I'm right to be annoyed with DH about this aren't I?

[NoMoreMarbles]

So I'm in bed this morning and turned into my back. My PJs are long pants and a cami type top(relevant)... I hadn't quite woken up and DH was watching TV and didn't know I was awake.

I feel the top of my PJ top moving and H has it lifted up and is peeping down my top at my boobs... WTF! I brushed his hand off and asked what he thinks he's doing and his response was "I was only having a look"

I'm seriously pi*%?d off that he thinks it's acceptable to purposely look down my top when he thinks I'm asleep!

AIBU?

You sound very prudish the poor man

Take that and shove it.

Wanting to be in control of your own body doesn’t make you a prude.

If the OH had previously expressed a desire not to be touched while asleep, then that's different.

This is the wrong way around. If nothing has been said between two people re. touching while asleep then assume it's a no.

Wouldn’t bother me at all

Ah, but PurpleDaisies, those were women's views - therefore not as important!

I had totally forgotten. It must be my silly lady-brain.

Wouldn't bother me at all. In fact I'd find it a turn on.

jesus who'd be a fucking man these days

@ssd was about to post the same thing! Poor bloke won't dare open his mouth again!

totally

you sound hard work MirriVan

Poor bloke won't dare open his mouth again!

Hopefully he won’t dare expose the op’s body without her consent again. That seems a good result.

@PurpleDaisies I'm pretty sure that the man who posted on here isn't the OPs husband.

He posted his opinion on the situation and consent. He said nothing wrong at all!!! Yet got pounced on for basically having a dick.

Ssd

Yep. Absolutely right.

And here was me thinking that one of the benefits of marriage was that i could have my tits appreciated without having to get dressed up first and paying for a taxi into town!

Shock horror, a man took a cheeky look at his wife's tits!

God some women on here sound like so much fun to be around. Imagine getting upset that your own husband finds you attractive! The Bastard!

@MirriVan and how is that different from every single woman who has posted an opinion. Just because he is a (shock horror) man he can't express an opinion on consent???

Jesus Christ mumsnet gets weirder every bloody day.

It’s odd and creepy and makes him sound like a horny 14-year-old. Waking someone up for sex with a cuddle, sure if they don’t mind. Sneakily pulling their clothing up/down to get a good gawk when you think they’re sleeping, then whining that you were “only having a look” when they don’t like it. not the same.

MirriVan, you dont just sound hard work, you sound bitter and twisted too, I haven't advanced searched your name but if you're not all over the feminist boards rattling it into men at every opportunity I'll eat my fucking hat

omg a FEMINIST? My God, the horror!

I don't think he's a poor bloke at all. Lots of people (as evidenced by this thread) have a default position of "no" on this.

He clearly didn't think about OP and whether she'd be okay with it.

I don't like the idea of anyone moving my clothes to look at my breasts while I'm sleeping, even DP.

I think the bottom line is if there's any question of whether or not someone might be ok with something you're doing you ASK.

It wouldn’t be an issue for me or some pp’s; it is an issue for the OP and lots of people on this thread.

But even if everyone replying didn’t see the issue, if it’s something you don’t feel comfortable with then that’s all that matters.

Sexual relationships are always a negotiation of desires and boundaries.

What people find a turn on is very varied and often weird, but I wouldn’t judge a person by a sexual response but by how they act when their partner expresses discomfort with it.