Newborn and custard

[MrsXx4]

Mainly posting here for traffic because I really don’t think I am being at all unreasonable!! I am fuming! I left my 5 week old baby in my husbands ‘capable’ hands for 2 minutes while I went to hang some washing up and when I came downstairs husband was feeding him custard (an M&S microwave custard - not baby food) from his finger! Letting baby suck it from his finger!

I am so angry but do I also need to worry about baby? Husband has got angry saying I have over reacted in being so mad! Baby was sleeping on me a second ago as I took him off of husband but now he has taken him off me and baby is screaming!!

I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that this is your first baby...?

Do not call 111. There is nothing here for them to do but you will provide your call handler will a funny story to tell next time someone asks them "what's the most nutty call you've ever had?"

Your "pure little milky baby" ( ) is ruined. He's the same baby he was before. He's not tainted or spoiled.

Be annoyed at your husband by all means but in all likelihood it was the smallest little dot of custard. I doubt he's been secretly feeding the baby this whole time or that he'll continue to secretly feed the baby, if he was doing this why would he have told you about it in the first place?

To put it in perspective, it was a titchy bit of custard not dogshit. It's not a diet of sugar and fat, it was a titchy bit of custard. It hasn't ruined the baby, it was a titchy bit of custard.

Tell your husband he's been a dick and not to do it again then move on, you'll laugh about this one day (probably when your DC1 force-feeds 6wk old DC2 a Hula Hoop while your back is turned).

It was a it was a stupid thing for him to do and I do understand why you're annoyed at him you're blowing it out of proportion.

The amount of sugar in a dab of custard is not going to do your baby any harm and your baby is definitely not ruined ( although I need to be a bit mean and say that gave me a good laugh )

Sorry but 😂 at calling 111.
Yes its not great and he's an idiot but its highly unlikely do do any long term harm.

When my son was about 12 weeks, DH came home from work and announced that it was time to give up bf and give DS formula and rice in his bottle before bed “to make him sleep through”.

You can imagine my reaction.

Of course it turned out someone at work with a similar aged baby had their daughter sleeping though with this method advised by the mother in law.

At 6 months their baby was considered overweight. At 12 months they are still overweight and have had many gastro problems.

(DH apologised at the 6 month mark.)

For those saying it’s nothing, would you still say that if he was doing it Day after day? How on earth do you think he would stop if op said nothing?

For those saying it’s nothing, would you still say that if he was doing it Day after day?

But he's not doing it day after day. He's done it once, the amount given has been negligible, OP has told him not to do it again, end of story. The frothing about it is way OTT.

It's not ideal but don't get it out of proportion, mine were putting their fingers into food very young, grabbing at mash potatoes for instance, at 12 weeks dh fed dd McDonald's fries - she's absolutely fine btw, fully grown up.

my (usually amazing) grandma did this to my daughter when she was around 3 months. was obsessed with "giving her a taste" of jams and custard and cream items, simply because thats what they used to do 60 years ago. One day she got her way when i left the table for 20 seconds, then laughed it off. I went nuts. looking back much worse has happened and its really not that big a deal (although she should have listened to me)

It won't harm your baby. And I'm sure your dh didn't have any ulterior motive when he did it, he wasn't trying to steal your first moments. And it's fine for him to want a turn of cuddling. It would be worse if he never did.

The first thing my youngest ever ate aged about 6 weeks was ice cream fed to him off his big brother's grubby finger. Big brother was so proud of himself for having fed the baby, I wasn't so impressed.

EwItsAHooman I think the poster’s point is if op hadn’t reacted like that he may well have kept doing it day after day

I'd castrate him and then ltb

Phone 111? 😂😂😂😂😂

When my ds was a baby he was admitted to hospital. The woman in the next bay was there because her husband had fed her newborn jam from his little finger. Baby and mother were kept in over night.

Stop playing pass the parcel with the baby. That's more detrimental long-term than a lick of custard. Hopefully you are both just sleep deprived and grumpy. If it's more than that then you need to think about how you both work together rather than point scoring over who gets to hold the baby.

I think the poster’s point is if op hadn’t reacted like that he may well have kept doing it day after day

Again, I doubt it.

He's getting a custard while holding the baby, a bit gets on his finger when he opens it, he thinks "I wonder what the baby would make of this?" and sticks his finger in the baby's mouth or the baby starts grizzling and he automatically sticks his custardy finger in the baby's mouth without thinking and then thinks it's funny that the baby loved it. There is nothing in the OP's posts to suggest that the DH has fed the baby before or is planning to again. It's a one off and there's no point getting uptight about what "might have" happened.

GinandGingerBeer I can believe it. The diarrhoea it could cause could cause dehydration for a start.

Omg, what a dick. Your baby should be fine though. I was ever so precious about my first baby and her "virgin gut" and frankly by the time the second one came along I was a bit more realistic about the whole thing.

I thought you had invented a new pudding!

It'll do no harm as a one off, he's probably gotten the message not to do it again.

EwItsAHooman What the fuck? You just made that all up.

percheron67 😂😂😂😂😂

He was a dick. But out of love not nastiness.

You were also a sick by going postal at him.

Try talking to each other and explaining to him why is bad for baby.

Yes I would be absolutely livid. I wouldn’t even give custard to my 7 month old.

@PIFilm I think the poster’s point is if op hadn’t reacted like that he may well have kept doing it day after day

Or she could have had a calm discussion with him, explained why it isn't a good idea and moved on.

Sorry, but I'm another who thinks you over-reacted. My eldest, now 21, started on solids at 10 weeks on doctor's advice (he was a ravenous child). That was 2 weeks early in those days. Obviously, advice has changed but for most children, early weaning didn't cause any problems. Children's physiology hasn't changed that much in the intervening 21 years. It's not ideal but a small amount won't cause any problems.

And I say this as someone whose pfb didn't get any sugary food until 18 months (don't ask when the 3rd child got it ).

My now exh decided ds( August born) would enjoy sucking on a cut grape..
Cue me slapping the back of a choking newborn..
Fucking idiot.