Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Newborn and custard

409 replies

MrsXx4 · 29/01/2019 20:52

Mainly posting here for traffic because I really don’t think I am being at all unreasonable!! I am fuming! I left my 5 week old baby in my husbands ‘capable’ hands for 2 minutes while I went to hang some washing up and when I came downstairs husband was feeding him custard (an M&S microwave custard - not baby food) from his finger! Letting baby suck it from his finger!

I am so angry but do I also need to worry about baby? Husband has got angry saying I have over reacted in being so mad! Baby was sleeping on me a second ago as I took him off of husband but now he has taken him off me and baby is screaming!!

OP posts:
adaline · 29/01/2019 21:55

Are you insane? McDonald's fries? At 12 weeks a baby's intestines are not developed enough for anything

The weaning age used to be three months of age - it might be later now but in the not-so-distant past it wasn't at all uncommon for babies to be eating solids by then.

Mummylife2018 · 29/01/2019 21:56

@adaline Solids are one thing, but McDonalds fries at 12 weeks? Or anything less than a year? Disturbing

Snuffalo · 29/01/2019 21:58

No, @deadmansdrop, postulation is a completely normal form of rhetoric and it’s fine. The ruined milky baby thing is like something out of a psychological horror film and your Confused face is boring and irritating. Thanks for your input, though.

EwItsAHooman · 29/01/2019 21:59

Not as creepy as someone “postulating” what it’s like to be in that house at that time and deciding what the man was thinking and doing and how he was interacting with the baby and writing a paragraph about it as if it were fact.

That’s really weird

Blah blah blah. Do bore off.

The weaning age used to be three months of age - it might be later now but in the not-so-distant past it wasn't at all uncommon for babies to be eating solids by then.

Before it was based on weeks it was based on weight, when my parents were babies the advice was to start weaning once your baby weighed 12lbs as that was when they were considered too big for milk alone to be enough Shock

deadmansdrop · 29/01/2019 21:59

Snuffalo

Nope, still creepy af

thegreylady · 29/01/2019 22:01

It was stupid of him but there is no harm done. I do t think he’ll do it again. Just relax and enjoy the baby together.

TheDarkPassenger · 29/01/2019 22:02

Tainted?

What would you do if the baby had a temperature? Would you not give calpol?

Snuffalo · 29/01/2019 22:02

@deadmansdrop have you been drinking? You seem confused and a bit fixated. Hope you’re ok!

FridgeFullOfChocolate · 29/01/2019 22:03

Call 111, the health visitor, anyone else... ghostbusters maybe?

Though pretty stupid feeding a 5 week old anything other than breastmilk/formula, a dab of custard won’t harm your baby.

FrequentlyIndecisive · 29/01/2019 22:04

DS2 had his first taste of food at 4 weeks - a gravy covered green bean fed to him by his 2 year old brother - he survived as will yours. (DS2 was on my knee at the time - I was just momentarily looking the other way.)

It's very easy to over react, especially with your first (I was a crazy lady) and you want everything to be perfect, but your baby still is perfect and I very much doubt a taste of custard will cause any harm.

As for calling 111 - please don't.

And finally I also thought Newborn and Custard sounded a bit of an odd combination too!

mrsmaggiemistletoe · 29/01/2019 22:05

No YANB at all U!

Who cares if it’s your first baby? My third baby is 7 weeks and I would go absolutely INSANE if DH did this. Which he wouldn’t, because he’s not a complete idiot.

Would you not give Calpol?

No, unless advised by a doctor, as Calpol isn’t advised until 8 weeks.

EhlanaOfElenia · 29/01/2019 22:06

DS2 as a newborn needed a cannula put in, they gave him sugar water as pain relief, made him high as a kite. Looking back I can laugh at the dopey look on his face. (Not at the time though!!!)

He didn't feed for a bit, but recovered quickly. Your DH is a grade A twat, but your DS will be fine.

Qubus · 29/01/2019 22:07

I'm with deadmansdrop

How do you know he was preparing the custard for himself and not the baby?

Togertiger · 29/01/2019 22:08

Snuffalo Hmm You seem a bit defensive. And creepy!

EwItsAHooman · 29/01/2019 22:09

Who cares if it’s your first baby?

For lots of people the first baby is generally the one that's the most fraught though, isn't it? DH and I used to jokingly call DC1 our starter baby because that's the one you learn on.

EwItsAHooman · 29/01/2019 22:10

How do you know he was preparing the custard for himself and not the baby?

Hmm

Probability says he wasn't.

doIreallyneedto · 29/01/2019 22:13

@Mamaat50 - The gastro complaints of the early weaned generations are the reason the changed the guidelines.

The vast majority had no problems so a tiny bit of custard won't cause a problem unless their are underlying issues.

More recent research suggests waiting until 6 months increases the risk of allergies. The recommendation to wait until 6 months comes from the WHO. In developing countries, that makes sense as hygiene standards may not be adequate. In developed countries, research suggests between 4 and 6 months is appropriate.

I'm not suggesting weaning at 5 weeks is anything other than ridiculously premature. Equally, custard is most definitely not an appropriate first food. However, a tiny taste of custard at 5 weeks warrants a conversation about how it is not appropriate, rather than the over reactions in this thread.

Butteredghost · 29/01/2019 22:13

I hate to tell you OP but breast milk is quite sugary. In fact custard has 5% sugar and breast milk is 7% sugar! Noooo I guess all our babies are ruined now.

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 22:13

Having been on the receiving end of much (crap and outdated) advice from my MIL, I would wonder if he’d been told to do it.

My MIL was determined to feed my baby at that age. She tried with butter on her finger at an afternoon tea. I was not polite. She also told me she put tea in DH’s bottle. She lies a lot though so I do t know it is was true.

tillytrotter1 · 29/01/2019 22:15

Looked at the title in the side column, thought it was an extreme version of Come Dine With Me!

mrsmaggiemistletoe · 29/01/2019 22:16

EwItsAHooman oh yes I agree people get most fraught over first baby, I certainly did. But I hate it when posters downplay the OP’s worries by saying “oh you’re being PFB about this, you won’t care with your next one...” because quite possibly she would care just as much regardless of which baby this was.

Original poster
MrsXx4 · 29/01/2019 22:18

Ok I’ve calmed down! Ive also had a giggle at some of the comments and at how insane I may come across with my post! It is my first baby, and I’m sleep deprived and want to do the best I can and felt that had been stamped all over by DH! Things also haven’t been fantastic between us of late so probably why I am angrier at him than I normally would be.

OP posts:
Snuffalo · 29/01/2019 22:19

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

PIFilm · 29/01/2019 22:19

It was M&S custard, at least 14% sugar.

Serin · 29/01/2019 22:20

At least it was Marks and Spencer's custard.

Swipe left for the next trending thread