joint pain, muscle pain, headache, stomach ache, back ache, even my hair hurts!

Bloody hell, I am glad you're not my friend. I started with a cold mid-December, was off work sick for a few days because I could barely move, was ill all over Christmas, and I STILL have it almost seven weeks on. It's mutated into a sinus infection, and I'm on antibiotics and a steroid nasal spray. The GP said to me last week that people are being floored by this year's viruses. There is no way I could have gone to the theatre when it was at its peak.

YABU. People who go to the theatre with coughs and colds are selfish. Nobody wants to hear them sniffing and hacking over the dialogue. She's done the right thing by not putting the rest of the audience through it. You will enjoy the play more without someone who is not comfortable being there.

Why can't she eat a Big Mac if she has a cold?

You should be on punishment rations for being so pathetic.

@AnneLovesGilbert I could not agree more! I'm 38 weeks pregnant and my FIL thought it a good idea to turn up at mine uninvited with a 'stinking cold'. I've been in bed for 6 days feeling horrendous and am beyond angry at his stupidity!
Cold viruses can be pretty nasty and I'd happily not see a friend of family member for a week or so if it meant not feeling like I've felt this past week!

I only go out when necessary when I have a cold. No point spreading germs about when it can be avoided. Perhaps she doesn't think its worth going out with you when feeling ill because of your lack of empathy

I don't think she is unreasonable to not want to go to the theatre with a cold. I do think she is unreasonable for using the phrase poorly bad.

A bad cold is a cold
The flu you can't lift your head off the pillow
Big difference
Thanks for the medical explanation.
However a cold whether it's bad it otherwise can still knock you sideways especially if you still have to stick to your routine for mist if the day.
It's best to rest if you are feeling off colour.

If you are saying this friend is unreliable just make casual plans for coffee or thingd that dont mTter if they fall through.

heck some nasty / harsh replies op ! it's good that she's not going due to her cold and spreading it around. but it's not good if she makes regular excuses - was fine yesterday, 'i'm on my death bed today' and tomorrow up and running - i would be a pissed off in your shoes.
as for the big mac, unless she was eating in the restaurant [not that ill then] i'd let this so called friendship die the death tbh.

If you're still going OP then why do you care?

And why are you friends with her when you clearly don't like her?

I was horribly unwell with my last cold and my coughing and grunty attempts to breathe would have been as unwelcome as the germs I would have been sharing, in a theatre.

YABU. My friend was annoyed when I cancelled plans (dinner so not even nothing major) when I had a really bad cold that was so bad I couldn't work for 4 days. Could barely eat or keep awake. If that's what your friend is like I doubt she'd be comfortable sitting through a play. She's actually no longer my friend now, I dumped her as couldn't be friends with someone who cares more about her dinner than a friends health!

I wouldn't want to go to the theatre full of cold. I'd be worried about stifling coughing up phlem! Give her a break, she's ill.

i could murder a Big Mac