Social services..

[CandyCreeper]

Posted recently about my sons school referring me to SS. I had a phone call this evening at 6pm on my landline from what appears to be the LA phone number. Im taking it its social services? (not expecting anything else) but aibu in thinking it is an odd time to call? I missed it as have been in bed with flu this also means my house isnt at its best because im ill, can/will they turned up unannounced??

[pandechocolate]

OP I'm confused - I don't think anyone has said anything about your bed, you asked if SS might be ringing you and we all said maybe?

[Thesmallthings]

The ss arnt monsters, they just want to know your child is safe, they will have encountered children who have said things that arnt true so if that's the case. It'll be closed soon enough x

[beansontoastfortea]

I am a bit confused... is there another thread? Aside from the first one and this one?

[TheBigBangRocks]

Of course they can turn up unnannounced, it's how they get a true picture.

The flu and d&v whilst nothing yesterday is really bad luck. Presumably the chdilren didn't go to school today then if you were ill in bed?

[BoatyMcBoatFace2]

Are SS always called when a child lies? My 3 year old has accused me of hitting her when I may have knocked her accidently. Do the arseholes (SS) really believe young children when their language skills are not yet advanced for them to explain clearly?

[PooleySpooley]

Wow - Social Workers are arseholes

[PooleySpooley]

?

[Nicknacky]

boaty Arseholes? So kids should just be ignored when they report being assaulted and those who investigate are arseholes?

[CandyCreeper]

Read the comments then as there is a reference of the bed and me faking being ill apparently. 🙄

[LovingLola]

The op’s 4 year old told his teacher that she hits and kicks him. Also that she hits her baby. That’s why social workers have been informed. Would you rather the arseholes did nothing ???

[lostfrequencies]

Wow, boaty.

[NerrSnerr]

@BoatyMcBoatFace2 Yes, those arseholes trying to keep children safe. Just think of all the high profile child abuse cases there have been, there'll be many many more we don't hear about.

People will refer if they have concerns. Social services will assess and look at the situation.

Would you rather the 'arseholes' just don't bother trying to help children?

[CandyCreeper]

My sister picked did the school run if thats ok, only she cant come here and cilean for me or look after them overnight, baby is BF for one and she simply doesnt have the space. I was only asking if the phone call was likely to be SS and if they just show up not asking to be cross-examined

[Shinesweetfreedom]

What is this with calling them arseholes

[Nicknacky]

Of course they can just show up. Do you honestly think they make appointments every time?

Surely you can see the flaw in that......

[Serin]

One of ours told school we had locked him in an attic for the weekend! (We dont even have an attic) Dont worry, SS will be able to screen out the fantasies of a four year old and genuine neglect or safeguarding concerns.
Re SW being "arseholes" well I for one am in awe of anyone who can do that job and deal with the cases they have to manage. SW deserve our help and support not blanket criticism.

[CandyCreeper]

Yes boaty my son is the same 😩 thats what happened. I pulled him off his brother when they were physically fighting and he said I hit him, I also tripped over his leg when rushing with the pram and him on the side and that means I kicked him apparently. Yet no marks or bruises of any kind.

[Dutchesss]

Do the arseholes (SS) really believe young children when their language skills are not yet advanced for them to explain clearly?
What an awful thing to say. I'd rather my home be checked 100 times over than have SS unable to carry out their job and potentially make a fatal error.
If we have nothing to hide then all we can do is assist.

[CandyCreeper]

I heard they were meant to unless child protect nicknacky, surely it cant be CP as this happened on friday??

[elliesm98]

They always turn up unannounced here
My child’s not even under child protection / child in need

[LipstickHandbagCoffee]

Ignore all the tidy up comments,rubbish(no pun intended)

Visit to assess basis of referral,look at rapport,parenting,safety,any potential triggers eg alcohol,substance,mental health,stress,financial

Environment is a factor if it’s unsafe,inadequate,dirty and no provision for stable environment

Day to day items,bit clutter associated with a family isn’t a problem

[3WildOnes]

Boaty do you really think professionals should ignore children who say they’ve been hit/kicked by parents? Are you happy for children to stay in abusive families?

[Nicknacky]

Of course allegations of assault are child protection.

[Kittykat93]

I think social workers protecting children are brilliant, not arseholes. What a disgusting thing to say.

[jarhead123]

You've got very angry very quickly and I'm not sure who it's aimed at.

Yes I'd expect them to turn up unannounced if concerned about a childs welfare