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Argument with neighbour AIBU

204 replies

SoundsExciting · 09/01/2019 20:29

Hi all!
I live in a small block of flats and neighbours are not really chatty towards each other but rather civilised. The majority rents and I am a home owner. In the past, the flat not directly below me (lets call Flat X) had some problems with a leak and I opened my door maybe 2 or 3 times for the lady who lives there to check if the problem was coming from my flat - which was not.

In another situation someone from their TV licence came along and asked to use my balcony to fix something. Nothing major and I did not mind opening my door for them in any of those situations.

However, last week I snapped off my keys to enter the building and still haven't got time to get a new one. I will be doing this tomorrow morning. My husband also needs new keys but usually I buzz him in or he uses the fire scape door.

Today afternoon I buzzed some flats randomly just so I could get inside the building and someone buzzed me in. Then neighbour from flat X open his door and asks if it was me buzzing. I said "yes, thank you so much my keys are broken...". He then tells me in a not friendly manner to "never buzz his door again" and he would "not open anymore because its been for days" quite aggressively (not to mention rude). I came home as I was carrying my chid but decided to leave and confront him so I knocked at his door.

I asked to speak to his wife (as I dealt with her in the past reading the leak) and asked how many times I opened my door for her. She said "only twice" and her husband then said I should apologise for buzzing his door, for knocking at his door and that I have been waking their children up for days. I must mention that I broke my keys on Thursday morning and we were away for the weekend returning this Monday. Since then, I have being at home and my husband been to work but I was always able to open the front door for him so I doubt he's been waking up their children once let alone "for days".

So I asked her to never knock on my door again and if she has any problem should speak to her landlord or the management.

She then said her landlord would knock my door down which I responded saying that "your landlord would need to think twice before doing so because I own my place and I am also a [insert here my profession]". Her husband interrupted me asking if I was threatening them and for me to watch my language.

I explained that was not a threat and I was referring to their landlord knocking my door down. Pasting this subject they moved on to "you should apologise because it is annoying when you buzz" and I said I would not assist them again like I had in the past - and pointed out that I did not mind as we are neighbours and everybody can have an emergency. They said they would never have a "key emergency".

All this confrontation because of a key. I honestly do not think I was wrong in buzzing - it was the first time I ever did to be honest. My husband has been living here for over 10 years and never had any problem. I have been living here for 5 years and not had a single problem until now.

I would not mind opening a front door - specially because you do not need to get out of your flat to do that, you just need to press the telephone.

I also must point out that sometimes the postman buzzes any door just to get inside the building and use our mail box for large deliveries. Counteless times I buzzed him in with someone else's parcel.

AIBU or are my neighbours right? Of course you can do whatever you want to your own buzzer but please be reasonable - would you not open for a neighbour if its before 5:30pm?

OP posts:
Zariiya · 10/01/2019 03:44

Yeah seriously why didn't you just apologise and sort your key

Why are you so argumentative

Zariiya · 10/01/2019 03:45

And entitled

Justagirlwholovesaboy · 10/01/2019 03:56

Yep as most as said you are being reasonable, and more so you are acting like you are above those you live alongside

Justagirlwholovesaboy · 10/01/2019 03:56

Unreasonable even!

BoomBoomsCousin · 10/01/2019 04:07

Your neighbour was VU to talk to you in that way. You were pretty U to argue back, and VU to return to knock on their door to speak to the woman.

I think you are a bit unreasonable to not have got your keys done before now. Going away for the weekend shouldn't really make much difference - places all over the world copy keys and it doesn't take long. And you've been managing for some time with no spare at all which is kind of inconsiderate, given it's obvious it will likely be an imposition on others if something should happen to the one key you have. But getting through the week with only once having to ask a neighbour to buzz you in is only a minor imposition, not a huge one. I don't think that really compares to the argument.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/01/2019 04:24

I would be pissed off to share a building with you OP, as you clearly buzz anyone in without checking and therefore compromising everyones security. I would be interested to know if insurance would pay out in the case of a burglary if they had been buzzed in by you while posing as a delivery person.

