To expect my boyfriend to drive me home?

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I've been seeing him for 4 months now.
Last Saturday night I stayed at his house (he lives about 30 mins away and I always get the train as it's quick and the station is only a few mins from his house.
Went over ordered food etc and went to bed.
Around 1am I woke up feeling sick and from 1am was vomiting every 10 mins then the stomach pains started,I was dripping in sweat and nearly passed out in the bathroom.
This continued all night and didn't sleep a wink.
It got to 10am and I said there's no way I can get on the train like this (it's a 2 carriage train and it's always full the time it gets to his station)
He said "what you gonna do then?"
I said I don't know (his car is sat on the drive here,thinking he would offer to drive me home)
He didn't so I had to get a taxi and sit in the back of the taxi with a carrier bag incase I vomited.
Luckily I didn't..it was the longest journey ever.
Aibu to think he should have drove me home?

Just think all the money you can save on travel youhave buy yourself an even bigger tv than his (i’m Petty and would WhatsApp a pic) and a vibrator. Both far more useful than wasting travel and time on this idiot.

Sack the floppy-dicked knobber off

This made me laugh way more than it should have!

Listen to everyone here op, you can do better. Hope you're feeling better too

Oh no :( that sounds like a right nightmare OP! I'm sorry you got ill and hope you recovered quickly! (Food poisoning maybe?).

YADNBU to have wanted a lift! No one would want to get on a train in that state (and potentially get other people sick), he's a prize dick for not driving you home.

How are you feeling about him now? Has he apologised? X

What a catch! Thats quite a drip feed...

Make it clear of he wants to keep a girlfriend in the future hes going to have to be more considerate

Travel money on a bigger TV and a vibrator - love it!!!

I thought finally I met someone decent.
Own house,good job etc but even worse than some of the wasters I've dated.

Sack the floppy-dicked knobber off. @Shallishanti123

😂😂😂

Own house and good job, does not always mean kind partner, can be rich knob that's all. I cannot believe he let you leave in that condition, it tells you all you need to know about him. Have you dumped him yet!

Get rid of him.

Send him a link to this thread when he asks why.

I'd have asked him to take me home and then dumped him as I got out of the car !!

Please please LTB...

REALLY.

Another vote for LTB here!

He sounds like an arsehole. At least you found out after a short period of time

I thought finally I met someone decent. Own house,good job etc

A house and a job don't make the person though. You would be better off with someone kind and considerate who thinks about your needs and tries to meet them. They're not always easy to find, but you are much better off on your own than spending time with someone as selfish as this. All the time you're with him, you're not looking for someone who might actually be generous with their time and emotion, and help you be happy.

Honestly OP - you've got to see this as a learning experience. There is no way you should be always going round to someone's place in the early days of a relationship anyway but if you are going to be having nights in together, the only reason you should always be going there is because YOU want to because they are a better host than you (i.e. picks you up/drop you home, cooks dinner, gets your favourite drinks in, does a special clean of the house etc. and makes an effort to show they care). I'm not saying you have to be treated like a princess just because you are the female - if they are making the effort to come to you then you show your appreciation of that too. But in general, at that early stage of the relationship go out and do something together according to your budgets, it's the honeymoon period!

Many, many of us have been there OP - I was nearly 3 months into a "relationship" before my sister got the message through to me of WAKE UP, why are you always running over there dressed up nicely to provide him with sex whilst the lazy bugger doesn't even have to move 5 minutes beyond his front door and always has an excuse why it's better for you to go to his than vice versa? It took a while for the message that I was being used to sink in. I never made that mistake again and whilst it pissed me off it was also a great learning experience.

The key issue, it seems to me, is why the OP did not ask him to drive her home?
Perhaps the OP and her boyfriend (never mind their four months relationship) are rather "new" and lacking in communication. Fair enough-that happens.
Perhaps the OP hoped that the boyfriend would spontaneously offer to drive her home. Also, Fair Enough. Most reasonable people would offer, but as some Posters have said, perhaps there were reasons why not (apart from the obvious possibility of Thoughtlessness.)
But the OP, and all of us MNsetters, do not know why she was not offered a lift. She did not ask, she has no explanation, and everything else is speculation.
Until the OP is close enough to her boyfriend to discuss this kind of thing, she (and all of us) have not enough knowledge to make a judgement-apart from the "Usual MN suspects" making their normal anti-men comments.
The OP may wish to persevere in her relationship, until she and her boyfriend can talk. Then she may learn what he is really like, and make a decision.
I hope it turns out Ok for her.

When I had morning sickness, my DH drove me to work and back every day even though it was in the opposite direction for him and I had a car. There were several spots where pulling over was impossible so a vomiting session as a driver would have been hazardous.

Hold out for a partner like that.

Hmmmm I get that he should have offered, but at the same time passive comments/hints annoy me so sometimes I’m not goaded by them. You should have said “I can’t get the train like this, can you give me a lift please?”

What a total tool. I’ve been treated better by one night stands!!! Dump the selfish loser.

jimdandy why shod she, he could see how I'll she was. Mabey she was in no fit state to ask or knew that he would say no as that is the type of unsympathetic and selfish knob that he is!

Have you gotten rid yet op!

No he shouldn’t have driven you home.... he should have tucked you up in bed, looked after you, fetching you anything you needed! If he won’t do this 4 months in he certainly wouldn’t be doing it 4 years time. Dump him and be grateful for the early warning

Oh dear, run for the hills, he's not on your team.

Onlyaman I'm not a man hater. Honestly. But this bloke shouldn't have waited to be asked. Sorry, but it goes without saying in this situation. Even when the people concerned don't know one another very well. If he needs it spelling out, then there is something wrong imho! I would think the same if it was a female friend of the op who had acted this way. Nothing to do with him being a bloke. It's basic kindness. Hell, I felt ill in my local dry cleaner once and the owner very kindly ran me home! I didn't know him from Adam! Believe me, this is not about lack of communication, this is about the op's boyfriend having no consideration for others.

I profoundly disagree with "the key issue here" being why the op didn't ask for a lift. I totally "get" why she didn't in this situation; it would be humiliating to do so when he hadn't offered, a bit like begging. Why is it her fault?! And puking up all night is a fairly humiliating experience as it is! Why add insult to injury?

If there was a credible reason why he couldn't run her home, surely the onus was on him to offer an explanation in these circumstances? Any reasonable decent thinking man would explain and apologise in those circumstances I would have thought!

The thought of vomit in his car overde his feelings for you.

Ditch him!