Tell me - is this rascist?

[PooleySpooley]

Son is mixed race. I am white as are his siblings. He has rarely experienced any racism. He has a really good relationship with his father and his family who I am not with.

He has a PT job.

He told me today that while he is working the checkout he often gets asked “where he is from” and when he says “here” the questioner will probe “originally”.

This shocked me and pissed me off because in my head the questioner is probing more because his answer is unacceptable to them because DS doesn’t look like what the questioners idea of what a British person looks like.

A very good friend says he should be encouraged to be proud of his heritage (which he is but there are many strands to that as it’s a grandparent who is Asian and he has three other grandparents) and is it ok for him to be asked this continually?

The problem is that many people are brazen and would then laugh politely and say “well, if thats how you want to put it smirk smirk”
Any comebacks??

I hardly saw him, he came back grabbed a piece of cake and went to his dads (who was also born here)

harebell perhaps a puzzled look and, "I don't understand what you mean?", Or a hard stare and "would you like to see my birth certificate?", Or simply, "Are you suggesting that I am lying?"

To me it’s someone asking about me, a way of connecting

This x1000.
Tbh what I find much more offensive than being asked where I'm ( really ) from is how difficult it is for some people to believe that someone might just be interested in me as a person. Even though I'm brown! There's something incredibly racist about the assumption that everyone sees my brown-ness as a negative thing and is making a value judgement when they comment on it.
I've posted on threads like this before that the question is often followed up with a compliment about my skin tone and was whitesplained told that those compliments aren't sincere; they're a subtle form of "othering".
It's inconceivable to racists some people that anyone could be genuinely interested in a brown person or find them attractive, and it fucks me right off.