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To expect my boyfriend to drive me home?

213 replies

ritabe · 24/01/2019 08:22

I've been seeing him for 4 months now.
Last Saturday night I stayed at his house (he lives about 30 mins away and I always get the train as it's quick and the station is only a few mins from his house.
Went over ordered food etc and went to bed.
Around 1am I woke up feeling sick and from 1am was vomiting every 10 mins then the stomach pains started,I was dripping in sweat and nearly passed out in the bathroom.
This continued all night and didn't sleep a wink.
It got to 10am and I said there's no way I can get on the train like this (it's a 2 carriage train and it's always full the time it gets to his station)
He said "what you gonna do then?"
I said I don't know (his car is sat on the drive here,thinking he would offer to drive me home)
He didn't so I had to get a taxi and sit in the back of the taxi with a carrier bag incase I vomited.
Luckily I didn't..it was the longest journey ever.
Aibu to think he should have drove me home?

OP posts:
OopsInamechangedagain · 24/01/2019 10:07

So you always have to travel to him (presumably at your own expense) because a larger TV is more important than just enjoying your company? WTF? This latest incident is a dumpable offence in itself but fuck me you should have realised he was a non-starter the minute he tried to pull that travelling shit on you.

SaturdayNext · 24/01/2019 10:07

Just be grateful you don't have to spend any more time with this one.

daisypond · 24/01/2019 10:08

Agree with everyone else.

Tighnabruaich · 24/01/2019 10:09

Selfish, thoughtless, uncaring, lazy. Do tell us his good points!

Asta19 · 24/01/2019 10:10

LTB - nothing more to say as I agree with all the points made!

BambooB · 24/01/2019 10:10

Get rid.

Did you ask him to take you home?

chocatoo · 24/01/2019 10:12

He's not a keeper

AnotherPidgey · 24/01/2019 10:13

You now know that he is selfish which is no foundation to a relationship. Don't waste anymore time and energy on him.

Brings back a memory of a boyfriend in my student days. I was happy to go to his as he had the double bed and a quieter house... He was happy to let me walk through a red light district on my own on a Sunday night to get to the bus stop in the city centre so that I could get the bus home. It only lasted a couple of months. 6 months later I was with now-DH.

Chocolate1984 · 24/01/2019 10:19

You shouldn't have to beg your boyfriend for a lift. He doesn't give a shit about you. You are doing all the running.

AutumnCrow · 24/01/2019 10:19

Yes, he should have driven you home.

He sounds, as others have suggested, rather crap.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 24/01/2019 10:20

Please, please know that you are worth more than this.

I wouldn’t even bother having a discussion with him about why it’s over. And I bet he doesn’t put up much of a fight.

Even if he does, please don’t fall for it.

JenniferJareau · 24/01/2019 10:22

I always go to his as he says my tv is too small

Yes, he will be the 'not having vomit in my car' type of guy.

JollyAndBright · 24/01/2019 10:22

That would definitely be the end of the relationship for me.

MadameOvary · 24/01/2019 10:24

This is as good as it gets.
This is not as bad as it will get.
Don't give him the chance to show you how bad it will get.

Sproutingcorm · 24/01/2019 10:25

Run for the hills op!

He's not kind. You deserve so much better.

I understand why you didn't ask tbh, I wouldn't have done either (the humiliation of it) and he should have offered anyway.

Hope you are feeling much better now.

Belenus · 24/01/2019 10:29

I always go to his as he says my tv is too small

So basically if you had a bigger TV your relationship would be different? He cares more about his TV viewing than you? Nope. Leave him. And learn from this. If you're the one making all the effort, the relationship is not good enough.

Onecabbage · 24/01/2019 10:30

Well he has done you a favour, at least you now know you’re dating a selfish, inconsiderate knob.

It’s your decision now as to if you continue dating the selfish one, or dump him and hope for someone better. You deserve better. He should at least be making the effort to visit you as many times as you visit him, he comes across as lazy as well as selfish. Not really much of a catch.

If I was in your shoes, I’d say to him he must make the effort to visit you from now on as you’re not prepared to go over to see him. At least that way you will either break up or find out if he is keen enough on you to make the effort.

ILoveChristmasLights · 24/01/2019 10:31

You need to ask?

Any decent human being would give a stranger a lift in that situation, let alone someone they’re seeing.

That’s aside from the fact that a mere 4 months in you’re doing all the running because he thinks your TV is too small?

I have been out with a fair few men in my life (I’m in my 40’s now) and I bet not one of them could have told you what my TV was like in the first 4 months...we were too busy going out, meeting each other’s friends, going to events or spending time at home talking and bonking/shagging/fucking to care about the bloody tv.

Just get rid, he’s a selfish, boring, twat who doesn’t care about you.

Montsti · 24/01/2019 10:33

I wouldn’t have given you a lift as I’m emetophobic and the thought fills me with dread. However the vast majority of people are not and so I think he should’ve given you a lift.

steff13 · 24/01/2019 10:40

He sounds like a douchecanoe. LTB.

I hope you used his toothbrush before you left.

cstaff · 24/01/2019 10:58

He is not stupid - just not a very nice person. There is no excuse for this behaviour - boyfriend, friend, family member - no-one that cares about you would do this to you. Sorry OP but no.

Original poster
ritabe · 24/01/2019 11:02

We aren't having sex Blush
We haven't had sex once in 4 months.
When my dog had fleas he wouldn't let me go to his.
I won't be seeing him again as I'm just not feeling this at all.
He text about 4-5 hours later asking how I was

OP posts:
Belenus · 24/01/2019 11:02

I bet not one of them could have told you what my TV was like in the first 4 months...

Well exactly. Who wants to be watching TV at that stage?

Ellisandra · 24/01/2019 11:05

How has it taken you 4 months to not be feeling this?!!
You really need to look at your expectations of a relationship.
Thank goodness you got sick!

Shoxfordian · 24/01/2019 11:06

He's shown you who he is now, believe it

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