To kiss my children while they're sleeping

[HettySunshine]

I'm entirely bemused and fairly certain I am not bu but I just want to see what the consensus is.

I was out with a friend today and we were chatting about our dc and sleep and various things and I mentioned that I always look in on mine before I go to bed to make sure they're still under the covers and to give them a kiss.

My friend looked shocked and said I should never kiss my dc while they're sleeping as they have not consented and I'm undermining there body autonomy.

I was a bit but I just moved the conversation on and didn't mention it again.

Does anyone else think IABU to kiss my sleeping children?

I think she feels that when they're awake they could refuse to be kissed if they wanted to.

She's lovely but she does have Views.

Just make sure you stop at some point in their lives. My ex-MIL never did.

Each to their own, but I'd say your friend is a few sandwiches short of a picnic. I do it with my DCs and will unless they ask me not to.

I kiss my cat all the time. I haven't asked her permission. It's the price she pays for free board and lodgings and private medicine!

She's weird.

DH and I both go into see our toddler every night before we go to bed, we both kiss him and I always smell his lovely head too.

You must never kiss them in their sleep.

What if they wake up?!

Is your friend also one of the perverted weirdos who thought it was wrong for David beckham to kiss his daughter on the lips?

She is a fucking idiot, I had a woman once tell me not to kiss my son (1yo) as he was pushing my face and 'clearly didn't want a kiss', apparently I was crossing his boundaries and not respecting his privacy, I looked at her straight in the face and said 'well he came out of my fucking privacy'

Always checked in were they comfortable warm and yes kissed them sometimes

My husband kisses me while I'm sleeping sometimes - it's fine. I think when it comes to parent-child relationships you can assume it's a yes for kids and hugs (and they'll soon let you know if they're not in the mood).

I do agree with people saying you shouldn't force little kids to hug or kiss anyone they don't want to but you should certainly hug and kiss you're own kids as much as possible. Pretty much essential for their development.

Your friend sounds like she spends a lot of time on Tumblr.

alohakoopy one of the best comebacks ever!
As for kissing children while they're asleep, it's one of the high points of being a parent, right? They run rings round you in their waking hours, if you can't sneak in a wee kiss when they're mercifully still and silent, I don't know...

Oh and my toddler kisses me when I'm sleeping too. It's his favourite way to wake me up actually.

Your friend's batshit. With ishoos.
Oh and YANBU

Your friend is sooooooo woke. I am genuinely scared for the future of humanity when I read shit like this. I hope you laughed in her face OP

As long as they are not adults sharing a double bed with their partner, then this is fine. If they are, then yes YABVU.

@HettySunshine your friend sounds a total snowflake

I kiss my three every night while they are asleep. Well the baby is asleep he's squirming away next to me but I still kiss him.

How sad a world we live in if this is considered overstepping the boundaries

What a load of old shit .

I’ve checked mine since they were tiny , and yes , sometimes they got a kiss. When they were young sometimes it was the only time they were still enough !

Is she one of those who believes you have to ask for consent before changing a child's nappy?

This seems made up. Nobody is this ridiculous.

Your friend is a knob! I kiss mine every night and can't settle if I haven't, my favourite times are when they sleepily hug me if they wake slightly! I shall continue to do this until they're up past my bedtime!

Yes, I kissed both mine when asleep.... don't do it to DD because she's now a much lighter sleeper and it tends to wake her up, but sometimes son. Not as much as I used to, but still do it if we've been out and didn't put them to bed ourselves.

I get people wanting to be hot on consent, but this is pushing it a bit too far!

It feels like one of those stories that trolls/bots make up to incite hatred and create divisions between people. So we can all go off moaning about snowflakes and political correctness gone mad and this is why we voted Brexit!

Perhaps she also believes that the new born baby should just be dragged across the floor by the umbilical cord until it learns to phrase the permission to let you touch it and pick it up?

What a loon.

Tell this person her children probably didn’t consent to have such a fucked up mother and if she doesn’t stop with such blatant twattery she’ll probably fuck up her kids for life!