to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

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^That.
It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

Cliquey is one thing mn is not I believe. I recognise a handful of names and participate in a couple of long running thread series that I know more names in. Other than that I barely register any names and never noticed a clique.

Says the poster whose name has generated an acronym on a particular set of long-running threads. but its meaning is regularly explained to newbies on that thread - so it's not a clique. it's more like a 'club' where new members are always welcome but occasionally there may be in-jokes etc - I think there are a few threads like that, but they're good, inclusive not exclusive.

No worries, @MsLucyLastic, I read it as you intended and hope my post didn’t come across as being critical of you.

@MsLucyLastic

You've kind of proved my point, you've said pretty much what I said upthread but didn't acknowledge my post!

It's all good, I just what wanted to say it does happen!

Not at all @PavlovianLunge

Online Some people like groups,the generally shared purpose & views so they gravitate to groups and exhibit group behaviour
Habitually Exhibiting praise for a poster is a group behaviour,protective mechanism. The praise is to elicit a bond or signal I’m with you
Conversely,others online like to do their own thing and eschew being in a group

And yes some frequent posters attract their fans, groupies who will praise them and their posts. This in itself isn’t necessarily problematic. It depends on how the frequent flyer reacts to their fans

@Coolhwip - oh God, I am so sorry. I didn't read all the posts before posting. I am really, really sorry. You worded it much better too!

I made quiche with pigs in blankets in it the other day.

I think people tend to notice 2 kinds of posters - the ones they absolutely disagree with, and the ones they almost always agree with. I always notice @Bluntness100 and @FrancisCrawford for example, because they tend to have very similar views to mine.

It’s not anything personal or a concious decision if you don’t get replies.

Well yes there is that Errol

That's one of the long running threads I meant where you do get to recognise names but it doesn't feel like a clique I don't think.

I am SO behind on TA. I hate it when work is crazy busy and I miss the lunchtime airing

Come the fuck in ,or fuck the fuck off.

oh God, I am so sorry. I didn't read all the posts before posting. I am really, really sorry. You worded it much better too! blushflowers

Please don't be sorry, ordinarily I would never say it but it seemed fitting due to the subject of the thread! grin] Just shows it happens easily. Your wording was much better

Come the fuck in ,or fuck the fuck off.
Ahh there is always an opportunity to quote Malcom tucker

Oh I thought I was in my first ever clique on TA thread, now you bastards have ruined it for me. Not to be

Fenella Quiche from pigs in blankets is genius! I may be missing the point (everyone will ignore me anyway).

Our eldest is sitting her GCSE's this year and is very stressed out. She's constantly shouting at me and says if she fails it is all my fault. She refuses all help at school, because she doesn't need it she says, but it's obvious she is paralysed by the fear of failure. She just told me there's no point even revising for her first exam next week, because she knows nothing and will fail anyway...I'm at my wits end, any suggestions?

@chemenger I might have had a lot of when I did the Christmas food order, and ordered 16 packs instead of 6 - we’ve been eating pigs in blanket EVERYTHING for 2 weeks now!!

I am SO behind on TA.

I got so far behind I missed a few (no longer available!) but I've caught up now.

Oh I thought I was in my first ever clique on TA thread, now you bastards have ruined it for me.

there's probably quite a few people going 'huh?', will that do?

I CBA reading through 9 pages of this so can some kind person enlighten me: was it ever established which posters are IN this "clique"?

Asking for a friend.

Mumsnet is so fetch

Fetch ain’t never going to happen

I CBA reading through 9 pages of this so can some kind person enlighten me: was it ever established which posters are IN this "clique"?

Only mnhq has the list, Becayse there are sixteen million of us.🤣

Fenella, agree, I notice those who I agree or disagree with, some folks I recognise the posting style, past that I don't look at names.

Cu, is that a test to see if you're ignored ? 🤣

I'm sending you your very own BOOP @birdsdestiny

On the subject of being ignored (I'm a bit behind here) it must be awful to be Annie who posts an idea of genius, which
Betty then quotes in bold
adding this^
then everyone believes it was Betty's idea, OP thanks Betty profusely and everyone ignores Annie who wishes she was dead .

Cu71 your post here will be lost amongst the chatter. Do repost in Education and the helpful bods there will reply in depth I'm sure.

Right the rest of you - is just words on a screen, bumping gums etc. Arf.

it used to be cliquey, back when it was a fraction of the size it is now

I've been here on and off since 2005 and I find it much more impersonal and egalitarian than it used to be.

What cliques are you noticing now, op?

I'm not in any of them

Just to say I am on the thread that uses BOOP and I didn’t know where it came from. I thought I was in that clique...