To not want to date religious guys?

[LadyandGent]

I'm irreligious.

Am I being a bit previous for dismissing a guy because of his religion?

I’m an atheist and married to an atheist. I couldn’t have married someone who believed in any god.

For me, it is too much of a fundamental difference to overcome.

YANBU

I completely agree and wouldnt get involved with anyone religeous (I was raised a Catholic).

I think your basic values have to align so that goes for politics and money too.

I know lots of people who believe in God but they dont act “religious” so i think i’d be strange for someone not to want to go out with them just because of their beliefs. Many happy couples will have opposing views on lots of things besides religion, it’d be strange if all their views were identical.

Fwiw, I think that's a very normal use of the word 'previous', OP!

NewLevels Christianity being singled out again, even though not mentioned in the OP?

I find in life arseholes will find a way to be arseholes.

. Religious arseholes
. Atheist arseholes
. Language arseholes
. Job arseholes
. Hobby arseholes

They just weaponise their arseholeness Into whatever they do.

So I think you should give anyone a chance, I find labels don’t make the person. But I can understand people who have strict red lines on it. So you’re not being unreasonable.

But you find lots of people find or lose faith at some point in their life. So that dream boat atheist you fell in love with may become a practicing Jedi in later life.... maybe it will change him... maybe it won’t :)

I’m atheist and DP is vaguely pagan. I don’t think I’d be awfully compatible with someone of a strong faith, no matter what it was.

I think it’s absolutely OK to make that decision for yourself, but I also think that creating a thread about it is goady.

Yanbu, I don’t believe in god & wouldn’t have a relationship with someone that is religious, our world views would be too different, further down the line is the issue of how to raise kids - there’s no way I would bring up a child with religion

I couldn't date anybody who believed in God. Too fundamentally different in views to me.

I'd find it difficult to be with someone who actively believed in god. A mumbling, don't-really-think-about-it-from-a-Catholic-background I could probably cope with if the rest was great as it's familiar to me. But going to church/taking god seriously would be a step too far for me.

No I don't think so. I'd also consider it perfectly reasonable for a religious person to exclude you on that basis. It's ok to want to be with someone you're on the same page as. There are people who make it work when they share very different beliefs but you don't have to want to be one of them.

If he was religious and I was atheist, what would we tell the children? Imo it’s perfectly fine to choose a partner who agrees with your fundamental values such as religion.

YANBU. I prefer to be with an atheist as I am one myself. I see it as part of having shared values or perspectives in some way. I have some friends who follow various religions but I actually feel closer to those who are questioning or non believers such as myself.

As two people have questioned my use of the word previous, it's informal language apparently

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showmeshoyo completely nailed what I was going to type. I've never met a religious person who I'd want to shack up with, it's too incompatible a mental system from mine.

I'm the same with people who believe in horoscopes or crystal healing, or don't believe in global warming or vaccinations. There's no way we'd work together. No problems being friends or colleagues, but not a partner.

I use 'previous' like that too!

I think it depends I was brougt up.as a Catholic and would probably describe !myself as agnostic do you mean very religious men or people with who describe themselves as say Christian or Muslim etc but are not actually practicing in any way and in no way try and impose their beliefs on anyone?

Maybe "previous" is a regional thing? It sounds a bit extra to me.

I wouldn't either. I doubt we'd have much in common anyway

Back to the whys and wherefores, I just never measured up in the first instance, or else, their views were so skewed and misaligned to mine that it could never work.
I have particular reasons for despising religion, some quite personal, some more general I guess.

It's a shame really, as the guy seemed nice, but as soon as he mentioned religion, I froze.

The only one I'd probably consider would be Buddhism, not because I'm Buddhist, but because it seems rather unintrusive (until you try to swat a fly or kill a spider maybe lol).

Fwiw, I think that's a very normal use of the word 'previous', OP!

Me too!

Re. the religious thing: I'm with you on that. Just wouldn't be for me.
Just as I wouldn't go out with a man who had crap taste in music, described himself as a cheeky chappie, was shorter than me, said 'pacifically' when he meant 'specifically', voted for Brexit, wore fleeces and hiking boots as his weekend wear......and a million other things!

For reference, I was brought up Catholic. I'm agnostic rather than Atheist. And even at that, I would say I have little faith.
I feel religion is a man-made thing, which people claim to be divine. So many damned wars. So much misogyny. So much hatred and spite and judgment.

I just couldn't be with someone religious at all. I tried. But I always felt like I was being judged as the great unwashed who needed to be converted.

My friend says she believes in God and was also brought up.as a Catholic and her partner is atheist she doesn't attend church apart from weddings and funerals etc I think there is a big difference in people who are activly religious or not than those who who.have some beliefs but those beliefs are very personal to them?

The guy today was Muslim and went to the mosque regularly.