To kiss my children while they're sleeping

[HettySunshine]

I'm entirely bemused and fairly certain I am not bu but I just want to see what the consensus is.

I was out with a friend today and we were chatting about our dc and sleep and various things and I mentioned that I always look in on mine before I go to bed to make sure they're still under the covers and to give them a kiss.

My friend looked shocked and said I should never kiss my dc while they're sleeping as they have not consented and I'm undermining there body autonomy.

I was a bit but I just moved the conversation on and didn't mention it again.

Does anyone else think IABU to kiss my sleeping children?

No of course you're not. Friend is a loon.

Not at all, perfectly normal if it's something they are comfortable with during the day

Your friend is an absolute loon. I am shocked she thinks like this to be honest

Christ on a bike, I've heard it all now. YANBU, however your friend is nuts.

I always check my children before I go to bed and kiss their heads. I can't go to bed until I've done it. I tell them I do it and they like the thought of me doing it and knowing how loved they are. They're 6 and 3.

Oh ffs. I've heard it all now.
I always used to go into dds room and give her kiss before I went into bed. She had the chubbiest cheeks that you just wanted to bite. I could have eat her when she was little, still could to be honest.

What a strange thing to say. I wouldn’t worry.

WTF?! World's gone mad

Oh FGS. Of course it isn’t unreasonable.

Still do with mine and they are teen and university. Likewise if I go to sleep before them they do it to me. It’s something we’ve all always done as family so don’t seem weird to us (now you have me thinking pmsl)

Depends on their age to some extent.

Toddlers - entirely normal
Adult children - you're the weird one!
In between, well, you know your own children well enough to know how they'd feel about it.

Yes, we all kiss each other often during the day.

Wtf?! Your friend is ridiculous, I do exactly the same as you OP

Your friend sounds a bit cracked in the head lol 😂

I check on mine but I wouldn't dare kiss them for fear of them waking up 😂

YWDNBU! Your friend is very odd.

She’s mad. Though I still remember waking as a child one night, to see my mother’s face about an inch from mine, about to kiss me goodnight. I screamed the house down with fright

@Karenoid lol 😂😂😂

Phew. So pleased I'm not alone. They're all under 6 so definitely not adults. Off to kiss them now!

I'd love to do this, but TBH I spend so long getting her to sleep that for the rest of the evening I'm scared to even flush the loo for fear of starting her up again. But no, YANBU! I often wish I could give her a last cuddle before bed.

Before I got to bed I always check my 2 year olds nappy in case he's done a sneaky poo.

Should I have been waking him up to ask for his consent?

Thirdhair, why would I make it up?

HettySunshine

I do exactly the same as you OP and mine are 7 and 10. Your friends slightly barmy I think.

Isn't this absolutely normal?

Does your friend ask her children for permission before she hugs and kisses them?!

Oh and I kissed my 62yr old dad on the head the other night as he dozed off on the sofa and I was leaving.

You know yanbu OP.Your friend is a loon!