AIBU to think that a 50 year old man.

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AIBU to think that a 50 year old man who sets his OLD profile to looking for a woman between 27-50 (amd specifies she must be slim) isn’t looking for a woman towards the top end of the age range?

*He is very attractive going by his profile picture.

So true. The more you deny it, the more they'll tell you that no, deep down you really are eaten up inside that 50 year old blokes on the web are chasing young women who are laughing at them.

Yep.

I think what I couldn't have understood when I was younger is that yes, you will mourn the passing of your beauty and the power it confers and the joy it brings (even though you might not even notice how beautiful you were until it begins to fade ). But it will (if you're lucky, I guess) give way to different assets that - shock! -men will still find attractive.

I think what I couldn't have understood when I was younger is that yes, you will mourn the passing of your beauty and the power it confers and the joy it brings (even though you might not even notice how beautiful you were until it begins to fade ).

I think there's a bit of a misconception that young=beautiful. Sure, it's easier to be hot when you're young - and that goes for both men and women - but most young people are not beautiful at all. As I think I mentioned earlier, I work in a uni so am surrounded by young folk all the time. Very very few of them are stunningly attractive. Most are very average. And of course, the few who are gorgeous won't be scouring the net looking for 50 year olds.

But it will (if you're lucky, I guess) give way to different assets that - shock! -men will still find attractive.

Any man who's worth it, at any rate. But if others will only consider women half their age.... let them. They'll almost certainly end up being bitterly disappointed, and might become one of those saddos spending thier life's savings on one of those scam 'matrimonial agencies' in Kiev or Bangkok.

Made me think of this twitter.com/brittvpod/status/1083379903620440064?s=21

This attempt to make dating ‘equal opportunities’ is ridiculous, shaming those who are honest and express what they actually would like, and I’m assuming peddled by jealous older women (and men in other contexts)

Eh? I love being in my 40s and have no desire to be 27 again, nor am I interested in a much younger partner. Why do some people assume that everyone is obsessed with youth?

I'm much more fun now than in my 20s, when I was v. career-focused and worried about making my way in life...it was stressful! Now I do what makes me happy and I don't care if anyone fancies me!

What on earth is creepy or wrong with a grown woman of 27 (that's nearing 30!) dating a 50 year old?!
This place is utterly bizarre sometimes.

The lack of self-awareness of the irony of some posters’ comments is hilarious and flabbergasting in equal measure!

On one level they lambast the man who wants to select a partner based on her age (with 26 being far too young) as shallow, and in the very next sentence state how obvious and natural it is that a 20 something woman would select a male partner based on his age (with 50 being far too old - repulsive even!)

On one level they lambast the man who wants to select a partner based on her age (with 26 being far too young) as shallow, and in the very next sentence state how obvious and natural it is that a 20 something woman would select a male partner based on his age (with 50 being far too old - repulsive even!)

While age gap relationships can work and be based on solid foundations, a man who specifies that he will only date much younger women is likely doing so for shallow reasons - because he thinks young women are 'hotter' or because he feels they will be less challenging. Same is true for women who insist on only dating much younger men, but funnily enough, it's quite rare for women to make such a specification.

My DH is 10 years young than me and I'm very happy 😁

Younger. Stupid phone

While age gap relationships can work and be based on solid foundations, a man who specifies that he will only date much younger women is likely doing so for shallow reasons

But this man didn’t do that. His age range was 26-50!

But this man didn’t do that. His age range was 26-50!

Well yes, in theory... but most of us here are sceptical about his sincerity.

I've always made it a rule never to date someone young enough that I could have given birth to them, legally or not

Perfect. If you're happy with that, then there's no problem. I'd find it somewhat limiting so, rather than coming up with some arbitrary algebraic equation, I just make sure the guys I 'date' are at least 18. Works for me. Doubtless others find it 'creepy'. Oh, and 'predatory'— especially when I loiter around schools with bags of sweets. Pffft!

Well yes, in theory... but most of us here are sceptical about his sincerity.

I can’t imagine many 50 yo men, who would be more than happy to go out with someone close to their own age, would pass up the opportunity to go out with someone in their mid-20s... so why should such a man have to eschew the possibility simply to satisfy the insecure 40-somethings!

From what I can gather (!) a well-preserved woman in her 40s or 50s would have little trouble finding "an attractive 27 year old to bonk

In my experience, never was a truer word spoken

Scientifically speaking this is incorrect since sperm are NOT the age of the producer "If I was a 27 year old who wanted children I would want healthy young sperm not 50-year-old sperm" sperm are produced fresh all the time!

However, unfortunately for us women we are born with EVERY SINGLE EGG we will ever produce so a 50 year old woman has 50 year old eggs.

The comment in quotation marks posted by someone else earlier is incorrect... not the OP original post.

Gosh, it's truly lucky that all the middle-aged hopefuls have people so willing to stick up for them, and their right to have unfettered access to 20-somethings. What would they do without you?

Answer: be stuck with a woman their own age, probably insecure, the poor sods.

Scientifically speaking this is incorrect since sperm are NOT the age of the producer

Yes, but genetic mutations creep in with increasing regularity as a man ages. There is significant evidence that paternal age is correlated with miscarriage and birth defects. Not to mention that older men are less virile and therefore less likely to get a woman pregnant in the first place.

why should such a man have to eschew the possibility simply to satisfy the insecure 40-somethings!

Insecure? Is that a variant on jealous? As in, we're all jealous because the web is heaving with 50 something men chasing the same young women who are busy running away from them?

whether a man or a woman - who are we to say what age is the 'right' age I say live and let live and if a 27 year old woman finds a 50 year man attractive so be it and vice versa if a 27 year old man finds a 50 year old woman attractive so be it... what is it to anyone else?

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Well what is your problem then?! If a 50 yo man wants to state on OLD that he would be interested in meeting someone in their late-20s (as well as 30s and 40s) why the hell shouldn’t he?

Well what is your problem then?! If a 50 yo man wants to state on OLD that he would be interested in meeting someone in their late-20s (as well as 30s and 40s) why the hell shouldn’t he?

As I've said upthread, I don't have a problem. The web is full of geezers chasing young women, and full of young women laughing at them. One more isn't going to make a difference.

whether a man or a woman - who. are we to say what age is the 'right' age I say live and let live and if a 27 year old woman finds a 50 year man attractive so be it and vice versa if a 27 year old man finds a 50 year old woman attractive so be it... what is it to anyone else?

Fair enough I suppose. I'm not a huge fan of larger age gaps simply because of the couples I know IRL. I wouldn't want to be in the situations they're in.

Men are fantasists. What woman would look twice at him if he wasn’t well off?

Because,at Least in NYC many 50yo look just as good if not better than many 25 - 40 yo. They're trying to hedge their bets