To be utterly against MIL moving in!

[Sleepingbabiesareamyth]

I’ve got to go back to work later this year after having my first baby a few months ago. My DH has stated that he does not want us to be spending ‘loads of money on childcare unnecessarily’. He and my MIL have both been pushing me to agree to MIL moving in with us so she can look after the baby when I go back to work.
She currently lives in rented accommodation and isn’t working (out of choice). I find her very hard to be around for more than a couple of days at a time as I feel that she is trying to take over and control every aspect of my life. I.e. anything I say regarding the baby she always knows better on and will do her way regardless of my opinion. DH doesn’t see a problem at all with this.
AIBU about both DH & MIL wanting her to move in. Should I just ‘suck it up’ as it would save us a lot of money?
I just feel that I would no longer get any say in my child’s life and this is stressing me out hugely.

It's been 24 hours, it's safe to say OP isn't coming back.

Hopefully this thread has helped someone else

Btw, can we ban OPs that don't come back? A time waste for 150+ people.

Why ban OPs who don't come back? Presumably they post about their real life issues - it's not entertainment for the rest of us. I've just read another thread where one particularly nosey strident poster kept pushing for the OP to give details of medical treatment she'd received. Giving the details would have made not a jot of difference to the advise people were offering.

Daycare costs are temporary.

Your MIL’s stay won’t be.

Millions of women are working mothers. It’s challenging but not impossible.

Getting your MIL out of your house will be.

You will “owe” her. She helped you care for your baby/babies in infancy and early childhood, and she and Hubby will expect YOU to care for her when she’s back in her infancy/second childhood.

Of course your husband thinks this is a great idea. He gets all the benefits. He’ll keep on plugging along, doing what he’s been doing.

It would be a complete clusterf**k for you. You’ll go bananas.

Saying no now and being the bad guy is so much better than agreeing to this life prison sentence arrangement and being miserable for the rest of someone’s life, yours or your MIL’s.