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Fucking bitches

616 replies

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

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Chapterandverse · 30/12/2018 12:27

I would tell them you had trusted her wirh personal info and she shared it.

I am gutted for you, having been through similar in childhood. I'm glad they're dead.

Nanny0gg · 30/12/2018 12:27

Not in the least harsh.

Their mother is clearly too ashamed to explain (as she bloody well should be)

I have never heard anything so appalling. However tactless you might be, how could something like that come out of someone's mouth?

You handled it with dignity OP. I don't think I would have done.

Ninetyfive · 30/12/2018 12:28

A friend of mine told me that her ex sister in law was sexually abused as a child. She's meant to be best friends with this woman. NOT her story to tell.
Horrible witch.
We are no longer friends.

You've done the right thing! Well done you

Chapterandverse · 30/12/2018 12:28

Don't call them cunts. Cunts are useful.

GlitterStick · 30/12/2018 12:28

My mouth actually Shock then. Literally.
Just... wow.
Fucking bitch is tame, jeez! Anyone laughing if they were too.
Although maybe it was nervous laughter? I'd probably do a shocked one as a WTF! (towards bitch, not you). I'd certainly be questioning HER though, not you!
Block, block, block, stay the hell away. That ain't no friend.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 30/12/2018 12:28

You are a better person than I. I would have sent the 'kids' a link to this thread, showing them what their 'upset mum' is actually like. Vile and cruel, a minimiser of a friend's abuse.

tinydancer88 · 30/12/2018 12:28

I think your response is classy OP. I'd leave the kids out of it, they can take it up with their mum if they want to. I wouldn't allow it to take up any more of your time.

Merename · 30/12/2018 12:29

Cross post. Why their mum is so upset? Jesus! Because she behaved appallingly. Your answer isn’t harsh, you’re right you can’t answer for them, and unlike your friend you are not sharing information beyond where you feel it is appropriate.

DistanceCall · 30/12/2018 12:30

Your answer to her children was very good, OP.

If they want to know, let her mother explain. You don't have to cover for her. You don't owe her fucking anything. Bitch.

LakieLady · 30/12/2018 12:30

Holy shit, I've heard of some crass nastiness in my time, but that takes the biscuit. Wtf were they thinking?

You don't need arseholes like that in your life, OP, and they don't deserve decent friends. Flowers

Petalflowers · 30/12/2018 12:30

Clutching at straws, did anyone react sympathetically and not join in with the hysteria. If so, can you still be friends with that person?

Hope you are okay.

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 12:30

Just wanted to say 💐💐💐💐 to all of you who've been through csa or are even decent enough to believe and supporting someone who has.

I no longer feel like I'm in the minority!

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MrsScamander · 30/12/2018 12:31

I'm so sorry OP, that is hideous.

I hope you're ok Thanks

Groovee · 30/12/2018 12:32

So sorry Linda. What a horrible distressing experience for you.

As for the adult children, I bet they won't get the truth from their mother.

Dimsumlosesum · 30/12/2018 12:32

That was truly fucking evil of them. Nasty, nasty horrid little bitches.

ohreallyohreallyoh · 30/12/2018 12:32

I would tell the adult child the truth. Your mum is aware I was abused as a child. Last night she called me paedophile fodder. And then I would block the child as well. Honestly, you sound so strong and incredibly brave. Tell what happened. It isn’t you that has anything to be ashamed of.

persist · 30/12/2018 12:32

Beyond hideous.

I think you handled it fucking amazingly, OP. Thanks

halfwitpicker · 30/12/2018 12:33

Good riddance.

VictoriaBun · 30/12/2018 12:33

No you are right, they don't deserve you. The one you told is the real ( insert expletives ) nasty of the bunch. I'd like to think the other ones would drop her and apologise to you . But you certainly don't need her in your life.Flowers

Blessthekids · 30/12/2018 12:34

Fucking bastarding cunting twats

Never has this applied more to a group of women. I am flabbergasted and I am so sorry that you had to experience such shit behaviour. You are well rid of such nasty people.

I hope at least they have woken up this morning and are ashamed of themselves as well they should be.

OP for you Flowers

LagunaBubbles · 30/12/2018 12:34

What an awful experience for you OP. Its horrible when someone we think we know betrays us. Did all of them laugh?

Dollymixture22 · 30/12/2018 12:35

Your text was perfect. Well done. Their mothers can explain that they made horrible cruel jokes about such a horrendous issue.

Never let these heartless people into your life again.

BellMcEnd · 30/12/2018 12:35

One of my closest friends was horrifically abused as a child. I can not believe they did this to you. What kind of people think this is an ok way to behave? Great thinking with the food bank. If anymore of their children get in touch tell them to ask their mums what the problem is.

How are you feeling today, Linda? Brew

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 12:36

Luckily, my baby boy is home and has brought some fellas with him (Royal Navy) and they've all hugged me a bit too tight and closed ranks.

(My son knows but the others don't but that doesn't stop them supporting)

Any knocks on my door or calls on my landline will be met with military precision.

Love my lads

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thebaronetofcockburn · 30/12/2018 12:36

You've been very restrained. I'd have told the adult child, 'She's upset because she laughed at the sexual abuse I suffered as a child and I called her out on it.'