To murder DH and my in laws in pregnancy induced rage?

[MrsHughGrant]

I've got hyperemesis gravidium. I've had it for 7 weeks and I'm in hell. Been signed off work, I vomit from when I wake up until I go to sleep. I've been in and out of hospital. I'm on medication now but I'm still sick constantly and I'm so tired and I just have no energy.

DHs extended family all came over for 5 nights over Christmas, it was pre-arranged, Christmas and I battled through. I didn't stay in bed and mope I showered and put makeup on and tried to be a good host despite how awful I felt. Played with the kids, cooked for the adults etc. They left 2 days ago and I was so exhausted from the time they were here I slept for 14 hours, woke up just to eat (and spew) and then passed out again. Today I am still completely exhausted, the house is a shit hole, I've thrown up five times and I just feel like crap so I said to DH I'm not going to make it to your mums later feeling like this, but go without me obviously and have fun.

The fucker turns around and says "they're coming here remember?" I thought he was joking but nope, got 5 adults and 5 children all coming back at 3 for the next 2 nights. He has not told me this. I know exactly why he hasn't told me this as I'd say no and now I don't know what to do. He's said can't I just do what I did the other day and power through and get the house sorted. I'm just lying in bed crying now I feel so peopled out I just can't do it. I just want to sleep. I just can't think of another option other than murder.

I took cyclizine a long time ago and the only effect it had on me was to knock me out but it was so nice just being able to keep down a few sips of icy cold water or move about without vomiting.

I took cyclizine for HG too but didn’t have problems with it.

Guess you've spoken to the doctor about it? If it's a recognised side-effect, and you used to have them anyway, might be better to try something different.

I was on cyclizine and it made me feel spaced out and slightly less sick. There's others you can try if it doesn't suit you but it's one of the 'safer' ones.

It's stopped the sick but I feel really off, very hot flushy, anxious and sleepy all day but wide awake all night. Yes was told it's one of the safer ones and I'm too scared to take anything else after years of infertility treatment and miscarriage I just don't want to do anything to risk this baby. Really thought being pregnant after so long wanting it and going through hell to get here that I'd be happy but god it's not what I thought. When does it get better

Sorry that was a bit depressing but my mental health has gone to shit these last few weeks. DH just doesn't understand how I feel and I haven't got anybody else up here to support me and I could just scream!! My closest friend gave birth 5 months ago and sold me a dream on how amazing pregnancy is... lies!

You poor thing is there anyone other than your DH who could visit you or phone for a chat (if you’re up to it)?

I'm so sorry sweetie you really have been through the wringer! I'd speak to the doctor about your symptoms as there are other safe options you can try. The hormonal changes with IVF and pregnancy (pre and post baby) can really affect your mental health and your moods.

@MrsHughGrant - maybe your friend 's pregnancy was a dream. None of mine were. I wanted to slap any pg friend saying they'd never felt sexier whilst I was in & out of hospital and felt so desperately rough... I survived their pregnancies, no bloom! ...
BUT mine were a dream as really healthy babies once out.. I think it all evens out in the end. (And my eldest two are now terrific teenagers & youngest is amazing, all worth it)

I hope you get through the days and that the HG eases off at some point x

I wouldn't have cyclizine again if my life depended on it. 24 hrs of bloody hallucinations (literally). So the panic attack might be related. However you have been through a lot and feel unsupported so it may be to do with that.
So so sorry you are going through this. I had 3 difficult pregnancies & 3 horrendous births ... now I have 3 amazing children. Hang in there and hand DH his arse on a plate. 💐

My blood is boiling for you OP
I can't get over how bloody inconsiderate everyone has been. I do hope you feel better soon

Glad dh is by your side.
Pregnancy can be tough, so tough.
I also had history of miscarriage, and understand that ‘this is all I wanted. And I hate it’.
Focus on today, get through.
Then tomorrow.
Please talk to your midwife about your mental health- there is help out there. Hang in there- I’m 2 years on. Still not contemplating doing it again, but not having nightmares.
Hope you have a peaceful night.

Support here from people who have had HG

https://www.instagram.com/p/BsLwlbMFzuT/?utmsource=iggsharesheet&igshid=kamgdqlfg8uj

His family, he can sort it. I’d stay in bed for the weekend, or go to a hotel.

I can’t comment on the H.G. but I have been given cyclizine for severe sickness as I have a serious heart condition and it caused my heart rate to go up to 170 bpm in about two minutes. I now have notes on my file that I cannot take it. I was in hospital at the time and the nurses were doing the handover so I was there googling the side effects as my heart rate ratcheted upwards. .

Claudia RTFT OPs in hospital!

@MrsHughGrant there's a lovely HG support group/thread on MN. Hugely supportive in both my pregnancies.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3448033-Hyperemesis-Support

I second the Mumsnet HG thread, it kept me sane. Although I felt no one can ever understand it like someone who has experienced it. Pregnancy Sickness Support are a great charity to have someone listen to your concerns especially about medication. Perhaps local peer support would also help from someone who has been through it? They offer that too. I'm also happy for you to PM me if you want to rant.

Please don't worry about medication too much, you will worry yourself silly and I hope my last post didn't make you do that more. I was on ondansetron for the majority of my pregnancy and it worried me endlessly. My GP took me off of it in the third trimester as she felt it was a crucial stage and thankfully my consultant I was under was furious and put it in plain terms, your baby will always take what it needs from you first but the problem is, you have to weigh up what is safer for you and your situation. If you are dehydrated, barely clinging on and in hospital, that medication may be a very small risk but so is the situation you are in whilst in and out of hospital.

Could you ask to speak to a consultant/specialist to put your mind at ease if not?