To not want to be repaid in food and drinks?

[ButterbeerPancakes]

About 5 months ago, a friend of mine borrowed £1,100 from me due to some financial issues she was experiencing. The initial plan was that she would repay me £100 every month for 11 months. Thus far, I've received a grand total of £150.

I know it's not my place to judge her lifestyle, but I've seen her spending frivolously (imo at least), so it's not as if she can't cough up the money she'd previously promised to pay me.

Asked her about it earlier today, and apparently she has "nothing left" after paying off her bills and that maybe instead of cash she could "buy me food and drinks here and there" since we've been "friends for such a long time anyway".

AIBU to think that this is bloody ridiculous? I don't really need the money but at the same time I can't help feeling like she's taking the piss out of me, years of friendship be damned.

Sorry I just read your update, my bad. Well done for standing up to her and I'm sorry she reacted the way she did. Tbh it sounds typical of a toxic person and though it is sad now you'll probably be better off without her in your life xxxx

Does this mean that she has blocked me?!?

I'd say so, yes.

It's no loss, is it? 'at least now I know who my true friends are.' Cheeky bitch.

I hope you've taken up the offer of repayment from her mum.

Waves at CF mum clearly on MN!

Well done to her mum, who can see that CF spending £10 a day in Starbucks is mkre than what she needs to pay you back. Sorry about your friendship but you know where it stands now.

Wow, I bet her mum ripped her a new one! My parents would've done exactly the same thing (not that I would ever screw over a friend like she's done) and been furious. I'm glad it's getting sorted.

That's settled then. Good.

Maybe the mum is enabling her dd or maybe she has give her dd such a rocket that she'll never do it again. Maybe she's setting a good example. I hope it's that last, and not just icking up the pieces again. We'll probably never .

Block the dd, op, she's not someone you want to know now. Don't be embarrassed about telling people if it comes up either.

I’m glad you get the money back. I always feel sorry for the parents of these people you read about on mumsnet. A fair few must be like this woman’s - horrified at how their children behave to others, and thought they’d brought them up to be decent human beings.

I have been successful with a claim through small claims court without having the loan in writing , the person did not dispute that the money was outstanding , just hadn't bothered to pay me it back , it was about 15 years ago - not sure how much anything has changed

Gosh OP, that's a bitter pill to swallow.

You're obviously well-shot of her, but I suspect that doesn't give you much consolation.

Good luck.

Ya, fair play for the mother for stepping up but don't feel sorry for her until every penny has been paid back. Hope she is not expecting you to back down too! Keep it business like, no chatty texts and when you have all your money back send a text to the mother letting her know the loan has been repaid in full. Just don't cave in the coming months if mother starts to say she can't afford it.

Definitely don't off load at the mother. She is doing the decent thing.

She is stuck with the CF. Thank God you are not. I would not contact her at all. I would consider the friendship dead. She is a user. She has made you feel like shit after you tried to help her.

Glad you're getting your money back OP!

I had a work friend who bought me some car parts on her credit card as I didn't have one. It was £75 which was a lot of money in 1992. I paid her straight away but then a couple of weeks later she was bragging to the office that her parents pay all her credit card bills. I didn't say anything but never took her up on any more offers to pay for stuff on her credit card. Obviously I wasn't out of pocket but it's not on to use me to make money out of her parents!

@ButterbeerPancakes—been following this with interest—it’s the first of the month, has a second payment come through?

Gosh I’m a nosy lurker. Ooh, good one for my next name change!