DH is not even remotely sorry. He said he made a judgemental call based on what he thought was right, not on how I felt, and he has had to go to work feeling that unwell before
It's one thing going to work feeling unwell.
It's quite another if your work is to keep another ill person alive whilst you also feel unwell.
He can do what he likes on his own behalf.
But he risked the wellbeing of your DC. Your baby.
Even if he couldn't put YOU first, he damn well should have put your baby first.
Instead he put some team meetings above all of you.
I hope your mum reads him the riot act.
If you cannot stand to rock your baby, you are unsafe to be in charge of that baby.
Being a SAHP means you can save the person at work A LOT of unwanted work interruptions and shitwork that comes with being a parent in FT employment. But you cannot avoid being ill sometimes, and when you are, you need his support.
I'd tell him on the back of it I was considering going back to work myself, whereupon all the childcare needs and interruptions would be shared 50-50, regardless of who earned most.
Arsehole.