To murder DH and my in laws in pregnancy induced rage?

[MrsHughGrant]

I've got hyperemesis gravidium. I've had it for 7 weeks and I'm in hell. Been signed off work, I vomit from when I wake up until I go to sleep. I've been in and out of hospital. I'm on medication now but I'm still sick constantly and I'm so tired and I just have no energy.

DHs extended family all came over for 5 nights over Christmas, it was pre-arranged, Christmas and I battled through. I didn't stay in bed and mope I showered and put makeup on and tried to be a good host despite how awful I felt. Played with the kids, cooked for the adults etc. They left 2 days ago and I was so exhausted from the time they were here I slept for 14 hours, woke up just to eat (and spew) and then passed out again. Today I am still completely exhausted, the house is a shit hole, I've thrown up five times and I just feel like crap so I said to DH I'm not going to make it to your mums later feeling like this, but go without me obviously and have fun.

The fucker turns around and says "they're coming here remember?" I thought he was joking but nope, got 5 adults and 5 children all coming back at 3 for the next 2 nights. He has not told me this. I know exactly why he hasn't told me this as I'd say no and now I don't know what to do. He's said can't I just do what I did the other day and power through and get the house sorted. I'm just lying in bed crying now I feel so peopled out I just can't do it. I just want to sleep. I just can't think of another option other than murder.

Hope you had a restful time, OP, and are feeling a little better.

You need to have a serious chat with your DH about the future!

You just take to your bed and let him get on with it. No drama. He's a grown up. He can do it.

Your DH is a selfish arse with no empathy. Thank god your nice SIL has a brain!

HG is a life threatening condition and absolutely horrific. Your husband and his family are ignorant and callous. Take to your bed and make sure you get checked regular for ketones in your urine from the dehydration. Regular drips in hospital will probably be necessary. Best of luck xx

I can't believe your husband and his family have been such assholes in this situation. Are you ok? Do you think you're holding down enough fluids and nutrition?

I don't have the words to say how angry I am on your behalf. Hope you got some rest and today is a better day.

Hope you're ok OP. When did he get back? (If he's back that is).

Hope you are feeling more rested today after some quiet. X

Agree with pp. Also we'll say you were on MN at the time of the murder

How are you now OP?

Aw glad your SIL helped you sort it out

Really bad today.. haven't been able to keep anything down all day. Every sip of water comes back. Dark dark wee. Guessing another trip to hospital is imminent.. thanks for all well wishes

Wow you are so NBU. My lovely SIL is 22 weeks pregnant and I couldn't imagine a scenario where I rocked up to her house to stay for a week and didn't lift a finger. Obviously I wouldn't take over either butncertainly would be expecting to do the bulk of tidying/cleaning up so she could rest. Or at least making sure she was mot overdoing it as she wanted/needed help.

Thank goodness for your SIL.

I had horrible sickness from 3 weeks until 22 weeks, I still don't know how I managed to avoid being hospitalised as drinking made me pretty instantly sick, I must have managed to keep down just enough. The managing of it was exhausting as well, the constant weighing up of should I risk a drink now, if so what should I try, could I eat now, what would be safe to try... (and the "wow, you look amazing, how did you lose the baby weight" afterwards made me want to scream). DH would never have inflicted house guests on me for a day, let alone longer.

I hope you’re on the way to hospital. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but it sounds bloody awful.

You obviously need medical help as a matter of urgency.

Oh dear, I am sorry today has been so bad. If you have to go into hospital again then I hope they can sort you out quickly.

I hope too that DH takes you there without complaint, looks after the older children and is suitably mortified at his behaviour yesterday. I've every sympathy for you, and precious little for him.

Get yourself to hospital OP.

I had HG too. It was the worst time of my life. Just horrendous. Please get yourself checked over.

Oh OP I'm sorry todays especially hard. I had HG when I was pregnant , it was the absolute worst time of my life I hated every second of pregnancy due to it l. Think it's best to go up to hospital and get some fluids and anti sickness flushed through , it's not nice and I know it's only a temporary fix but that hour or so that you feel better will be worth it! All the best , you have my sympathy

Please go to the hospital if you're not already, it sounds like you're severely dehydrated which is no good for either of you.

Poor you, what a horrendous situation. Can’t believe that everyone isn’t rallying round and supporting you.

I think your DH needs to come home ASAP and look after you if you haven’t already gone to hospital. He should be driving you there and keeping and eye on you.

I know why you pushed through Christmas but the problem is when you pretend not to feel as bad as you do people don’t realise how ill you are. You really have to prioritise yourself and your baby now.

Can you call an ambulance OP? Hope you are ok.

Definitely go back to hospital. Do you have anyone that can help you? You shouldn’t be alone.

Please go to hospital if your urine is very dark. Have you just been retching up orange bile all day? Call an ambulance if you've got nobody to take you. When I had HG (both pregnancies) the ward I kept being admitted to, for hydration, told me to just turn up and not bother with A&E. Ask them if you could adopt this approach. They tested me for ketones in urine on arrival and then hooked me up to a drip.