To expect my boyfriend to drive me home?

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I've been seeing him for 4 months now.
Last Saturday night I stayed at his house (he lives about 30 mins away and I always get the train as it's quick and the station is only a few mins from his house.
Went over ordered food etc and went to bed.
Around 1am I woke up feeling sick and from 1am was vomiting every 10 mins then the stomach pains started,I was dripping in sweat and nearly passed out in the bathroom.
This continued all night and didn't sleep a wink.
It got to 10am and I said there's no way I can get on the train like this (it's a 2 carriage train and it's always full the time it gets to his station)
He said "what you gonna do then?"
I said I don't know (his car is sat on the drive here,thinking he would offer to drive me home)
He didn't so I had to get a taxi and sit in the back of the taxi with a carrier bag incase I vomited.
Luckily I didn't..it was the longest journey ever.
Aibu to think he should have drove me home?

He said "what you gonna do then?"
Leave this complete twat

That would be the end of it for me, what a knob

I agree with Hilarybliss that you should have asked but it was selfish of him not to offer you a lift. I think I’d be questioning your relationship.

I’m surprised he was expecting you to even go home when you were that ill. But I don’t understand why you suffered in silence waiting to be offered a lift.

Men are stupid, you might have needed to ask

On the other hand, when DP and I were dating, he would often drive me back home and it was a 40 minute drive each way. And I never needed to ask.

Well you could have asked..maybe there was a reason he couldn’t drive you. But yes, I think he should have offered or explained why he couldn’t (like if he was skint and his car had no petrol?). I wouldn’t think he was a keeper after this situation had arisen.

Is he the type to have a fit if you puked in his car?

Did you ask him to drive you home? Was he going somewhere in the morning which meant it wasn't possible?

YANBU & the suggestions that you should have asked are missing the point IMO. A thoughtful kind boyfriend would have offered to drive you home or said stay here until the worst has passed & then I'll run you home (giving him benefit of doubt of over alcohol limit or a sport commitment).

He had 2 bottles of lager on the night and the following day was Sunday and spent the day in the house.
I didn't ask because I didn't want to seem cheeky .
I thought he would have offered.

I'd personally chuck him

He doesn't sound very caring

Of course he should have offered.
But, I’m guessing 4 months in you’re having sex with this man. He is your BOYFRIEND..Adjust your expectations of relationships - not just his actuons, yours. If you’re comfortable enough to swap bodily fluids, how are you not comfortable enough to say “ugh, feel awful - could you take me home please?”. You need to raise your expectations of a boyfriend. It’s not cheeky to ask at all.

You shouldn't have had to ask. Someone that cares about you would have offered or explained why they couldn't take you. It was the obvious thing to do and regardless of the reasons behind it, he has shown you who he is. Do you want to be with someone so inconsiderate and/or shockingly stupid?

I was more interested to hear if she had asked and he had perhaps refused. I agree he should have driven OP without her having to ask. It seems he is a selfish bastard and not worth wasting more time on.

Well not asking has certainly shown him in his true colours. I'd have been like you to see what his reaction was and now you have your answer! Dump him but let him know why!

Men are stupid, you might have needed to ask

Oh ffs can you imagine someone came on here and said women are stupid?

Not all men are stupid. This particular man was an idiot so I’d just put that relationship to bed.

If you’re comfortable enough to swap bodily fluids, how are you not comfortable enough to say “ugh, feel awful - could you take me home please?”*

This. Don't understand why you couldn't ask. It's not like you were demanding he did it

Generally the advice is if you want something, ask, don’t sit and hope someone will offer. BUT, when someone is ill, a proper adult will look after them and make sure they’re safe. Very odd behaviour by the man. I’d cool it.
Btw, was it the takeaway that made you ill? Report to local environmental health dept.

Why didn’t you ask him?

No decent person would have to ask, it would be bloody obvious.

However I bet he didn't offer as he didn't want the chance of vomit in his car.

Why didn't you say "please can you drive me home"?

Has he at least phoned or text to see how you are?

I would cool it with him, he's obviously not in the same place you are and he sounds unkind and uncaring.

I hope you feel better soon xx

YANBU and you should not have to ask. As a more broad point, there's so many posts on the relationships board which say things like: 'he'll do it (wash up/hoover/take the bins out/pick his clothes up) if I ask but if I don't he just won't think to. 'And it's clear that lack of initiative and care erodes away the affection in a relationship. After 4 months, you really don't someone with that attitude, they rarely seem to improve with time.

And more specifically, you were ill and visibly ill - he knew that and chose not to do anything. You'd do that for a friend, run them home if they were ill. It doesn't sound like you've been constantly cadging lifts either, if you always get the train to/from his. Does he ever travel to see you?

How is it cheeky to ask for a lift home from your boyfriend?

wow - she shouldn't really needed to ask - if someone was that unwell that I cared about I'd want to make sure they got home ok.

What a tit - bin him! At least he's shown his true caring nature early on.