To not want a baby shower

[BlueFox101]

I'm just not really bothered by it. I remember when my best friend was having one for her baby thinking what's the point in all this? But my husband is adamant that I will regret not having one...
Will I? Has anyone else felt the same not had one and then regretted it?

I didn’t have one and I didn’t regret it; I loved our baby’s christening as a chance to celebrate her

YANBU. I didn't want one, and didn't have one. And no regrets either. SIL had the right hump that I didn't want one for some reason. I don't even like attending them tbh.

I don’t like them to be honest. We just had 15 good friends join us for a meal out at a favourite restaurant. Was great fun.

I didn't have one either, my sil was adamant she was throwing one for me and I had to really put my foot down and say I didn't want one (dont think it went down well tbh) I think she thought somehow I was being ungrateful but I really don't like being centre of attention so the idea of it gave me the fear!!

My DiL didn't have one, she thinks they're beyond tacky. She still ended up with more baby clothes than she knew what to do with.

The SILs get annoyed you don’t want one because they know they are grabby and tacky but they’d want one or had one... they don’t like it that you are classier than them lol!

Not a chance in hell we'd do anything like that.
I get the spreading of joy when you're (happily) pregnant but I'm happy enough with the spoken word.

I do feel that the prevalence of baby showers, hen parties, stag do's, vow renewals is all part of a huge "Me, me, me" society.

I wonder to what extent it goes hand-in-hand with the rise of mental health issues?

Why on earth would you regret it? Most people don't have baby showers and I can't imagine anyone thinking wistfully down the line "oh why didn't I have a baby shower".

I had one and while it was lovely, I wish I hadn't.

They're really not for me. My friend insisted though...

Haven't read any of the thread, but guessing that there have been at least 3 uses of the term "tacky" and 2 of "vulgar", not to mention one "American import".

Baby shower threads bring all the snobbery out.

OP don't have one if you don't want one, it's by a big deal. It doesn't have to be a big spectacle, mine was mani/pedis and champagne followed by dinner with my mates. No gifts, no "tack".

I had a baby shower when I was pregnant with my daughter a couple of years ago as my friend absolutely insisted even though I said I really wasn’t bothered.
Tbh I found it all a bit cringe and embarrassing and it just ended up being a load of friends / family standing around talking about how awful and painful their childbirth experience had been.
I’m currently 8.5 months pregnant and definitely not having one this time!!

Hen nights
Stage dos
Baby showers
Vow renewals

It’s a “look at me” party for the chip-on-the-shoulder classes who want to be the center of attention because they don’t get enough satisfaction out of their life.

Think of the people you know who have had these events. They’re a type.

I've only been to one and as a result never want to have one myself. Just don't like the idea of them, the attention, or the fact that should I have one, traditionally DP wouldn't be invited

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“mani/pedis” is tacky!

But you are what you are, don’t apologise for it. I love being a “snob”.

MN seems to universally hate baby showers. I didn’t have one with my first, and didn’t feel upset about it. Since then I’ve organised 2 for friends who did want one (we checked first!) and attended a 3rd. They were all very classy - none of the poop-eating games or bizarre presents; we all anonymously contributed what we could to a gift voucher for a local baby shop instead. We ate cake and had a lovely catch up before the baby came.
This time round I hope one of my friends will organise something similar for me!
I don’t think you’ll regret it if you don’t really fancy one, it’s a little odd that your DH is pushing a bit for it!

“I’m having a baby, let’s paint bits of our feet!”

It takes all sorts lol!

Never had one. Didn't want one. I hate the idea of them and wouldn't go to one either.

God no, YANBU. Talk about counting your chickens before they hatch! I never had one and no regrets. Sorry but I'd rather wait till the baby is here safely.

And they are for gifts! If you having some party with dinner, mixed sex, pampering and no gifts it's not a shower, it's just a party you threw before you have a kid.

It’s a “look at me” party for the chip-on-the-shoulder classes who want to be the center of attention because they don’t get enough satisfaction out of their life.

How funny My friends organised a lunch out for me when I was 38 weeks. It was really nice because I had not enjoyed my pregnancy. Sometimes it’s kind in life to make someone else be the centre of attention.

Obviously I am some sort of lower class tacky person

This time round I hope one of my friends will organise something similar for me!

To be fair, for all the people who go on about how tacky American they are, having one for your third baby just wouldn't happen there. They are for first babies only.

Never had one for any of my 4. I don't have enough friends that any of them might think to do one one.

Bobfossil2 Invited to lunch isnt a baby shower

My friends organised a lunch out for me when I was 38 weeks

That’s not what most people would envisage when someone mentions a baby shower though, is it? It’s just a nice lunch pre-baby. Lovely.

When I hear baby shower I think forced fun, cringey games, expectations of gifts and a bit of an awkward atmosphere. There’s plenty of reasons outside of snobbery that mean they aren’t to everyone’s taste.

Oh What is a baby shower then?

It was called a baby shower and there was a nappy cake (which actually was super handy)

I was invited to one at a restaurant where it was £25 a head for afternoon tea and you were expected to put in £25 towards a gift and bring a baby themed helium balloon.

I was busy that day.