to think I can't be the only one who is a mess on the school run?

[LeenaMarie]

DSD (7) and DS (3 months).

School run I'm about to do this morning (DSD lives 16 miles away so it's a trek at this time when roads are nuts!).

I've got leggings and underwear on I had on yesterday. Still have my pyjama top on under my jumper/coat. Haven't brushed my teeth yet. Etc etc.

Totally exhausted from breastfeeding all night. Found it easier when DS was 0-8 weeks as he slept a lot better. The last month has been HARD!

DH does most of the school runs but he doesn't have to wake up in the night to breastfeed so always has time for a shower and seems really together.

I'm just... a mess when it's my turn!

Anyone else?

I plan on going straight back to bed when I get in as I'm exhausted!

[IdentifyasTired]

School run +breastfed baby can be hell. I've had 2 newborns since my eldest started school. It gets so much easier. Truly. I did tend to prioritise getting myself ready (quick shower, clean clothes, bit of make up) but only because it helped me feel positive about the day, even on v little sleep. If you're comfortable with how you're managing, that's all that matters. And don't compare yourself. People can seem a lot more put together than they are!
It's hard work. You're doing brilliantly 😊

[O4FS]

@hoops2

Not really the place.

[abbsisspartacus]

I used to shower before bed go to bed with no pants on then quick flannel in the morning and into clean clothes

[DistanceCall]

I would change my pyjama top, or at least throw something over it, and brush my hair or pull it into a ponytail. Other than that, it's not such a big deal, given that you are just popping out and going straight back home.

[mammmamia]

I can’t sleep without knickers and pyjamas on. DH doesn’t wear anything. dC don’t like wearing pants under pjs. All different.

[headstone]

*EBF

[headstone]

I’m also end. It’s tough when they wake up during the night and again at 6am and then it’s 7.30!abd you have to get up. I’ve slept in on a few occasions and not had time to brush teeth and hair. On those occasions I put my hood up and try and avoid the school mums.

[Klobluchar]

I honestly had no idea wearing underwear to bed was a thing until I joined Mumsnet

[Purplefrogshoes]

My youngest is 3 and I did the school run this morning with a coat over my pyjama top and jogging bottoms. I did brush my teeth though

Give yourself a break OP

[Ribbonsonabox]

I wouldn't judge you if I saw you because I'm in the same boat! But please if you are breastfeeding brush your teeth every morning as soon as you wake because breastfeeding makes your teeth really fragile. When my youngest was first born she hardly slept and i started forgetting to brush my teeth and ended up losing a tooth! Had never even had a filling before. So do make sure you are taking care of yourself physically. It doesn't matter if you look a complete mess anyone with any decency would understand why if they see you with a tiny baby.
I just have a school run outfit that I hang on the back of my bedroom door that I wear all week to do the school runs. I wash it at the weekend. I take it off as soon as I get back in the house or dress properly for going out if I need to later. Never wear makeup and just dry shampoo my hair. I have a 4yo and a 5month old.

[blackteasplease]

Did you have a thread about your h making you drive long distances to pick up dsd on no sleep? Are you feeling ok now?

[Anonalongadingdong123]

Some of these posts are hilarious! You need to start a new thread. "AIBU to wear knickers to bed"!

[Daytimetellysucks]

My kids are teens so I don’t do the school run anymore but until recently walked the dog early every morning and I’d tie up my hair, chuck jeans and a jumper and a coat over the vest and pants I’d slept in

I’d then get in the shower and get dressed properly when I got back. I wasn’t faffing about brushing hair/teeth changing into clean underwear, only to have to take it off to get in the shower.

No one ever commented, I doubt anyone even noticed

[QuizzlyBear]

Honestly no one will likely know that you're not 'together' yet except you! I doubt anyone's going to sniff your pants or ask to see your undergarments.

I did see one woman on the school run this morning that I judged a bit though - with a toddler and about a 7 year old. She was clearly in her pyjamas and her kids looked a right state but she had a full face of make up on and though she got out of the car on the pavement, I could hear her yelling to her son to just effing get out on the (very busy) road side.

Her I judge, you I do not.

[tryinganewname]

Well my baby is 6 months old and I have no other children.. I'm still in my pyjamas! So you get a round of applause from me. I'm not always so slovenly but we've been out every day this week so I simply can't be bothered today.

When DH gets home I'll have a bath and put fresh pyjamas on. Making the most of it before work & nursery routines kick in!

[Billballbaggins]

Oh for goodness sake. Last I checked my vag wasn’t connected to my lungs.
🤣 so true, I never understand the ‘your fanny needs to breathe’ argument. How much air does one’s minge get when you’re sleeping under a duvet anyway

[Nothisispatrick]

your bits need to breath at night

Oh for goodness sake. Last I checked my vag wasn’t connected to my lungs.

[Allfednonedead]

My username is my motto. I used to go days without showering when I had to get 3 DC to nursery before going to work, and no one ever noticed. (They really didn’t, I used to ask my DH and one close friend).
Just do what you can to survive this bit, it does get easier.

[Billballbaggins]

Baby wipes are your friend, I’d feel gross if I left last nights leggings and knickers on so I’d use a baby wipe to freshen up and put clean knickers and leggings or jeans on if I didn’t have time for a quick shower (which realistically only takes 5 minutes anyway). Always brush teeth as I just feel minging if I don’t. It takes just minutes then I don’t feel like such a mess. Dry shampoo is always handy, I make sure I never run out!

I have 2 DC so I do know how hard it is some days. My children are 5 and 3 now, my motto has always been ‘everyone fed and clean.’ That’s always the goal - a quick wash and breakfast on the go if needed! It’s hard having a young baby but it gets easier.

[thecatsthecats]

I can't sleep without knickers on. Usually it's just knickers, occasionally a top as well. Just conditioning - I can't sleep without an eye mask either.

I change PM to PM, and have an evening shower. There's something about my body temp that means unless I can properly, PROPERLY chill out, my body just sweats, sticks and my super-thick hair never gets fully dry.

If I shower in the morning I've gone to a sweaty muck within an hour, no matter how carefully I dry. With messy, greasy hair too, and a red face (which won't accept make up for a couple of hours after a shower either).

[icannotremember]

Those of you who managed to get to school in better shape, good for you but read between the lines and see that op has had a tricky morning and there's no sense in critcising her for it

Not much sense posting in AIBU to ask if she's the only one who has unbrushed teeth and dirty underwear on when taking her dc to school if only people who will say "yes I would do that/ do do that/ think it's perfectly fine to do that" should answer, though.

[Spudsandspanners]

I really don't get the notion that you have to look perfectly polished to do the school run. Is this a side-effect of SM or something? The idea that someone might coordinate an outfit the night before and get up at 5am to look nice for other mothers (for fear of being labelled a scruff) fills me with pity.

I'm usually clean, but never really 'done up'. My nails are nails of someone who works hard! I'm too busy for that pointless shit. I might think differently when the other half runs off with a woman half his age, but for now I couldn't give hoot.

It's the school gates, not an award ceremony. My son will be starting school in September and I'm due my second in April. I'm half tempted to look a mess on purpose as I don't want to get in to the whole cliquey school gate thing anyway (if it is something that really exists and isn't made up in the DM).

[WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup]

It's really very unpleasant not to change your underwear or brush your teeth. I say this to you gently and with empathy as a breastfeeding mum of 4 (3 of them under 5) you need to figure out a plan. Maybe getting up earlier?

[thebeesknees123]

Those of you who managed to get to school in better shape, good for you but read between the lines and see that op has had a tricky morning and there's no sense in critcising her for it