Fucking NYE

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At my MIL's. 15 week old DS. I didn't want to come but DH and I compromised and agreed we wouldn't stay over. We packed stuff 'just in case'. Of course we stayed. DS utterly overwrought. House is full of noisy people. MIL convinced me to stay when I just wanted to go home. She assurer me it woykd be quiet. DS currently asleep in my arms. Stirs when I try to move him. I've managed an hours sleep so far. I've been awake since 4am yesterday. I am on my knees. DH just doesn't seem to get it.
I'm done. I've nothing left. I can't function on this little sleep.

So utterly fed up. Happy fucking new year.

I wouldn’t have survived the first year of all of my DC’s lives without co-sleeping . Try it out and don’t worry about leaking tits, it’s part of the parcel of BFing. I’ve always just put a Muslin over the other side if it bothered me too much but never really did when I was half asleep.

Just a word of advice, if you think you have an oversupply, don't express. It makes the leakiness far far worse as your body produces more milk.

If you have an abundant supply just leave them alone.

I went mad expressing the first time, I had so much it was easy and really bought into the concept of having a freezer full of milk. It just made the leakiness absolutely horrific, I was saturated.

With my 2nd I had loads but never gave a bottle of expressed milk cos I wanted my supply to be stable and comfortable. We gave the odd bottle of formula instead. It didn't affect my supply to go 4/5 hrs without feeding. (I mean, I wasn't comfortable but my supply didn't drop or anything)

So if you're leaking already be careful of expressing.

I dont leak - when he feeds it's like it runs out of his mouth. Everything gets soaked. I've had him checked for TT but apparently he isn't.

Who check for TT and was a lip tie checked for too? Does it happen in all feeding positions or just lying down?

All feeding positions

This might not help or make you feel better but even at 16 months if my dd is really upset or knows I am in the house she will only be consoled by me.

If my dh is on his own she is fine with him. But especially in the early days only I could put her down or settle her.

It will get better . Take a few weeks to not make any commitments and just meet basic needs of the house. Go for short walks to get fresh air but mostly just try to rest even just watching alot of telly or reading a book while baby sleeps

That doesn't sound right. Do you have local breastfeeding groups or peer supporters who can suggest someone to check for TT, sometimes midwives aren't the best at diagnosing.

I went to our local breastfeeding support. Prob is because he is putting on weight and generally a happy wee monkey they aren't interested. But he pulls off and milk goes everywhere. I would soak a mattress lying down.

That's a shame that they weren't supportive. If he's pulling off and milk is going everywhere it sounds possibly like a fast let down or over supply, expressing may make the supply issue worse for a while. Fast lat down can be minimised by different positions. I used to make DS gag with my let down and now I don't really get them anymore. Kellymom is another good resource. One thing I was always told is never give up on a bad day. Hope things get better and you get a bit more sleep.

I also definitely agree with the advice to say what you need or want. I'm a nightmare for just saying stuff in frustration and expecting DP to guess what I want him to do. Being clear saves so many arguments, he wants to help but struggles to guess.