to think I can't be the only one who is a mess on the school run?

[LeenaMarie]

DSD (7) and DS (3 months).

School run I'm about to do this morning (DSD lives 16 miles away so it's a trek at this time when roads are nuts!).

I've got leggings and underwear on I had on yesterday. Still have my pyjama top on under my jumper/coat. Haven't brushed my teeth yet. Etc etc.

Totally exhausted from breastfeeding all night. Found it easier when DS was 0-8 weeks as he slept a lot better. The last month has been HARD!

DH does most of the school runs but he doesn't have to wake up in the night to breastfeed so always has time for a shower and seems really together.

I'm just... a mess when it's my turn!

Anyone else?

I plan on going straight back to bed when I get in as I'm exhausted!

Honestly no one will likely know that you're not 'together' yet except you! I doubt anyone's going to sniff your pants or ask to see your undergarments.

I did see one woman on the school run this morning that I judged a bit though - with a toddler and about a 7 year old. She was clearly in her pyjamas and her kids looked a right state but she had a full face of make up on and though she got out of the car on the pavement, I could hear her yelling to her son to just effing get out on the (very busy) road side.

Her I judge, you I do not.

My kids are teens so I don’t do the school run anymore but until recently walked the dog early every morning and I’d tie up my hair, chuck jeans and a jumper and a coat over the vest and pants I’d slept in

I’d then get in the shower and get dressed properly when I got back. I wasn’t faffing about brushing hair/teeth changing into clean underwear, only to have to take it off to get in the shower.

No one ever commented, I doubt anyone even noticed

Some of these posts are hilarious! You need to start a new thread. "AIBU to wear knickers to bed"!

Did you have a thread about your h making you drive long distances to pick up dsd on no sleep? Are you feeling ok now?

I wouldn't judge you if I saw you because I'm in the same boat! But please if you are breastfeeding brush your teeth every morning as soon as you wake because breastfeeding makes your teeth really fragile. When my youngest was first born she hardly slept and i started forgetting to brush my teeth and ended up losing a tooth! Had never even had a filling before. So do make sure you are taking care of yourself physically. It doesn't matter if you look a complete mess anyone with any decency would understand why if they see you with a tiny baby.
I just have a school run outfit that I hang on the back of my bedroom door that I wear all week to do the school runs. I wash it at the weekend. I take it off as soon as I get back in the house or dress properly for going out if I need to later. Never wear makeup and just dry shampoo my hair. I have a 4yo and a 5month old.

My youngest is 3 and I did the school run this morning with a coat over my pyjama top and jogging bottoms. I did brush my teeth though

Give yourself a break OP

I honestly had no idea wearing underwear to bed was a thing until I joined Mumsnet

I’m also end. It’s tough when they wake up during the night and again at 6am and then it’s 7.30!abd you have to get up. I’ve slept in on a few occasions and not had time to brush teeth and hair. On those occasions I put my hood up and try and avoid the school mums.

*EBF

I can’t sleep without knickers and pyjamas on. DH doesn’t wear anything. dC don’t like wearing pants under pjs. All different.

I would change my pyjama top, or at least throw something over it, and brush my hair or pull it into a ponytail. Other than that, it's not such a big deal, given that you are just popping out and going straight back home.

I used to shower before bed go to bed with no pants on then quick flannel in the morning and into clean clothes

@hoops2

Not really the place.

School run +breastfed baby can be hell. I've had 2 newborns since my eldest started school. It gets so much easier. Truly. I did tend to prioritise getting myself ready (quick shower, clean clothes, bit of make up) but only because it helped me feel positive about the day, even on v little sleep. If you're comfortable with how you're managing, that's all that matters. And don't compare yourself. People can seem a lot more put together than they are!
It's hard work. You're doing brilliantly 😊