Return of the awful school gate mum

[Winterfellwonderland]

Not sure if anyone read my previous thread about the women who wants me to be her nanny for free?

Today's encounter:
Frantic phone calls every 5mins from 8am this morning and I ignored them all. Got mine off to nursery, dropped DH off at station and got to the big school on time, this women comes running down the path to the school, face like thunder, the kids run off together and she turns to me, "I've been calling you all morning"
Me: I left my phone at home sorry, are you ok?
"No! Does it bloody look like I'm ok?"
Me: awkward laugh errrr what's wrong?
"My hairs still wet and I couldn't find my coat, im really tired and couldn't bring myself to come out, even thought of calling child in sick"
Me: awwwhh poor you

Yes she genuinely believes it's my responsibility to accommodate her in this way. Don't mind my kids and my own responsibilities, her needs are obviously my priority😬😬😬 she's really arsey and rude to me because I didn't help her!

Sorry I just wanted to vent this x

Can someone please link the other thread....

You are doing well OP, its being faced with that barrage that often makes people apologise or cave in and then kick themselves! Well done you

Block her number?

Just read your other thread. I think you just need to keep ignoring the calls. I have a family member on do not disturb and it goes straight to voicemail when they call.

She sounds like she is lazy as she's perfectly capable. Just cannot be bothered to actually do her role as a parent.

She seems to think you are available and willing to help her if she needs it. Have you told her that's not the case?

I would have said I’m sorry to hear that, if you are having trouble managing the children I’m happy to contact the school on your behalf to see what support they can offer you via social services

That’ll soon shut her up!

There are no words

She could have dried her hair if she hadn't been so busy calling you.

Oh is this a thing now? What's the deal do I just pick a person at random to help me out or did she already know you? I'm feeling a bit tired and can't be arsed to sort my own kids out too. Let's all do it.

I didnt see your other post. Is she someone that might do you favours too? Is it worth helping each other out..when you can? Or has she asked you too many times? Surely secondary school.. the kids can take themselves if mums ill/no coat/wet hair?!

I’d be tempted to speak to the school.
A woman who thinks it’s acceptable to keep a child off school because she has wet hair and couldn’t be bothered should be flagged up.

Nutter.

Please link to your other thread for my entertainment

Bloody hell she sounds off her rocker. Presumably she'll get the message when you don't act as her personal life manager. Hopefully she'll move on to someone else. I would keep doing what you're doing. Just say "we all have those days, better run lots to do" smile and walk off.

Can you link to the previous thread?

Even with no link to the previous thread as a PP said with looks like this

a) don’t engage (“aw, that’s a shame” then WALK/vapid gaze)

b) fucking block her number

Be prepared for when her kids turns up on your doorstep! If that happens - inform the school I reckon..

Maybe do that anyway?

Don't enable her by saying 'sorry I left my phone' or asking what the problem is.

Just say 'Yes I ignored the phone because I manage MY time to organise MY own household - try it yourself! Bye.'

Blcok number

Ethel36 I think the answer to your question is in this opening sentence from OP:

Not sure if anyone read my previous thread about the women who wants me to be her nanny for free?

Add in the rest of the opening post and does this person really sound to you like someone that might do you favours too?

She could have dried her hair if she hadn't been so busy calling you.
Seriously op, keep ignoring calls from now on. Wonder if you can turn off voicemail for specific numbers. I wouldn't want to give her the chance to leave messages at all. She's completely unhinged. Give her a very wide berth from now on.

I would suggest she talk to her GP or social services if she is struggling to cope with her children

You sound busy enough without catering for her as well. She sounds unhinged.

I wouldn’t even lie about leaving your phone at home.

OMG 😮 I’m shocked and laughing at the audacity of her at the same time! She’s crazy!

Block her number, stop engaging with her.

What is it with people accepting one sided CF ' friendships' on mumsnet? seems to be a thread everyday.

"I couldn't bring myself to come out".

Ha Ha ha! That's a good one. I often feel like that and so happy to know it means my neighbours are obliged to take my kids in.

Was this the woman who you’d agreed to help out with ad hoc rather than do her CF suggestion of an arrangement? If so, time to withdraw your ad hoc help too.

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