AIBU to terminate a 3rd pregnancy for financial reasons?

[3rdChild]

We have 2DC and feel our family is complete but I have just found out that I’m pregnant (6 weeks) despite taking precautions.

Really conflicted about whether to go for termination or not. It’s still early days so I would just have to take the tablets for a ‘medical termination’. Would you have the unplanned 3rd child if it would cripple you financially?

Background info to avoid drip feed...I recently started a new job so wouldn’t qualify for any decent maternity pay. We couldn’t afford to survive on DH salary alone and even if I went back to work pretty soon after birth, childcare in London for the youngest 2 DC would be more than my take home pay. We have no family nearby who could support with childcare. WWYD?

I would terminate. I would feel annoyed with myself for getting pregnant (even if it weren’t my fault) but I wouldn’t agonise over the actual abortion. I would definitely want it over and done with as soon as possible.
💐💐

FYI before any of my kids now I’d had an abortion. Don’t regret it. It’s whatever works for you.

I was reading a thread on here this morning from a woman with 4 kids including a baby, (3 at school) they had big debts, tension because the DH thought she needed to look for a job, she didn’t, and anyway the childcare costs..... tension in tne marriage, struggling for money...

It seems very sensible, responsible and rational to me not to have more children if we can’t support the whole family.

I have had a termination without the slightest regret.

It’s allowed. You don’t need our permission.

I couldn't. But you're not me. The only thing I would say, given how difficult you had found it in the past to have children, you need to be certain that if this were your absolutely last ever possibility to have a baby, then the decision was still the right one. Good luck with a difficult decision.

3rdchild

Just noticed your update, I wonder if sometimes making the decision isn't actually the hardest bit, at least the pill was still an option.