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Cancelling plans because of a cold pathetic?

164 replies

sallybeer · 30/01/2019 15:26

Had plans to go to the theatre tonight with my friend (both 31)
She texts me this morning cancelling as she is full of cold.
All day on Facebook it's been
"Poorly bad in bed ill with cold"
"Came to mums for her to look after me"
She has 3 kids too so it's not like she's not used to a few germs.
I mean I can understand the flu or sickness bug but a snotty nose? And a sore throat.

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sallybeer · 30/01/2019 16:52

I dislke being took for a fool.

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EduCated · 30/01/2019 16:53

Doesn't mind sitting in McDonald's tho.

Then I guess she just doesn’t like you.

U2HasTheEdge · 30/01/2019 16:53

I don't think for a minute your friend has the flu.

On MN people often say that if you can go online and type it isn't the flu. I have cared for people in hospital with the flu who could manage it. Like colds, flu can affect people differently and the myth that someone doesn't have the flu if they can bend to pick up £50 or pick their head up enough to look at their phone is just that, a myth.

OllyBJolly · 30/01/2019 16:54

Nothing worse than sitting next to someone sniffing, sneezing and coughing in a theatre.....

NutElla5x · 30/01/2019 16:54

Tbh over the last year she's had that many "illness" she probably thinks she has Ebola

That made me laugh a little bit I must admit. But I'm wondering if she gets ill a lot in general or if it's specifically when the two of you have plans,because you do come across as some one who won't take no for an answer.so I'm thinking she just finds it easier to meekly agree to go out with you when she doesn't really want to and then make excuses later.

HazelBite · 30/01/2019 16:55

Last time I went to the theatre a couple of months ago I sat next to a couple that coughed,sniffed, blew their noses (loudly) sucked Tunes and generally rearranged their snot throughout the whole performance, and yes about three to four days later I went down with it!

paintinmyhairAgain · 30/01/2019 16:55

you dodged a bullet op, enjoy your evening and leave her be, i'd hate this sort of excuse too, it's pathetic, just say you don't want to go,no need to drama it out or lie.

EduCated · 30/01/2019 16:58

Although maybe McDonalds is a quick and easy way to feed the kids when you feel like shit, the people around her haven’t paid lots of money to be there and won’t be distracted by her sniffing, and most people are probably more willing to sit in McD’s feeling and looking rough than they are having to sit ‘to attention’ and generally making a bit of an effort at the theatre.

Why do you think she has cancelled, if you think she’s lying?

WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 30/01/2019 17:00

So if you know why she's not going, and it's not her cold, what was the point in your post?

icannotremember · 30/01/2019 17:00

If she is making excuses I can sort of see why, you don't sound like someone who'd make it easy to just say "no thanks I don't want to"- although I get this is a thread you've made because you're pissed off and you're probably going to sound grumpier on here than you do the rest of the time!

jacksonmaine · 30/01/2019 17:01

Reverse?

Rachelle3211 · 30/01/2019 17:04

Taking your kids to Mcdonalds when sick is bloody brilliant. Kids are happy and she doesn't have to cook or clean up.

StroppyWoman · 30/01/2019 17:11

I bet everyone in the theatre would rather she stayed home.

adaline · 30/01/2019 17:13

Why are you friends with her if you dislike her so much?

I don't blame her for making excuses though, your attitude is pretty unpleasant.

OutPinked · 30/01/2019 17:14

A bad cold is really shit so YABU. She wouldn’t get much enjoyment from the theatre trip. Go alone or with someone else.

ShadyLady53 · 30/01/2019 17:15

So you think it's perfectly acceptable for other theatre goers and the cast members of the show to have to put up with their night being ruined due to someone sneezing and coughing their way through the show and potentially becoming ill themselves in a few days? Just so long as you're ok eh?

And I agree with others, maybe she doesn't feel well enough to cook. A Big Mac is soft and easy to eat for someone with a scratchy throat.

twattymctwatterson · 30/01/2019 17:16

You sound dreadful

Birdsgottafly · 30/01/2019 17:18

I was seriously il in hospital and my DP at the time used to bring me on, pasties, fish finger butties and anyother 'dirty' food I wanted. My body craved fat.

I was allowed home during the day, of a weekend. At the end of my stay I went over the road from the hospital to the pub and had a WKD.

I've been floored by a cold virus, but did 12 hour shifts with pneumonia, until it nearly killed me.

If you think it's excuse making, fair enough, but a trip to fill up on fatty food is very different than sitting in a theatre trying to watch something.

Do you tell her how disappointed you are?

NannyRed · 30/01/2019 17:19

It would be no fun for your friend, you or the people around you if your ill friend had attended the theatre. Coughing, sniffing, mouth breathing and having to keep blowing her nose all whilst having a headache or sinus pain. She’s better off at home.

I hope you can find someone to join you at the last minute, have a nice evening.

newnameforthis7 · 30/01/2019 17:19

You really dislike this lass don't you @sallybeer ?

She probably ISN'T that poorly. She is probably just bailing on you because she is trying to ghost you. From the way you have been slagging her off and speaking about her on this thread, I wouldn't blame her.

Birdsgottafly · 30/01/2019 17:19

Just to add, I happily go alone to the Theatre. Its one place that no-one knows if you are by yourself.

DameSquashalot · 30/01/2019 17:22

I had a terrible cold last year. It felt as bad as when I had flu. I cancelled something I had been looking forward to for MONTHS that was only running for a limited time. It does happen.

WhereYouLeftIt · 30/01/2019 17:23

Maybe she likes the attention paid to her when she is sick. Or maybe by coddling herself at the start she ensures it does only last 24 hours. It's a 50:50 call for me.

And I love the theatre! But personally, I wouldn't attend if I were full of the cold. Sitting there coughing, sneezing and sniffing, I'd be a delight to sit next to (not). Nor would I enjoy it as much.

However, you also said:

"I know the reason she cancelled tonight and it's nothing to do with a runny nose."

So - what is the reason?

werideatdawn · 30/01/2019 17:23

I don't think I'd want to go to the cinema with you either... I get it's annoying but you're a bit much.

LittleMe03 · 30/01/2019 17:24

Maybe she isn't feeling dreadful to the point where she is unable to go out or do anything but is just feeling rough and doesn't want to get ready and go out this evening and wants a night in her pjs and dressing gown on the sofa 🤷🏼‍♀️

I would be pissed off if that excuse came half an hour before you were due to go but she hasn't done that. I would be disappointed but if you're still going yourself then it's not as thou you are missing out. Not as thou you'd be sat chatting with her in the theatre anyway

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