To murder DH and my in laws in pregnancy induced rage?

[MrsHughGrant]

I've got hyperemesis gravidium. I've had it for 7 weeks and I'm in hell. Been signed off work, I vomit from when I wake up until I go to sleep. I've been in and out of hospital. I'm on medication now but I'm still sick constantly and I'm so tired and I just have no energy.

DHs extended family all came over for 5 nights over Christmas, it was pre-arranged, Christmas and I battled through. I didn't stay in bed and mope I showered and put makeup on and tried to be a good host despite how awful I felt. Played with the kids, cooked for the adults etc. They left 2 days ago and I was so exhausted from the time they were here I slept for 14 hours, woke up just to eat (and spew) and then passed out again. Today I am still completely exhausted, the house is a shit hole, I've thrown up five times and I just feel like crap so I said to DH I'm not going to make it to your mums later feeling like this, but go without me obviously and have fun.

The fucker turns around and says "they're coming here remember?" I thought he was joking but nope, got 5 adults and 5 children all coming back at 3 for the next 2 nights. He has not told me this. I know exactly why he hasn't told me this as I'd say no and now I don't know what to do. He's said can't I just do what I did the other day and power through and get the house sorted. I'm just lying in bed crying now I feel so peopled out I just can't do it. I just want to sleep. I just can't think of another option other than murder.

I would shift myself to a hotel for 2 nights and leave him to it. Who is so self-centred they even think of expecting someone with HG to host! This especially applies to your husband, don't 'power through' just rest and get some sleep. I had severe morning sickness and my husband would never had agreed to guests.

I know it isn’t always easy to just leave your own home but is there anywhere you can go to get away from these selfish fuckers?

Is there anyone from your family you can call and stay with? Sympathies, OP.

It's very unfair and inconsiderate of him to put you in this situation.

What a bizarre combo of misunderstanding, insensitivity and selfishness! I mean your DH and his family, of course. Your MIL should have consulted you not just taken her son's opinion as gospel. You were obviously way too capable over Xmas so they think you're up to doing more hosting so it's time to be clear; don't lift a finger!

How far have they travelled? Surely it could be a day visit now and they could go home later or are they insisting on drinking so can't drive back?

So what, they're all grown ups and plenty adults about to clean up. Tell him he needs to come home.

Stay in bed.

Ignore, they can tidy, cook, & do whatever they wish, then leave

Why the fuck would you power through? .

Get everyone to muck in, take to your bed and try to get some sleep.

What a shower of cunts OP. I’m furious on your behalf. I’d probably go downstairs and scream at them all to fuck off, but staying in your bed is probably the better option

I’m very angry on your behalf! How inconsiderate of them all. Are they a bit thick? And WTF are they doing just letting themselves into your house?! Is that normal?

Your DH is a fuckwit, to put it mildly. Next time he has norovirus, arrange a massive family party and tell him to get up and clean the house.

In the meantime, don’t you DARE get out of bed or lift a single finger.

In fact I would probably get up and ask them to leave.

Are they all totally thick? It seems so.

They think that HG is just ordinary pregnancy sickness perhaps, but it certainly isn't. I didn't have it, but came across a couple of women who did and they were extremely poorly.

I'd be telling him that he definitely WILL be going to his mother's, with both the food he has bought and the children. You need as much rest as you can get right now. I get why you pushed on through Christmas because of your children, but you really can't do that again now.

Poor you. I had the same. Both pregnancies,
Let them come then when you feel the need to throw up don’t hold back and let an “accident:” happen in front of them and more importantly husband, collapse and go to bed F... the lot of them

XX hugs. but it does mean that you are carrying a very strong healthy baby x

Tell them to leave. Go down in your dressing gown. Say you have been vomiting continually for days. You are weak and you need your house to yourself. It is up to them to find somewhere else to host their social life. They all have homes. They can choose which one to descend on.

Call him, he needs to get his arse home now. Do not go down and go into host mode your DH will come back and think you're fine to do it after all.

Ignore them all. Your dh is a shithead by the way. Who in their right mind thinks this is ok? Even without the pregnancy and HG

Stay in bed. If possible lock your bedroom door and tell your dh if he doesn’t get back now you’re going downstairs and throwing up over everyone

Ps do you normally allow dogs in your house? I’d be miffed if this wasn’t prearranged

Jesus. Literally no one would convict you, plenty would even help I think. I'd be on the phone to dh 'you need to get home now. People are here and I am absolutely not getting out of bed to them. Sort it or don't come back at all.' He has been vvvvvv inconsiderate.

Why do they all keep hanging round after a 5 day stay it’s weird. Extended family stayed with my sister 3 nights over Christmas itself we all pushed off first thing day 4 then hosts had done enough and they entirely able bodied with older kids. Would fly to the moon rather than all rock up there again so they have to host all over again! Do they not have their own houses? Haven’t they had enough of each other?

Poor thing. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Your husband's being an idiot.

Barricade yourself in your bedroom. Get whatever you need, whatever you fancy (books, TV, computer, whatever), and don't come out.

If the house is a tip, so be it. If your relatives get miffed because you don't make an appearance, let them be. YOU FUCKING HAVE HG, which must be one of the most horrible things possible (I feel terrible when I vomit, I can't imagine what weeks of it must be like).

Try to make yourself as comfortable as possible, and completely forget about anything else. Your husband set up this mess, he can deal with it.

Unbelievable! Hes got some serious grovelling to do. Hope you feel better soon

@Topseyt No matter how many times I've said the words HG they all refer to it as morning sickness. None of them had any sickness really in their pregnancies and I keep getting the feeling everyone thinks I'm over reacting. Wish they could feel this way for an hour they wouldn't be calling it morning sickness then

Seriously, stay put and let them get on with it. Don't martyr yourself again, they'll think you were just exaggerating about things. Don't worry about the house, if they are kind and normal people they will clear up for you and all pitch in to cook and wash up. Do not give in to coaxing to soldier on etc etc.

No no no! Ok so he needs to sort the house, you need to go to bed. This is your health you're talking about here. While the guests are here you need to stay in bed and be looked after. He can tell them the truth- you aren't well. OP please don't force your way through this.

Stay in bed love

No matter how many times I've said the words HG they all refer to it as morning sickness. None of them had any sickness really in their pregnancies and I keep getting the feeling everyone thinks I'm over reacting. Wish they could feel this way for an hour they wouldn't be calling it morning sickness then

So they are thick then.

But surely your DH has seen firsthand how poorly you are? I can’t belueve he’s being such a disloyal cunt. He’s the one I’d be most disappointed with. He’s not thinking of you or the baby at all.