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Fucking bitches

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
brandybutterrr · 30/12/2018 12:17

What a bunch of assholes. You handled it brilliantly. Fuck them.

Thanks
thisisjustdaft · 30/12/2018 12:17

Oh dear god, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. That's truly appalling Sad

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SauvignonBlanche · 30/12/2018 12:17

That’s terrible Shock were they all drunk?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 30/12/2018 12:17

I'm beyond shocked that anyone could think it was ok to do what your so-called "friend" did to you. I don't at all blame you for reacting the way you did - it's unforgivable for them to have a) broken your trust and b) quizzed you about something so deeply personal and traumatic as though it's the latest bit of gossip or something! ShockAngry

Have any of them tried to contact you or come and see you today? I know you say you've blocked them on everything so I assume their only option would be to actually visit you in person - have they done so?

Mind you, even if they did, they deserve nothing from you.

(((((hugs)))) for you - utter wankers, they are.

MamaLovesMango · 30/12/2018 12:18

What a bunch of cunts!!!!

The way you’ve dealt with this is great OP. The best revenge you could ever have is by moving on and having a full life full of new friends that are worthy of you.

PumpkinPie2016 · 30/12/2018 12:18

Just awful - so sorry OP SadFlowers

Bad enough that she told other people something so traumatic but to then joke about it is just vile Sad

It's no wonder some people don't tell anyone about sexual abuse Sad

Clutterbugsmum · 30/12/2018 12:19

I hope you are ok today OP.

I really hope they do not come back to you if their belongings have gone missing after you dumped them on the side of the road.

CatnissEverdene · 30/12/2018 12:20

I'm literally dumb struck that ANYONE let alone someone you call a friend could say something so utterly appalling. It's that bad.

You are worth and deserve more Flowers

pinkyredrose · 30/12/2018 12:20

What horrible specimens they are. Well done on blocking them OP. You sound awesome, New Year new start!

LoniceraJaponica · 30/12/2018 12:21

What a truly awful thing to say to someone. I hope they get what they deserve.

Have you got someone in real life you can talk to about what happened last night?

BlimeyCalmDown · 30/12/2018 12:21

Oh my fucking god, I can't believe this is real

Angelnanny555 · 30/12/2018 12:23

Drunk or not drunk, absolutely horrible and despicable, what nasty friends they have turned out to be.
Have you other friends? Thankfully there are more nice and kind people around for you💐

DistanceCall · 30/12/2018 12:23

FFS. Fucking bitches. Good riddance, OP.

As someone who basically has a life now because of her therapist, I cannot recommend therapy enough. I know you (understandably) don't trust anyone, but that's no way to live. A good, certified therapist would never, ever breach your trust.

Lokisglowstickofdestiny · 30/12/2018 12:24

Sod them! I think you were quite restrained to leave their belongings on the kerb, I would have slung them into a hedge or the middle of the road.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 30/12/2018 12:24

That's shocking.

I'm so sorry.

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cstaff · 30/12/2018 12:24

Jeez what is wrong with these so called friends. That is horrendous behaviour from anyone.

Tistheseason17 · 30/12/2018 12:24

Firstly, their behaviour was appalling and I totally support your actions.

Not excusing their behaviour (there is NO excuse) but were they drunk as you were driving?

Is it possible there is one cunt who told everyone and then drunken others who behaved appallingly due to alcohol?

I am only asking as you have known all of these 4 friends for such a long time and I would hope that at least one of them realises how appalling their behaviour was.

All of your reactions were in proportion to what they did.

FWIW, not all people are vile. I have experienced CSA and found people have confided in me about their experiences, I would never repeat what they said. There are plenty of people like me out there who would be a good, supportive friend to you. Don't lose faith in people - most people are awesome.

certainlymerry · 30/12/2018 12:24

Oh my God, that is beyond appalling. I am not surprised you blocked them. Never speak to any of them again. What a gross betrayal of trust.

NotACleverName · 30/12/2018 12:24

Please don't call these women cunts. They lack the warmth and depth of one.

I sincerely hope your former friends spend the rest of their lives stepping on upturned plugs in bare feet, OP. What kind of gutless person thinks that that is an acceptable thing to say someone?

Mummylife2018 · 30/12/2018 12:24

Sounds like they don't believe you :(

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 12:25

I've had a text from a couple of their adult children asking why their mum is so upset.

I've responded with
"I hope you've had a good Christmas and will have good new year!
I have no answer as to why she's upset, I'm sure she's told you I wasn't with them for long"

Took me ages to formulate!
I don't want to upset the kids (all late teens, early twenties) but they should face something or was it too harsh?

OP posts:
Merename · 30/12/2018 12:26

Wow, so sorry Linda. I’m aware through my work that for many people disclosing abuse and getting a poor reaction is worse than not disclosing at all. This is just unbelievable as others have said and so hard to understand how anyone could behave like this. Hope you are looking after yourself and doing whatever helps you feel ok Flowers

Mulberry72 · 30/12/2018 12:26

I don’t use this word very often Linda but these women are absolute cunts!!

Paedophile fodder?!? That’s absolutely vile.

You deserve far, far better from people who are “meant” to be friends. I’m furious on your behalf.

There would be no way back from this for me I’m afraid, no way ever.

They’ve shown you their true colours, and you have to believe them.

Sending you love, light and strength xxx

pineapplebryanbrown · 30/12/2018 12:26

Well, me too and other peoples' attitudes was actually worse than what happened. The passage of time (and putting the fucker in jail) is the only thing that helped.

FoxFoxSierra · 30/12/2018 12:27

Fucking bitches indeed. So sorry op, I hope you are ok Thanks

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