To kiss my children while they're sleeping

[HettySunshine]

I'm entirely bemused and fairly certain I am not bu but I just want to see what the consensus is.

I was out with a friend today and we were chatting about our dc and sleep and various things and I mentioned that I always look in on mine before I go to bed to make sure they're still under the covers and to give them a kiss.

My friend looked shocked and said I should never kiss my dc while they're sleeping as they have not consented and I'm undermining there body autonomy.

I was a bit but I just moved the conversation on and didn't mention it again.

Does anyone else think IABU to kiss my sleeping children?

Your friend is batshit.

@Magicstar1

That woman's been reading too much pc rubbish. The kids love being kissed, whether they're asleep or not. It makes them feel secure. Does she recommend you ask them when they're awake "Can I kiss you?"

Why would you kiss them when they're sleeping? You could wake them. Enjoy the quiet while it lasts.

We do this. Dd hates being kissed, especially by dh (she says he’s too prickly of cheek) so the only chance he gets is to creep in when she’s asleep.

She knows we do it and is both amused and mildly irked about it. If dh isn’t careful and wakes her up, he gets punched in the face. Fair’s fair.

I've never known anyone not do this

@randomchap

I’m with you - too afraid to wake them.

The OP’s friend is talking shite though.

My son is 20 and he was ill in bed last week with a heavy (man) cold. I went into his room to check on him and kissed him on his head. He opened his eyes, smiled and said that's nice and gave a me a hug.
Ignore your friend, it's completely normal and natural to kiss your children goodnight.

For the love of god, the people society is creating these days is just completely unfathamable.

YANBU - I do the same with both my children.

I've heard it all now. Your friend is nuts. I always check on youngest and kiss him - not the older teens though. I'd say I'd be asleep before them

Your friend is off her rocker, carry on as you are. It is so lovely to give sleeping kids a kiss, very sad that is construed in a bad way.

I tuck mine in and kiss them on the head before I go to bed. I've told them I do it. Your friend is strange.

I do it every night to my dd. Friend is a prime example of how the world is going mad

Your friend is batshit.

Thank u next......

I often check on my two boys once they're asleep. I usually give them a little kiss too. I also whisper that I love them.
I thought that was normal.
I agree with the assessment that your friend is a loon.

Definitely don't think your unreasonable, mine have a kiss when they get into bed and then I check on them just before I go to bed and give them another kiss on the head and pull up their blanket/duvet

Your friend is weird

You should wake them and ask permission next time

Is she an ask before you change their nappy type also?

I always pop in and kiss my 4 yr old good night. DH promises him I will if I'm not home for bedtime. (I don't disturb the 2yr old who crawls into our bed every night)

The other night he told me off though. "Mummy stop it" "what darling" " stop breaking my bed mum"

You should wake them and ask permission next time

your friend is a fruitloop, OP

HTH

Omg this is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard so when their a baby & they can’t talk and we as parents kiss them, as do others i.e grandparents/cousins etc does this mean we’re doing something wrong? I always kiss my daughters goodnight and then when I go in on my way to bed I kiss them then Aswell. Your friend is crazy

It’s such a motherly thing to do! Beautiful and nurturing. We have an unbreakable bond with our children. A kiss whilst they are sleeping says many important things...I love you, I’m here for you, you are special to me, I look forward to seeing you when you wake etc... it’s precious.

I always kiss my dd before I turn in. I used to kiss my boys too, but they are 21 and 16 now.......that WOULD be weird!

Your friend is loopy.

I can’t sleep unless I’ve looked in on DS (8) I always kiss his head and whisper I love you, best thing ever is when you hear a little sleepy “I love you too” back.

Your friend is bonkers. I kiss my DD at least twice when she is sleeping, once when I pop up to check she is asleep and again when I check her covers are still on, before I go to sleep.

I've kissed my 21 year old (occasional arsehole) son on the head when he is sleeping and said nn darling, love you. He'll sleepily smile and say love you too. It's not an every night thing, in fact quite rare such as when poorly. DD is 10, I'll tuck her back in and give her a kiss and a love you.

If that makes me weird, then you're all fucked in the head.