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Fucking bitches

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
TSSDNCOP · 30/12/2018 11:58

They don’t and I think what they did was disgusting.

You, on the other hand are a kick-ass warrior when it comes to decisive action. Well done in spades. The good bank was a very elegant touch.

TSSDNCOP · 30/12/2018 11:58

Food bank

Pachyderm1 · 30/12/2018 11:58

That is truly awful, I am so sorry. And even though I don’t know you I’m really proud of you for asserting your boundaries in such a powerful way. You deserve better friends than this, and I wish you all the best.

vampirethriller · 30/12/2018 11:59

What a bunch of cunts. I'm sorry.

BathshebaAndGabriel · 30/12/2018 11:59

Rarely am I speechless.
You must feel very betrayed.

Hope you are ok.

MsMiaWallace · 30/12/2018 11:59

She's a cunt of the highest order!

Lana1234 · 30/12/2018 12:00

Oh my god, this is just awful. I am sorry they betrayed your trust like that. I think you handled it incredibly well btw and they should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves. I’m so livid at this Angry

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 30/12/2018 12:00

So sorry, OP. What evil, ignorant fuckers. I hope 2019 brings you better friends. You’re worth a million of them.

Missingstreetlife · 30/12/2018 12:00

Glad your self esteem is intact. You are awesome.

Abra1de · 30/12/2018 12:00

That’s awful!

ItsClemFandangoCanYouHearMe · 30/12/2018 12:01

That is truly awful. For you Thanks as I have no words.

LindaLa · 30/12/2018 12:01

A pp asked if I'd dealt with the abuse.

All Dead and burning somewhere.

Karma.

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Santaisfastasleepatlast · 30/12/2018 12:01

Well done for taking back control. Glad you reacted the way you did getting out of there and dumping their stuff - they do not deserve you at all.
Proper fucking bitches indeed.

bevelino · 30/12/2018 12:02

@LindaLa, it is likely that at least one of those women will recognise the details in your post and will contact you to apologise; and hold their head down in shame.

FabulouslyFab · 30/12/2018 12:03

You are exactly right - they don’t deserve you!
Today is a new day and you are strong - you showed that by the way you handled last night. Angry is good!
Every best wish Flowers

WeeBean · 30/12/2018 12:03

That is horrific!! I hope you're ok, I would have done the exact same thing!

I'm pretty sure there are laws about annoynimity in cases like that and she broke that. There was a rape case here recently where a member of the jury revealed the name of the victim and they're now being prosecuted. Now only is she a really really shit friend but it's potentially quite a serious matter, friends or not.

tiny2278 · 30/12/2018 12:04

That's vile OP. You're far better off without disgusting people like that. Hugs for you.

TaighNamGastaOrt · 30/12/2018 12:04

Aww OP, like you i suffered childhood sexual abuse. That is a disgusting thing to say. From your so called friends? fuck that. fuck them. you did the right thing.
If it helps (not sure much will help now), a couple of years ago my dad did exactly the same thing. He made a totally inappropriate comment about the abuse-along similar lines. A horrific 'joke'. I was so hurt, eventually forgave him. I never mentioned it to him (for fucks sake its obvious the abuse destroyed my life-I still dress to hide from men).
I only forgave him as he is elderly and gets confused-I remember how devastated he was when the abuse happened.
But fuck, did it hurt. brought back shit I've spent time in counselling sorting out.
Flowers for you OP, I hope you're ok?

Beerincomechampagnetastes · 30/12/2018 12:05

I’m very proud of you op for dealing with this the way you did.
Shows good boundaries and an element of self protection that not all survivors can muster.
Fuck them.
You are so much better than they are.
Do not waste 1 more second on it.
Flowers

Armchairanarchist · 30/12/2018 12:05

I think you were calm just to dump their stuff on the kerb. This was a terrible betrayal and the one who said that beggars belief. Don't let them gas light you over what they did it was horrible.

SpikyHedgehogg · 30/12/2018 12:05

What a horrible experience with people you thought were your friends. When did this happen?

thelaststraw123 · 30/12/2018 12:06

You did amazingly for dealing with it the way you did.

Don't think I would have been quite so reserved.

Hope you're ok in yourself.

You don't need friends like that

CoughLaughFart · 30/12/2018 12:06

I wouldn’t describe someone I hated as ‘paedophile fodder’, never mind one of my friends! I almost think the bitches who laughed along with it rather than pulling her up on such behaviour are worse.

Let’s hope a cat pissed on their handbags.

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 30/12/2018 12:07

Fucking bastarding cunting twats.

Hope you find yourself some good new friends in 2019. You sound a lovely friend to have and your former crew aren't fit to lick your shoe soles Flowers

PawneeParksDept · 30/12/2018 12:07

Oh OP that's shocking disgusting behaviour who the fuck says that to someone

Thanks

A friend of mine saw her abuser go down last year for what he did to her as a child

No one but no one joked about it and all spoke about it with the appropriate level of respect, sympathy and outrage.

At least this person has shown you who they are

They were never a friend

They were never a good person