"If you are on a decent wage it’s unusually not to have £300 a month disposable income. Try explaining to her why you don’t, are you paying of debts with your DI?" You're as ignorant as the woman being discussed!
Have to agree with a pp who said those that have never been Lp will never really get it!
Same seems to go for those who've never been on a low income!
"Well a low earring single parent no, but the op says she is on a decent wage."
Wow! STILL willingly not getting it!
As a Lp you're usually dealing with outgoings very similar to a coupled family - but with only one income! Eg paying 75% council tax rather than 50% if you were in a couple (that's WITH the single person discount - why is that only 25%?!) most Lp are still living in a home that could also accommodate a partner with accompanying bills. Even IF you get maintenance from the child's/children's father it's usually nowhere near 50% of the costs of raising that child so the resident parent has the bulk of those costs too. Don't even get us started on holidays!!
Op she's being COMPLETELY out of order guilt tripping you via a CHILD too - I'd be calling her out on that bullshit too! Some friend!
"Stop using my dd to try and guilt trip me into doing things I CANNOT AFFORD to suit you! It's petty, unfair and makes a CHILD unnecessarily feel even more that she's missing out on things, and do not comment on what I choose to spend MY MONEY on"
DO NOT detail your income and outgoings to her - she'll just say "do without X and then you can afford y" it's not her business your finances and she certainly doesn't need to be in a position where she can tell you how to spend your money!
"Then if she finds out I've had a night out I get texts from her "ooh must be flush now all of a sudden ay?"" Yea this piece of work is NOT a friend!!
She thinks she has a right to comment on how YOU spend YOUR money - fuck that!!
Tell her once and once only and if she pulls that shit again cut her off cold!
In my friendship group from high school age there are 2 who are from EXTREMELY wealthy families (in one case landed gentry) - they have never and would never behave like this. They're close friends with another 2 in same group who are in a much lower income bracket. The 4 families as groups of 2 (hope that makes sense it's how the friendships work) do day trips and holidays together but while the wealthier ones do the st Kitts, Seychelles, St Barths thing when it's just their families they also have enjoyed camping trips, caravan holidays even butlins once! And they never make disparaging remarks either! One of the "poorer" friends is also a lone parent and she is not one to hold back - if the "richer" friend acted like yours is doing she'd be put in her place in no uncertain terms!!
It's also a really appallingly lacking in class way to behave! It's tacky as fuck!