Cancelling plans because of a cold pathetic?

[sallybeer]

Had plans to go to the theatre tonight with my friend (both 31)
She texts me this morning cancelling as she is full of cold.
All day on Facebook it's been
"Poorly bad in bed ill with cold"
"Came to mums for her to look after me"
She has 3 kids too so it's not like she's not used to a few germs.
I mean I can understand the flu or sickness bug but a snotty nose? And a sore throat.

I once met up with a friend when had a cold. I then got a cold and it absolutely ruined my week including several events that were important to me. I really, really resented her. Your friend did the right thing.

In your friends case I can understand your frustration.
But have you ever suffer from cold? As you said bad cold is a cold.
I still have a cold from last week, still not feeling well, I m not as bad I was but last week (yes whole week) was completely written off. And it's not just sniffles, or a bit of side throat,.

And would you like sit in the theatre next to someone that is constantly sniffling, coughing?? And it's that all what you can hear instead of the actors?? I don't think so...

Hope the theatre was good. Your friend should still be paying for her ticket. You shouldn't be out of pocket just because she couldn't go after all.

I've woken up with a mild cold today.
It won't stop me getting up, getting daughter to school, getting what needs doing done.
But there ain't no way I'd be sitting in a loud theatre with hundreds of other people.
It wouldn't be good for my heart ache, it wouldn't be good for others would me and I wouldn't be able to enjoy the night out.

heart ache = Head Ache.

She's probably worked out you're a bitch and doing this deliberately to piss you off.

This thread would have been so very different if you'd just been truthful from the start as this has fuck all to do with a cold. And you know it. Your clearly aren't new to MN because you mention drip feeding, and yet this is your first posting under the name. I can't see why you'd name change for this. Oh wait a minute...

Move along people, nothing to see here

@Shatnerswig am I just thick, why would she post under a new name and what does it really have to do with?

She was giving me the cash tonight ..obviously now she's not going she isn't paying me
That's why I'm annoyed

Now if you had based your post on that the thread would have been different.

She needs to pay you the money back and don't pay upfront for stuff again.

Putting aside the discussion about what does and doesn't constitute being truly ill, and whether or not it's a good enough excuse not to go out...OP chalk it up to experience. If you don't think this friend will pay you for a ticket - don't invite or go with them to the theatre etc. in future.

Look - she just doesn’t like you that much. Sorry OP. You’re coming across as pretty awful on this thread so I’m not too surprised. With friends who are as heartless as you are - no one would ever need enemies.

The thing is, you said you know the real reason she’s cancelled the plans (but won’t tell us). So she hasnt cancelled the plans because of a cold, has she? Therefore the thread is based on something that hasn’t even happened.

I would still ask her for, and expect her to give you, the money.
Not your fault she's not going, and might make her think twice next time.
You shouldn't have to pay for her flakiness. It's her ticket, whether or not she uses it, and I wouldn't drop it til she pays up.

Just send her a text saying: "Sorry, you're feeling unwell and won't be able to make it tonight. As you know, I've already paid for your ticket and am unable to get a refund, please can you transfer the full ticket price into my account" & give her the details to do so.

Actually it's very common to be ravenously hungry when you have a cold. I can't stop eating when I have one.

Colds make me feel absolutely awful. No way would I sit through a show.

You're being vvu and unpleasant.

That's me today OP.

Woke up with massive head cold and lethargic. I'm asthmatic and my head colds turn into chest infections fast.

I was counting down the hours until hubby came home to look after our 7 month old and 2.1 year old.

I too had plans with a friend, but for Saturday, I cancelled.

1. Because I didn't want to give my friend my head cold.

1. I can barely function, how in blazes was I going to be able to safely drive. Rest is best in these circumstances.

I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it OP if she gave her illness to you.