I think the problem lies in the term ‘paedophile’- with phile meaning attraction.
Thing is, rape and other sexual abuse isn’t about attraction, it’s about power and control.
When an adult is convicted of rape, nobody would try to argue that there is a ‘rapist’ sexual orientation. Attraction doesn’t even really come into it. It’s a violent act and is treated as such.
The same is true of child abusers. They are committing acts of violence. The term ‘paedophile’ muddies the waters because it brings desire into it. Whether or not they are attracted to the child is neither here nor there in terms of the crime they committed, as in the case of adult rapists.
Think about adults who like viewing rape pornography. Are they twisted individuals? Absolutely. Are they a different orientation? No. They are just sadistic. And the same thing applies to those who watch child ‘porn’, because that is all rape and abuse. It is just not a matter of orientation.
So to me this word ‘philia’ is a red herring.
Having a preference is not an orientation, and doesn’t give you the right to act on it. Being attracted to old people isn’t an orientation. Being attracted to short people, or brunettes isn’t an orientation. So attraction to children isn’t an orientation, and rape is a crime. End of story.