to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

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It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

Lucky I'd take Duran Duran bloke instead. I still love him. I'm sure a week at my farm with my sheep and my lithe 59 year old body would cure him of his muddle headed vegan ideas.

Blunt maybe you're right but then I think what time I'll be wasting arguing the toss when I could be doing other things.

I think OP has a point, in that people have favourite posters and are more likely to respond to them. I don't think there are cliques though

See... I don't agree. Unless it's the Trump threads in which I'm over invested heavily involved, I don't even see or notice who's posted. I just read the post and reply, or not, as the case might be

derxa you go girl!

ok so i post on say three threads for stamp collecting, llama owners and raw chicken eaters

are these just examples OP or are you really a raw chicken eater?

I don't tend to notice names unless it is on a particular topic I follow. I don't expect to get responses when I write unless I ask a question but I assume people read my comments - why wouldn't they?

I do seem to have the superpower of killing a previously active thread.

Bluntness
That's what I do. I just speak my mind and people can take it or leave it. If they argue I may interact further or I don't if I can't be bothered.

And yes you often find that the general consensus of opinion is swinging one way and then you get a poster who challenges it and the tide turns the other way.

I am such a crappy fan that I don't even know if JT is vegan. He probably is though. Trying to reverse all the goings on from the 80s.

John Taylor never gets any quiche- he’s much slower to the buffet than the others.

He’s usually seen in a corner, nibbling pineapple and cheese from a cocktail stick.

The only time I recognise names is usually the telly addicts or style and beauty type threads as it is often the same people that tend to post a lot on these topics and they are more chatty type threads.

Bugger circle I've ruined your record.

Roussette and
You see OP I 'know' Roussette from a thread I posted and she was incredibly kind. Otherwise she'd probably give me a good kicking on political threads.

People who are feisty are always remembered.

U ok hun?

Hehe derxa I just warble on nonsense on the political threads I have got away with it up until now

circle I promise you, I kill loads of threads! I say something witty, or informative, or heartfelt and..... tumbleweed.... poof, thread dies!

I've been on here nearly 15 years. It's not cliquey anymore. Name change saw to that.

And I name change OFTEN and still get replies both when I start a thread or am on one.

WTF Yule??? Even my superpower has gone now..

Rousette I think tumbleweed might be a good name change for me

*I think you're maybe reading more into what a forum is than is real.

This isn't a group of people chatting, and someone trying to join the convo. It's simply a bunch of posts. If you Post something someone agrees with, or disagrees with or finds interesting they will comment on it. If you post something that catches no ones interest they don't.

It's all about rhe post. It's not about the person. It's not a group of friends.*

I agree with this now but would have utterly disagreed 10 years ago. Or even 2 years ago.

There was a huge tendency for posters who knew each other on a thread to engage in mutual backslapping, often to the exclusion of others.....even the OP.

Even now, people fangirl WorraLiberty, Anyfucker and Sparklingbrook. All of whom are lovely posters with wise words who add a lot to MN. But people do tend to respond to their posts and not earlier posters who may have made the exact same point.

I don't think there are cliques now. Just people who desperately want recognisable posters to acknowledge them, as some weird validation.

isn't JT too old to be a hipster vegan?

I don't eat raw chicken but the llamas do or maybe it's what i stick the stamps on with

John Taylor never gets any quiche- he’s much slower to the buffet than the others.

I agree, and another nastiness.

Even now, people fangirl WorraLiberty, Anyfucker and Sparklingbrook. All of whom are lovely posters with wise words who add a lot to MN. But people do tend to respond to their posts and not earlier posters who may have made the exact same point.

Yes, I find this very noticeable at times. And that’s not a dig at those posters, they’re going about their MN business as we all do, but they do seem to attract fawners.

OP, MN is very much what you make it. Don’t waste energy worrying about what others might think or respond to, just chip on where and when it feels right. You fit in, we all do.

I've not had quiche for ages

I haven't noticed any cliques but I've only been here for a couple of years. I post where I think I can give advice but don't always go back & check if it's been noticed. I know one RL friends name here (& I think she knows mine) so I notice if she's posted but not so much others.

I am on the sweary thread & it's definitely not a clique - we're even semi nice to posters who come on just to tell us off for swearing.

Cliquey is one thing mn is not I believe. I recognise a handful of names and participate in a couple of long running thread series that I know more names in. Other than that I barely register any names and never noticed a clique.

So, YABU

@PavlovianLunge yes, what I said wasn't meant in a derogatory way about @Sparklingbrook, @WorraLiberty and @AnyFucker.

They are excellent posters, but some Mumsnetters seem desperate to gain validation and recognition from them, and fawn all over them. I just worry that they could feel embarrassed and uncomfortable.

I suspect some people take it all a bit personally, so they behave oddly on line, either fan girl or irate stalker, it's all very odd, but I think it's the minority of posters, I think most get this is an anonymous forum.