Stupid PILs knowingly put my baby at risk

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PILs (from other end of the country) came to visit my 2 month old (first visit since new born). Visited most of Saturday and half of yesterday, stayed in a hotel overnight.

As they were leaving yesterday MIL announced that she didn’t want to tell me because they didn’t want to cancel the trip but FIL had been off work sick the previous week. Apparently he’s on antibiotics for a sore throat, fever etc.

Fucking furious.

I have an auto immune disease, my baby is 8 weeks old. How could they be so stupid.

MIL said it literally as she was walking out of the door. AIBU to write a blistering email to the stupid pair of them?

Christ, people. OP is 8 weeks out from giving birth and has a baby who has spent time in the ICU in its short life. A little compassion wouldn’t go astray.

Cut the smug pile on. Some of the behaviour on this thread is disgusting.

OP, the key here is that the PIL intentionally didn’t give you the information. There are posters on this thread defending their lies because apparently lying is a reasonable way to pre-empt behaviour you think is OTT so that you can get your own way and not have to think about how anyone else feels. Those posters sound like pretty horrible people.

Dorsetdays I absolutely believe it is because they are too scared of their ILs to cause a fuss. All this “it’s faaaaamily” as if they get a free pass. Why? Free childcare? Worried about your inheritance?

The ILs were deceitful and the OP has a right to be mad at them. Do you think they’ll doing it again? Of course. Do you think they’ll do it if she sent a “blistering email”? Maybe not.

As for those saying no one sends emails, pick up the phone... the op obviously has experience. Unless if is in writing with these types they will deny you ever called them out.

For those saying get your husband to deal with it, read the thread!

OP, set your boundaries firmly now. It doesn't matter whether you were being OTT or not, it's your child and decide what is best for them. They deliberately deceived you. Call them out on it now, clearly, or they will continue to behave this way.

There was no deceit!
FIL was ill before they visited. He was being treated with antibiotics, and therefore there was no risk to the child at all.
They didn't tell OP when he became ill because OP would have cancelled the visit then and there, unnecessarily. They decided to wait and see how it went. As it was FIL was fine, and there was no need to postpone getting to see their grandchild again. In fact there was no need for MIL to mention it at all - but I suspect she did that not in a mean way to freak OP out but more in a "I'm so glad it all worked out" kind of way.

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis antibiotics mean nothing. What if they dont work because it’s not bacterial? What if if needed penicillin and FIL didn’t have penicillin antibiotics?

FIL was still off sick after the weekend. RTFT.