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Fucking bitches

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 11:39

Up until very recently (last night), I had a group of 4 very close friends.

I recently had an upset of a childhood (sexual) trauma that I've told no one about. One of my friends was here when this happened and I opened up to her, she was supportive and i felt great, lighter.

Last night we all meet for drinks and exchange gifts. We all exchange various supermarket vouchers and have done since our "babies" were babies.

She makes a comment about a paedofile arrest made near her and then says "surprised you don't know him Linda, you were paedofile fodder"
Other people laugh and start questioning me about what happened.

She has told them everything.

I being questioned in a bar. A crowded bar.

I have grabbed my things and left.

Took their things out of my car and left them on the kerb.
I have blocked them. Everywhere.

I have been to supermarkets and spent all the vouchers, put it all in the food bank.

Fuck them.

OP posts:
PulyaSochsup · 30/12/2018 12:07

Speechless! Except to say they are callous bitches and you deserve so much better. I'm really sorry that happened to you, it's actually secondary trauma. How utterly humiliating Sad

Flashingbeacon · 30/12/2018 12:07

I would also add it’s good to know where they stand. A cheap laugh is more important to them than respecting their friend. Now you know that you won’t gey caught out again.
Amazing that you have moved on from the trauma that’s no little thing.
If anyone asks why you no longer speak don’t you dare sugar coat it. 1 betrayed your confidence and the others thought it was hilarious.

brick10 · 30/12/2018 12:08

I’m so sorry OP, they’re not your friends. Disgusting behaviour. You deserve better.

elfies · 30/12/2018 12:08

Definitely blank the friend who made a joke of your horrendous story .
Did the others show no concern for you at all ...or had they been drinking at the time ?
It doesn't excuse their reaction, but may explain it

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 30/12/2018 12:08

Let’s hope a cat pissed on their handbags

Absofuckinglutely!

RaymondHolt · 30/12/2018 12:09
Thanks

You deserve better friends.

Hope 2019 is kinder to you. Stuff them!

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 30/12/2018 12:09

I like your style OP . Wonderful to give the whole lot to a Food Bank as well .

Yes, they are Fucking Bitches doing this to you and I won't pass comment on such a disgusting thing that was said to you

Holidayshopping · 30/12/2018 12:09

Very sad that all three of your closest friends who you presumably have a lot of trust and shared history with have all turned out to be bitches?

The woman who shared your secret was being awful, but did the others all appreciate the seriousness of the situation? It sounds like they didn’t-I wonder if they will be mortified today.

I can understand how upset you are, though I don’t think I’d have put anyone else’s possessions out on the kerb. Did they know you left the pub because you were upset?

Blueblueyellow · 30/12/2018 12:09

Shocked Op, and don't feel bad for leaving their stuff on the street. Disgusting way to treat you, horrible.well done for sticking up for yourself. They should be ashamed.

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LindaLa · 30/12/2018 12:09

This happened last night, which is why I wanted rid of the vouchers today.
Otherwise I might doubt myself!

Thank you all for supporting my back.
To get more support from strangers than from anyone real is making me cry. You're all cunts, I love you.

OP posts:
peridito · 30/12/2018 12:09

No words .

What dignity you have shown under pressure . I would have hurled the parcels in their faces ,hopefully knocking drinks over them as I did so .

Stormy76 · 30/12/2018 12:09

They were not your friends, that is unforgivable. I wouldn't feel bad for dumping their stuff, they went beyond too far with you. Remain NC with them because you do not need that in your life. What utter nasty bitches.

mumof2sarah · 30/12/2018 12:10

OP I'm so sorry I can't believe anyone would every say such a thing and laugh about it. That's awful. You did the right thing, I'd have probably tipped a drink over them at least x

SpikyHedgehogg · 30/12/2018 12:10

This happened last night, which is why I wanted rid of the vouchers today. Otherwise I might doubt myself!

Sorry, it was me who asked when it had happened, and you'd said quite clearly in your first post.

I would reconsider therapy, if you found the right therapy/therapist I think it could really help you.

SuchAToDo · 30/12/2018 12:10

What a nasty piece of work, continue to block the lot of them, they showed their true colours...what kind of people are they that think being abused by a paedophile is something to laugh about...what scum bags they are

Pinkyyy · 30/12/2018 12:11

New year and new friends for you OP! How disgusting of them. Don't waste another second of your time even thinking about them

ThePinkOcelot · 30/12/2018 12:11

Vile, poor excuses for human beings. I’m astounded.
Glad you’re feeling ok OP x

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 30/12/2018 12:12

Oh yes, we can be very supportive cunts on here Grin

IHaveBrilloHair · 30/12/2018 12:12

A friend of mine once told about about our mutual friend's Dd's abuse.
I was utterly horrified, dumped her and ghosted her for daring to share what was clearly a very confidential matter.
I never told the mutual friend I knew so of course I came across as the bitch, but I thought she'd be so upset to know that I knew too.

CoughLaughFart · 30/12/2018 12:13

Did they know you left the pub because you were upset?

They'd have to be pretty thick not to work it out.

NorthernKnickers · 30/12/2018 12:13

I have no words OP. I'm rarely speechless but this has left me reeling. That is utterly, utterly vile! I hope that the person who uttered those vile words is begging your forgiveness today. I can't even begin to imagine how one could formulate such a phrase, never mind say it out loud!! It is beyond foul!

Darkautumn · 30/12/2018 12:14

Jesus!! Shock my jaw literally dropped.

These women are not your friends.

Have any of them attempted to contact you to apologise??

Flowers
Mummyoflittledragon · 30/12/2018 12:14

Oh I’m so sorry. Are you sure they were all more interested in what she had to say than in your well being? I find it really hard to stomach that not one of them was concerned about you.

Why I’m asking is because laughing at what was initially perceived as a joke is learnt behaviour. Then a wtf, what do you mean moment happened, which is when you left I assume. I know you aren’t contactable electronically as you’ve blocked them. Has not one of them come to see you? I’m shocked.

thebaronetofcockburn · 30/12/2018 12:16

Wow, they are weapons grade arseholes! Keep 'em blocked. If counselling/therapy is not for you, I understand. I get told this a lot, too, for a different reason, but having tried it a few times with different people it's just not for me and I'm not going to waste time trying to 'find the right therapist', it's not for me.

They're disgusting.

Josiebloggs · 30/12/2018 12:16

Amazed you dealt with it so well. What disgusting vile people.