Barchester · 10/01/2019 04:36

I am entirely bemused OP. You have "snapped off" your keys (whatever that means) and had to be "buzzed in" by a neighbour. That obviously got you into the block but how did you then plan to get into your own flat?

Zariiya · 10/01/2019 04:53

Are you serious Barchester

I have never known of a flat key to be the same key used to get Into the block of flats

Are you ok Hmm

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 10/01/2019 05:13

Unfortunately, OP, your post comes off rather entitled and disingenuous. I think that's why you're having a hard time here. It reminds me of when celebrities get stopped for a DUI and are arrested, and then scream "Do you even KNOW who I AM?!! to the police officer.

SusieQ5604 · 10/01/2019 05:15

Boy, next time they need a favor from you, I'd remember their attitude. The world is round. Although I wouldn't have gone down and picked the fight, that doesn't take away their dickiness.

Rockmysocks · 10/01/2019 05:19

Sumo wrestler. Even if the door got broken down they wouldn't be able to shift her out of the way or get round her and she'd grab them round their knicker elastic and hoik them out again.

floribunda18 · 10/01/2019 05:45

Don't you know who I am? 😂

Rockmysocks · 10/01/2019 05:59

Floribunda could it be lulu? She sounded feral from reports on the babs Windsor thread yesterday and with her links to the krays....

ItsThisOneThing · 10/01/2019 06:06

Don't know why you're getting such a hard time OP. Your neighbours sound awful, there's no need for that.

Rosehip10 · 10/01/2019 06:56

Op why are are you ignoring the question that a.) If neither of you had keys then how will you get them cut? (Or if you had a spare set somewhere or with someone then why not use them? b.) Does working in a community centre for disadvantaged children really intimidate your neighbours so much?

Rosehip10 · 10/01/2019 06:59

Also your husband using the fire escape is a massive security risk to the block. Hope your neighbours report that.

troubleswillbeoutofsight · 10/01/2019 07:35

You’re a social worker aren’t you

LagunaBubbles · 10/01/2019 07:39

I understand about mentioning my profession - but this was because the wife said their landlord would knock my door down

Stull don't see what your profession has to do with it! Confused

ChesterGreySideboard · 10/01/2019 07:45

I still don’t understand how your key has broken and what this ‘problem’ is that your DH has with his keys.
How are you going to get a new one cut anyway?

ChesterGreySideboard · 10/01/2019 07:45

I’m guess op is police.

Pk37 · 10/01/2019 07:47

I used to get this all the time when I lived in a flat, so annoying !!
Sometimes I’d even get it at 2 in the morning because people were drunk and had lost their key fob.
Get your keys sorted , they’re a priority and no excuse not to have sorted them straight away . I’d have done them the day I went away or as soon as I’d got back .
Also why would TV licensing need access to your balcony ? Confused

purpleelk · 10/01/2019 07:57

What I’m getting is that the OP only NOW realised she actually needs to borrow someone else’s key to cut herself and her husband one. You’d think as a homeowner and a professional, she’d get a couple of spares the moment her husband (who is the original flat owner) didn’t have a key.

So off she went to another neighbour with an exaggerated tale badmouthing the first neighbour and begging to borrow a key to copy.

llangennith · 10/01/2019 08:02

purpleeik sums it up perfectly.

anniehm · 10/01/2019 08:05

Yabu you buzzed the first time, fair enough but it takes 10 mins at most to cut a key, it should have been prioritised by you. If you need access to their flat for repairs etc that's very different to buzzing you in because you could not get round to cutting one.

OrgyofSausages · 10/01/2019 08:10

Your OP reads like the transcript of a spat between two 13 year olds. Stop whining and get your bloody keys cut. Showing off about owning your home? and boasting about your 'profession'? really? who does that in the grown up land of mature and sensible people? Hmm

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