To object to an 11yr old girl sharing a bedroom with a 16yr old boy?

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Looking for opinions please!

Is it ever OK for a 16yr old boy (man?) to share a room with an 11yr old girl?

They are not blood relatives.

Applauds perfectstorm.

Sorry am I being thick ?!? Are all 16 year old boys automatically perverts & peadophiles that must not be allowed near small females.

No, and It's not fair on the lad either!
It's selfish.

OP, you are absolutely in the right, it sounds like you have a great relationship with your girl and she has her head screwed on.

I hope you manage to get this sorted out but it looks like your XH doesn't like having to deal with females who assert themselves!

Um yes hamptonmummy? Safeguarding is not about assuming everyone's a predator, it's about putting controls in place to prevent the very small number of people (of whatever group) who are predators from having opportunities to act. Also this is only in part about safeguarding and more to do with privacy from the other sex being an expectation and need once someone is at the age of puberty.

Brava (or bravo) @perfectstorm !

To Pashal. They are in Scotland so yes the 16 year old can vote in most elections, and get married etc without parental permission.

How bout just the fact the OPs daughter has said that she IS NOT comfortable sharing the room with him. Shouldn't be a second thought made about it.
What a horrid selfish father she has.
I wonder how the new GF would feel if her DD12 had to share a room with a boy aged 16/17.

She does already, wheresthehope. The same boy the dd's daughter is objecting to sharing with.

Not a happy situation for any kids who are growing up and the ex husband should be more sensitive to his daughter.

16 is legally a child. HTH

There isn't really a legal definition of a child. As we get older we acquire rights to do things. At 16 a person can have sex legally, vote in Scottish elections, leave home without parental consent, get a job without parental consent,get married in Scotland without parental consent (many of my contemporaries were married at 16/17)

A 16 year old is not a child.