To murder DH and my in laws in pregnancy induced rage?

[MrsHughGrant]

I've got hyperemesis gravidium. I've had it for 7 weeks and I'm in hell. Been signed off work, I vomit from when I wake up until I go to sleep. I've been in and out of hospital. I'm on medication now but I'm still sick constantly and I'm so tired and I just have no energy.

DHs extended family all came over for 5 nights over Christmas, it was pre-arranged, Christmas and I battled through. I didn't stay in bed and mope I showered and put makeup on and tried to be a good host despite how awful I felt. Played with the kids, cooked for the adults etc. They left 2 days ago and I was so exhausted from the time they were here I slept for 14 hours, woke up just to eat (and spew) and then passed out again. Today I am still completely exhausted, the house is a shit hole, I've thrown up five times and I just feel like crap so I said to DH I'm not going to make it to your mums later feeling like this, but go without me obviously and have fun.

The fucker turns around and says "they're coming here remember?" I thought he was joking but nope, got 5 adults and 5 children all coming back at 3 for the next 2 nights. He has not told me this. I know exactly why he hasn't told me this as I'd say no and now I don't know what to do. He's said can't I just do what I did the other day and power through and get the house sorted. I'm just lying in bed crying now I feel so peopled out I just can't do it. I just want to sleep. I just can't think of another option other than murder.

But the Christmas hosting was her dh’s Extended family. So he can’t read into it that it’s his family that’s the problem.

I think you should stay in bed op. Just ridiculous to be expected to power through AGAIN and sort the house out. He can do it all or rearrange, go to another house, whatever. But it’s really important that you have the time to physically recover.

Why on earth is your DH under the impression that you should sort the house, rather than him?

Thanks all. I rang DH and said that if it's not too late to re-arrange I'd appreciate it and that I'm going to be in bed and won't be up to feeding everyone and bathing the kids again. He sounded quite sheepish as his mother has met him in town to do the food shop and was in the car with him and obviously heard what I said, heard her mutter something about me and then phone went dead. She text me then saying that they were under the impression I was aware because we'd discussed what to eat New Years over Christmas (we had but I thought it was at her house) and when she'd asked DH if I was ok he'd said yes she's fine she gets really sick in the car though so it's best for her not to travel. She said if it's ok they'll only stay for one night as they've already travelled up but not to worry about anything, her and DH will sort. Guess I'll have to cross her off my list of victims. That just leaves DH.... knob

I'm going to make an alternative suggestion. Get up, greet your guests. Then throw up all over your OH. Apologise profusely telling them it's the umpteenth time you've vomited today then go to bed.

This gets my vote

Leave buckets of sick strategically placed around the house.

joanmcc
Ha ha, spousal murder, how very twee. Ha ha

Most other people on the thread realised this was a joke. God forbid that anyone should say "I could murder a cup of tea".

Are you able to speak to your MiL? Surely she knows how you're suffering?

If you were my DiL I wouldn't be coming (I suffered myself so you have my every sympathy. I wouldn't have managed Christmas)

Your DH on the other hand, is a knob. Go to bed and stay there.

@countrygirl99 This is my new plan

Your MIL is a knob and so is your P.

Cross post.

At least she sounds reasonable.

YANBU

Get into your bed and leave him to it.

Stay in bed. Don't move. Let him sort out everything, be the soul of the party, the entertainment, the cook, the waiter, the cleaner, the kids entertainer.
What a bloody twat. It's not fair on you and your baby.

How far have they traveled?

Yes. Go to bed and stay there. You are not a waitress or a chef or a mug.

God forbid that anyone should say "I could murder a cup of tea".

Maybe some day you'll be able to distinguish between people and inanimate objects.

Right so MIL gets it. DH is getting it.

Crucial point here is to leave them to it. They've said they will so let them.

What kind of lunatics leave after a 5 day stay and accept an invitation back 2 days later for 2 days?

Just who is that thick?

Anyway, you're mad OP. It'd be a no from me and he'd be left in no doubt at how badly he'd fucked up.

You can't relax in the same way when there are guests in your house, even if you're not looking after them.

They are really really selfish.

Poor you.

I am amazed that his family haven't cried odd to give you a rest and even more amazed that your DH is allowing it.

Def get a hotel. Alone.

Cried off*

He's not back from shopping yet and his bloody sister has just turned up with her son, his four year old and a fucking dog. I'm so pissed off. They let themselves in, just shouting hello. So make that an extra adult and dog than he'd even mentioned. I've just ignored them and stayed in bed and started bloody crying (hormones or pure frustration?) so now I can't go downstairs. Trying to make light of it but dh has been really fucking unfair here.

Jeez, some people! I wouldn't be lifting a finger to do a thing and I'd be holed up in my bedroom!
The cheek of some people! Your partner has got shit loads of grovelling to do

Her son (10) and his 4 year old cousin.. her 10 year old does not have a 4 year old.

Stay in bed OP, ring him up and cry down the phone at him about who's just arrived and tell him to get this arse home NOW.

And his aunts just rocked up. I'm not even dressed. I'm lying in bed with a sick bowl. The house is vile.

I second the public puking.

Do it before DH gets home. Auntie will help clean up then enjoy telling everyone how terribly ill you are. Result.