To not want a baby shower

[BlueFox101]

I'm just not really bothered by it. I remember when my best friend was having one for her baby thinking what's the point in all this? But my husband is adamant that I will regret not having one...
Will I? Has anyone else felt the same not had one and then regretted it?

I've never had a baby shower and I'm glad I didn't. Load of fuss I don't like.

I'm too old for this trend and I'm glad that I am. IMO, they are tacky from tacksville and should be avoided. It's a bit me, me, me and look at me, I'm having a baby. From my old fashioned point of view, I would rather wait for the baby to arrive and then celebrate - at a time to suit the new parents.

I didn't, my mum organised one anyway and it was lovely to see my friends. I really enjoyed it. I did say no gifts, which everyone ignored.

I didn't have a baby shower with either of mine. I just think they're pointless!! And a waste of money.

I didn't have one and not once have I regretted not having one

My BF had one but I find them tacky and an adopted Americanism

Not for me and you shouldn't have one if you don't want to

Hmm, you do get tons of nice presents though!

YANBU. Didn’t interest me in the slightest.

I did not have one, I have been to one and found it grabby and tacky. (Also cost a fortune on top of the gift from the gift list....)
I have unfortunately not been available for one since... but buy a gift when the baby arrives.

I didn't want one. My DHs family did and planned one for me, I was bricking it because I hate parties. I have birth very prematurely and avoided it although I wouldn't recommend that strategy

I didn't have one with any of my 3 and have never even given it a 2nd thought. A friend had an afternoon tea/lunch for her baby shower which was fun. I have been to a few with the games and present opening etc and really not likes them.

I'm a bit superstitious to and don't like giving/receiving presents for babies that aren't here yet.

It's a bit grabby

I had one. Was lovely all my female friends and family came round for lunch and cake, had some games and they made vests and bibs3 for baby and also did a guess the weight and sex.

The men all went out together at the same time.

Was a great way for mil to be involved as she helped to organise.

Op, they’re tacky! Don’t have one! They are just a retail invention and a way of getting gifts.

YANBU. I equate them with hen nights. Didn't have one of those either. I was at a baby shower recently. The mum to be is 40 (first baby, didn't want a baby shower but her 20 something sister insisted on organising it) and sitting there while a room full of 30 and 40 something women licked 'poo' (chocolate) off disposable nappies in order to figure out what it was, personally I thought it was pathetic.

I had one which was lovely, my best friend just organised brunch at my mums and made a cake etc. It was nice to all get together before my baby arrived. That being said, I could have lived without it and wouldn’t have arranged it for myself so you might not regret it. I just think too many family get togethers are funerals etc, it’s nice to get together for a celebration.

Hen nights, baby showers... just no. It’s a class thing I think.

Hen nights are even worse.

I didn’t have a baby shower for either of my pregnancies- it seems a bit grabby and pointless. Plus I didn’t want to jinx things - I’d rather the baby arrived safely before people bought him or her gifts.

Have afternoon tea with friends or whatever floats your boat but the whole baby shower thing is a bit crass imo.

I did not have a baby shower. Good friends gave gifts because they wanted to, not because they were pressured into it because of an event. But I also didn't have a hen party.

I didn’t and I didn’t want one.. had to subtly say at work that it wasn’t for me as usually people were thrown one. No regrets!

Of course you won't regret it- what a weird thing to say! I've only known one person who actually had one.

Pregnant with dc2 atm and the idea of a baby shower makes my toes curl.

Part of it is a personal dislike of being centre of attention- I really hate it and would feel really uncomfortable about having a party thrown in anticipation of a successful birth and healthy baby when neither are guaranteed.

Secondly, a “Shower” where gifts are expected/ given outside of an American context is just grabby. In the US there’s books worth of etiquette written around baby showers and it makes sense to help new parents given their crap maternity pay/leave laws. But in the UK/Ireland surely a babygrow or book when baby is born is sufficient?

I don’t know anyone who has had one and it would be thought of as terribly tacky. In fact I don’t think anyone would go if invited to one!

It’s a gift grab. Don’t have a baby if you can’t afford it yourself. If you can afford it and want others to buy stuff anyway, that’s greedy.

Nope. Didn't have one. Didn't regret it. We didn't need many things, and have loads of family who live far away who wanted to contribute, so didn't really need anything else. We did have people come over after the baby was born and that was lovely in small groups. I also didn't have a hen night if it helps. But I dislike having this kind of enforced fun that follows some specific protocol. No offence to those who enjoy it!