Friends that don't understand you're not as well off!

[Szechan]

My DD and her best mate are very close. Her mum and I have also became close over the years, often socialise without DC etc. She and her DH both have high paying jobs, I'm on a decent-ish wage BUT I'm a single parent and it's more of a struggle. I've committed myself to become debt free over the next 2 years.

She DOES NOT understand that sometimes people do not have much disposable income. She'll suggest trips at last minute, in front of our DD, which I'll either feel obliged to go on as to not disappoint them both, or simply disappoint them. Latest one is a text I've received "you're gonna love me, found a log cabin for long weekend in March, only 300 each!" Then I have to feel bad explaining on top of sustenance for the weekend, I simply do not have the money to pay for this!! Then I get texts "go onnnn, you only live once!"!!

I genuinely do feel like she does not understand that I would actually have to NOT pay my bills or mortgage that month to agree to this. She is lively in every other way. How do people get so detached from reality sometimes that they think like this?? I am a single mother who has to pay everything for my DD!!

Arghhhhh. Just needed a rant really

My SIL doesn’t seem to understand that as my income is approximately one fifth of her and my brother’s combined income (if that), I can’t afford to go on holiday using the same (v nice but v expensive) holiday company they use, or visit the same destinations. Neither does she get that I couldn’t possibly move from my beautiful but inexpensive location to be nearer them and other family members in an affluent area in a large city (I’d consider it if I could afford it).
I’m fond of her but this trait is annoying.

Make her feel guilty - just send a very bald and sparse message saying "The firm I work for has gone bust this week - sympathy would be much appreciated."

Just do it for devilment!