to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

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^That.
It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

Oh yep.

Have said what above poster said quite a few times as agreed with them and couldn't be arsed to type it out myself, nowt to do with popularity.

Just pure laziness .

All joking aside, some of the brilliant people here have got me through the last 4 lousy months, after the sudden death of my mum.

I bloody love you lot. Thanks.

thanks for the drapey arm roussette, I won’t reciprocate but cheers!

It's not.
It's just a bunch of people typing words on a screen.
Some are helpful
Some are funny
Some are grumpy

Just like in RL

onlylonely. What you said - I totally agree 😉

Does this thread prove to you op there is no cliques and no ignoring? You've got some regular or long term posters responding to you on here, and all saying the same thing, likely because regular or long term posters are the most qualified to answer this accurately,

You can't sit with us

@Sparklingbrook

I am not a quiche fan. It's just a soggy omelette in pastry

I love this description. I have never understood the appeal of quiche.

You feeling a bit ignored? Or not listened to?

Don't take mumsnet too seriously. I've been here for over a decade with a few breaks.

The group threads can be fast moving and they see people come and go so mumsnetters may not emotionally invest straight away. May take a moment or two for you to feel like your part of the group. Saying that most group threads are fab, supportive and worth their weight in gold! It's worth persevering.

The threads that are not groups.,..can be a free for all and that's ok too.
I've learned a lot from fellow mumsnetters and I hope that I've added value to others over the years too.

So stick with it OP, it's worth it!

Now I feel excluded from the being excluded from cliques I don’t know about clique. FFS.

Love this hahaha...

You're welcome lipstick

I suppose bottom line for me is... I don't take it too seriously, I don't easily take offence, I very very often type out a whole post disagreeing but on knowing I will get flamed, I just don't post it cos I can't be arsed to get in a scrap. I sometimes luckily stumble across a thread with the most amazing humour that just taps into mine and laugh like a drain.

I just wish I'd known about MN or it had been around when my lot were very young, I desperately needed advice at times and this place would've been great. I joined too late really and mine are now adults but I feel young in myself and don't have GC so not ready for Gransnet

Lucky there's always the 'crustless quiche' which is the soggy cold omelette on it's own. Bleurgh.

Now I can't understand a crustless quiche because I like the pastry on a quiche. My friend makes the most amazing quiches, I bet she'd convert you quiche haters out there

I'm enjoying all the explanations of quiche. I'm in the soggy omelette camp but I think it becomes tolerable with some piggy in the middle. Sorry vegetarians. 🐷

I think that it used to be, but not noticed it much lately.

It an be annoying when you post a salient point that isn't noticed & then someone else posts the same thing & is lauded for it.

When that happens I've assumed oversight rather than that my face doesn't fit.

I'm not very tall though so am used to being overlooked

Higgedy do a tortilla that’s blummin gorgeous. I think it’s feta, spinach and roasted red peppers. No sogginess there.

I bugger off for a bit and you lot have formed your own quiche

I don’t even like quiche
Even pastry can’t redeem that eggy blob
And sparkling’s banging the bloke from Duran Duran again
Oops
I mean banging on about the bloke from Duran Duran

I've been here about 10 years and have about half a dozen names that I rotate and I don't recognise as many names as I used too, I think people NC more often nowadays. I have never been in a quiche or a clique

Does the bloke from Duran Duran that Sparkling's banging on about eat crustless quiche, normal quiche or quiche with a piggy in the middle?

I bet Duran Duran man is über hipster so is gluten free and vegan

I don't take it too seriously, I don't easily take offence, I very very often type out a whole post disagreeing but on knowing I will get flamed, I just don't post it cos I can't be arsed to get in a scrap

Ach, you should just post it, and if you can't be arsed arguing just leave the thread. I do. I think you will find if you're thinking it, so will others be, but too scared to get into it.

The way I tend to look at it, is the way some folks post, especially the odd ones who stalk you because you once disagreed with them. That it is very unlikely I would chose to interact with them in real life, so why should I bother about it on line.

Post what you think and don't give a shit about it. Argue back if you're in the mood past that just ignore it.

On the few threads that you appear to want to join - ones with regular posters on specific topics, I suspect they have loads of randoms posting once or twice who then disappear so they concentrate on each other. If you hang around long enough and become a "regular' I suspect you will become included.

On normal threads most posts are responded to by most people, to what they say, not who says it.

I was too late for the cliques. Pity since I love being ignored and then moaning about it

@derxa do you want some gluten free vegan quiche? The bloke from Duran Duran didn't want it.

I think OP has a point, in that people have favourite posters and are more likely to respond to them. I don't think there are cliques though.

There is still a minority of fangirls (e.g. I like AnyFucker's posts but the way some posters applaud her even most briefest posts is a bit cringe, but that's not AF's fault).

The main thing is apathy. There are so many posts on some threads where some awful things have happened to people. It's sad when someone's post is not even acknowledged, but there are sometimes just too many. I think it's right MN doesn't have thumbs up/down facility on posts but it would be nice to give people flowers at the touch of a button.

There are up sides to being ignored. I've been targeted twice over the weekend - once when I was less forthright than a lot of other people on a thread which was subsequently deleted and today by a poster who appears to be new but obviously isn't.