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Newborn and custard

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MrsXx4 · 29/01/2019 20:52

Mainly posting here for traffic because I really don’t think I am being at all unreasonable!! I am fuming! I left my 5 week old baby in my husbands ‘capable’ hands for 2 minutes while I went to hang some washing up and when I came downstairs husband was feeding him custard (an M&S microwave custard - not baby food) from his finger! Letting baby suck it from his finger!

I am so angry but do I also need to worry about baby? Husband has got angry saying I have over reacted in being so mad! Baby was sleeping on me a second ago as I took him off of husband but now he has taken him off me and baby is screaming!!

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kaytee87 · 29/01/2019 20:54

How much did he give the baby? I'd be really annoyed too op but if it was only a little bit then I'm sure the baby will be fine.

What do you mean he took the baby off you?

Has he read up on recommended weaning age and first foods?

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 20:56

WTF? Did he go to parenting classes? Read any books?

littlecabbage · 29/01/2019 20:56

It won't do your baby any long term harm, but I would be annoyed too as (a) I'd want to be there when my baby first tried food, and (b) custard is quite sugary and therefore not appropriate for a baby.

MrsMcW · 29/01/2019 20:58

I think you are overreacting. No, it's not good to have fed him custard, but a tiny bit won't hurt him. However, freaking out that your baby sucked it off your husband's finger is crazy. Do you never use your pinkie as a pacifier? Why should your husband's be any different?

I think you are probably super tired, a bit hormonal and at the end of your tether (all totally understandably!). Breathe, have a cup of tea and you'll look back on this and laugh later.

Abcdefghii · 29/01/2019 20:59

YANBU it was a thoughtless thing to have done, but don't worry about it hurting baby as a dab off the end of his finger won't cause him to get poorly

Foodylicious · 29/01/2019 20:59

5 weeks old?!!!

No idea if it would do any harm or not.
I would be calling 111

Huggingslothsallday · 29/01/2019 20:59

Please make sure he doesn’t do things like this again. A babies digestive system is still developing and things like too much salt can kill a baby. So if he’s feeding her things always when your back is turned God only knows what he’s feeding her! 🤦‍♀️

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 21:00

MrsMcW it’s a normal reaction to freak out! It’s nature at work and hopefully will stop the stupid man giving a five week old anything else he shouldn’t.

Foodylicious · 29/01/2019 21:00

Do you know if it as just a dab?
Or had he been feeding it to him for a while?

Redskyandrainbows67 · 29/01/2019 21:01

You are not over reacting

Tell your health visitor

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 21:01

Apart from anything, it could put the baby off feeding.

Such a stupid thing to do.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 29/01/2019 21:01

I think your HV needs to have a word with him...

whatsnewchoochoo · 29/01/2019 21:02

Why has he taken the baby from you? This concerns me

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MrsXx4 · 29/01/2019 21:02

I wasn’t there so didn’t see exactly how much and I got so angry he knew he did wrong so told me it was a pin prick of custard but when I had originally walked into the kitchen he was looking all pleased with himself saying ‘baby likes custard he has had some from my finger!’

And yes, I’m also hurt that he would give our baby food without even thinking that I may want to be there when the time is right obviously!

We went to all of our NCT classes which is why I am so bloody mad!!

I also feel like my pure little milky baby is now ruined with sugary crap that he isn’t even ready for or does he need!!

He took the baby off of me as he said he hasn’t seen him all day and he said I was making him feel bad by sitting cuddling him!

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Bringbackthestripes · 29/01/2019 21:03

Your Husband is an idiot. You did not over react.
Fat and sugar-not a great diet for a 5 week old. I’m sure the baby didn’t have enough to cause any harm but if thinks that’s acceptable I would be terrified of ever leaving the baby alone with him again. Him taking the baby off you is also out of order. Is he in the habit of being dominating and trying to show you who’s boss?

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 21:03

“Giving your baby food as well as milk at eight weeks may harm her health. At eight weeks, your baby's tummy, guts and kidneys haven't matured enough to cope with food.

There's also a chance that she'll have a bad reaction to food, because her immune system isn't strong enough to deal with new substances in her body. Cereal contains gluten, which can be harmful for a baby under six months.”

www.babycentre.co.uk/x3534/should-we-give-our-hungry-eight-week-old-baby-solids

kaytee87 · 29/01/2019 21:03

He took the baby off of me as he said he hasn’t seen him all day and he said I was making him feel bad by sitting cuddling him!

Hmm i don't like the sound of that op.

ItsMEhooray · 29/01/2019 21:04

Oh god this has brought back flashbacks of when I caught DH making bottles for DS without levelling off the measuring scoop Shock I went MENTAL.

It'll be alright though don't panic

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MrsXx4 · 29/01/2019 21:04

I’m not freaking out about him sucking it from a finger I’m concerned what was on the finger!! He is 5 weeks old! He does not need custard!!

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Purpleartichoke · 29/01/2019 21:04

Not only is it bad for the baby, it is disrespectful to all the hard work you are doing to nourish your child.

CreakyBlinder · 29/01/2019 21:05

Phone 111 Hmm As if!!!

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 21:05

I agree with Myimaginarycathasfleas. Get someone to have a word in case he keeps doing it in secret.

darceybussell · 29/01/2019 21:11

I don't think it will do him any harm to have licked a tiny bit of custard, stop worrying. They can have lots of other things at that age - gripe water, infacol etc. No it's not an ideal food for a baby but he didn't give him a big spoonful, he just let him have a taste!

LettuceP · 29/01/2019 21:12

Tiny bit of custard won't do him any harm. Sorry but I would probably laugh, I'd point out that it's a stupid thing to do and tell him not to do it again but I'd still laugh.

CallMeVito · 29/01/2019 21:15

It's an absolute idiot, I would be fuming too.

That said, he has as much right as you do to cuddle the baby, you are equal parents, but he's an absolute idiot.