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Newborn and custard

409 replies

MrsXx4 · 29/01/2019 20:52

Mainly posting here for traffic because I really don’t think I am being at all unreasonable!! I am fuming! I left my 5 week old baby in my husbands ‘capable’ hands for 2 minutes while I went to hang some washing up and when I came downstairs husband was feeding him custard (an M&S microwave custard - not baby food) from his finger! Letting baby suck it from his finger!

I am so angry but do I also need to worry about baby? Husband has got angry saying I have over reacted in being so mad! Baby was sleeping on me a second ago as I took him off of husband but now he has taken him off me and baby is screaming!!

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Mamaat50 · 29/01/2019 22:44

Snuffalo Why are you targeting me with your shit?

2ellenor2 · 29/01/2019 22:44

@Snuffalo

I have to agree with you, what a creepy comment to make!!

WatcherintheRye · 29/01/2019 22:46

I think Magenta's deadpan delivery has gone over the heads of some people! Grin

SherbertMelon · 29/01/2019 22:46

My DTs had sugar water off nurses glove in hospital at few days old

Yes that triggers my memory as well! GP told me brown sugar and water to treat constipation at a couple of weeks old.

EwItsAHooman · 29/01/2019 22:47

Same here with the sugar water for constipation! GP said he could give a prescription for lactulose or I could just put some sugar water in a bottle as it was essentially the same thing.

MrsMcW · 29/01/2019 22:49

@Magenta46 best attitude so far Grin

Klopptimist · 29/01/2019 22:54

I also feel like my pure little milky baby is now ruined with sugary crap

Ruined? FFS, get a grip. There are babies out there who really have been ruined and by far worse than a little dab of custard. Also, if your baby is "milky", might I be so bold as to suggest you bathe them.

C8H10N4O2 · 29/01/2019 22:57

Honestly OP, by the time you get to #4 you will be complacently thanking the gods for a few minutes peace whilst the eldest feeds the baby cold curry from the fridge.

It isn't ideal baby food but it won't kill the baby either.

PatricksRum · 29/01/2019 23:00

That's absolutely ridiculous! 5 months old, no food at all.
Why do people do this Sad

Rememberyourhat · 29/01/2019 23:01

Some nasty posters on this thread.

OP, you were right to worry and you did the instinctive thing. You need to make sure he doesn’t continue with a bit of this and a bit of that so early. It can be a natural instinct to put food into baby’s mouths.

Catmum26 · 29/01/2019 23:02

i think you might be over reacting a little bit. yes it wasnt the right thing to do and he was an idiot but it’s not going to kill your baby or even harm it unless he was feeding it spoonfulls. my husband accidentally got nandos sauce on our 10 week olds dummy last week and apart from being a bit dribbly he survived.

FrequentlyIndecisive · 29/01/2019 23:02

@PIFilm what point are you trying to make with the list of ingredients. Nobody is saying that you should feed custard (M&S) to a five week old, but listing the ingredients isn’t achieving anything - there is no antidote to custard ingestion - the baby will be fine. Have a bit of common sense and help the OP through it rather than feed the anxiety.

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 23:04

PatricksRum

The baby is 5 weeks, 35 days, not 5 months.

Reflexella · 29/01/2019 23:04

My dad gave my ds a lick of cornetto at 3 weeks 😡

Just sympathising but just to let you know he survived now age 7x

ReaganSomerset · 29/01/2019 23:05

I think you were right to react as your did tbh. I would have done the same. It's not sterilised as it should be for a five week old, it's got cows milk which is unsuitable for a five week old and it contains sugar and other processed rubbish. He needed telling off.

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 23:07

FrequentlyIndecisive

For the same reason I am correcting the posters who have decided the baby is five months old. People are making up what is in the custard.

Grobagsforever · 29/01/2019 23:09

A&E NOW. Only option. I believe most hospitals now have a specialist dessert injection department.

Legohell · 29/01/2019 23:09

FrequentlyIndecisive Bloody hell, it’s a more relevant post than yours questioning why someone has put the ingredients of the food someone fed to a baby in the thread about someone feeding food to a baby.

Fucksake

JaniceBattersby · 29/01/2019 23:16

My eldest son fed my youngest son a Wotsit when he was 11 weeks old.

The only lasting damage is the compulsory consumption of at least a whole packet of Wotsits per day.

FrequentlyIndecisive · 29/01/2019 23:16

@Legohell and what is the OP going to do with the info - she has the tub in front of her. What does it matter? She not going to carry on feeding it to the baby. Everybody knows it’s a stupid thing to do, but you can’t turn back the clock.

Far too many people trying to frighten the poor OP to death with stories of bleeding guts and anaphylaxis. I’m waiting for the first LTB.

Fucksake right back at you with custard on...

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 23:20

FrequentlyIndecisive
The post wasn’t for the op, it was the facts for those who are exaggerating both ways.

You’re a bit of a control freak aren’t you?!

SaturdayNext · 29/01/2019 23:25

I think the poster’s point is if op hadn’t reacted like that he may well have kept doing it day after day

Why? What evidence is there that he wouldn't have reacted much better if she had just calmly pointed out that this wasn't a good idea and asked him not to repeat it?

Apparently my mother went in for putting a bit of brandy on a finger for us to suck when we were this age. My siblings and I have all survived this dreadful assault by several decades.

StoppinBy · 29/01/2019 23:25

One of my friends had a relative give her newborn some jelly, the baby was actually really unwell from it, your husband shouldn't be feeding your baby anything unless it is a bottle of breast milk if it is ExBF, any food including formula alters babies gut flora and fauna and when it is given too early it can cause problems.

Given the amount your baby had I don't think it will be an issue, my daughter had to have a drip when she was less than two weeks old and as a distraction they actually use plain old sugar water (which works really well by the way, they love it) and it didn't do her any harm.

FrequentlyIndecisive · 29/01/2019 23:26

@PIFilm no not really - you’re either a control freak or not - you can’t be a bit of a one.

Having said that, your armchair psychology is keeping my mind off the real things I’ve been worrying about, so thank you.

Nomorechickens · 29/01/2019 23:27

Well you are a posh lot if you assume that custard has egg in! In our house that would be called egg custard or real custard.