To be annoyed we were still expected to pay?

[Mumosa]

Hi all some advice would be appreciated as i’m unsure if i’m right in feeling this way. So the situation goes, a friend of mine was having a party and wanted to hire a hot tub for it. There was only 3 couples attending this small party and we all agreed to split the cost. However the day of the party my husband got severe food poisoning and ended up in hospital so obviously we couldn’t attend. Our friends continued with the party and enjoyed the hot tub. However the day after they asked for our part of the money. I was surprised but paid up as didn’t want to get into a debate. The thing is at the time I was off on maternity leave and financially we weren’t doing great. The other 2 couples have no kids, full time jobs and living very comfortably. I just felt it was a bit shitty of them to ask for the money after everything that happened? What do you think? Cheers

What should have happened is you should have offered to pay, they should have refused, and though some polite negotiation you'd have arrived somewhere in the middle.

They're within their rights to ask.

Sorry if this has been asked, but are you a swinger?

@AlaskanOilBaron

No not swingers.....sorry

Of course YABU !

And you should have offered to pay your part when you let your friends down. People like you do my head in, so lacking in self awareness. They probably would have refused if you had the grace to offer so you shot yourself in the foot with your sense of entitlement.

No not swingers.....sorry

That's disappointing.

Sadly, having agreed to pay, you were committed to paying your share.

I hope your husband is better.

It would have been nice if the others had said they would pay your share as you couldn't come, since it was due to illness. But strictly speaking, you were committed to cough up. Sorry!

If you're pregnant, you shouldn't go in a hot tub. Why did you agree in the first place?

I would have offered. Not sure I would have asked for the money though.

@pollymere I don't think OP was pregnant?